There are two ways to defend gay marriage. Argument A is empathy: One is influenced by gay friends in committed relationships yearning for the fulfillment and acceptance that marriage conveys upon heterosexuals. That’s essentially the case President Obama made when he first announced his change of views.
No talk about rights, just human fellow feeling. Such an argument is attractive because it can be compelling without being compulsory. Many people, feeling the weight of this longing among their gay friends, are willing to redefine marriage for the sake of simple human sympathy.
At the same time, however, one can sympathize with others who feel great trepidation at the radical transformation of the most fundamental of social institutions, one that, until yesterday, was heterosexual in all societies in all places at all times.
The empathy argument both encourages mutual respect in the debate and lends itself to a political program of gradualism. State by state, let community norms and moral sensibilities prevail. Indeed, that is Obama’s stated position.
Such pluralism allows for the kind of “stable settlement of the issue” that Ruth Bader Ginsburg once lamented had been “halted” by Roe v. Wade regarding abortion, an issue as morally charged and politically unbridgeable as gay marriage.
Argument B is more uncompromising: You have the right to marry anyone, regardless of gender. The right to “marriage equality” is today’s civil rights, voting rights and women’s rights — and just as inviolable.
Argument B has extremely powerful implications. First, if same-sex marriage is a right, then there is no possible justification for letting states decide for themselves. How can you countenance even one state outlawing a fundamental right? Indeed, half a century ago, states’ rights was the cry of those committed to continued segregation and discrimination.
Second, if marriage equality is a civil right, then denying it on the basis of (innately felt) sexual orientation is, like discrimination on the basis of skin color, simple bigotry. California’s Proposition 8 was overturned by a 9th Circuit panel on the grounds that the referendum, reaffirming marriage as between a man and woman, was nothing but an expression of bias — “serves no purpose … other than to lessen the status and human dignity of gays and lesbians.”
Pretty strong stuff. Which is why it was so surprising that Obama, after first advancing Argument A, went on five days later to adopt Argument B, calling gay marriage a great example of “expand(ing) rights” and today’s successor to civil rights, voting rights, women’s rights and workers’ rights.
Problem is: It’s a howling contradiction to leave up to the states an issue Obama now says is a right. And beyond being intellectually untenable, Obama’s embrace of the more hard-line “rights” argument compels him logically to see believers in traditional marriage as purveyors of bigotry.
Not a good place for a president to be in an evenly divided national debate that requires both sides to offer each other a modicum of respect.
No wonder Obama has been trying to get away from the issue as quickly as possible. It’s not just the New York Times poll showing his new position to be a net loser. It’s that he is too intelligent not to realize he has embraced a logical contradiction.
Moreover, there is the problem of the obvious cynicism of his conversion.
Two-thirds of Americans see his “evolution” as a matter not of principle but of politics. In fact, the change is not at all an evolution — a teleological term cleverly chosen to suggest movement toward a higher state of being — given that Obama came out for gay marriage 16 years ago. And then flip-flopped.
He was pro when running for the Illinois Legislature from ultra-liberal Hyde Park. He became anti when running eight years later for U.S. senator and had to appeal to a decidedly more conservative statewide constituency. And now he’s pro again.
When a Republican engages in such finger-to-the-wind political calculation (on abortion, for example), he’s condemned as a flip-flopper. When a liberal goes through a similar gyration, he’s said to have “evolved” into some more highly realized creature, deserving of a halo on the cover of a national newsmagazine.
Notwithstanding a comically fawning press, Obama knows he has boxed himself in. His “rights” argument compels him to nationalize same-sex marriage and sharpen hostility to proponents of traditional marriage — a place he is loath to go.
True, he was rushed into it by his loquacious vice president. But surely he could have thought this through.
Charles Krauthammer is a columnist for The Washington Post. Readers may contact him at letters@charleskrauthammer.com.
Nice piece. I for one am ashamed that the leader of this great nation would base his morals on the direction of the wind. He is clearly not fit for leadership.
He never had enough experience to grow a spine. He just wanted to reach the top as fast as possible.
Your opinion, not necessarily correct, however you are entitled to it.
There is nothing he could do to please people like you, so quit pretending like this makes a difference in terms of your opinion of him.
I love the mock indignation about “Republicans being called flip-floppers.” It is almost like Krauthammer doesn’t remember at all the Kerry campaign. Conservatives need to grow a spine and reap what they have sewn.
Like Republicans haven’t used gay people as a political issue before? At least with Obama it’s to the benefit.
It’s OK to use people’s bigotry against gay people to get elected, but not OK to use recognizing that they are people with families and rights like everybody else, to.
Republicans. Their own worst enemy. They had the chance to be leaders, to do the right thing, and blew it. It’s tragic, because we need strong parties and real leadership, not mongering, lies, and thinly veiled hate.
They sought to divide the nation with hate, and bet the farm on it. This strategy only wins so long as people are full of hate and are irrational.
Some of us have more faith in America than that.
Thank you, Charles Krauthammer, for agreeing that any way you slice it, same sex marriage for gays and lesbians is the right thing to do.
“Two-thirds of Americans see his “evolution” as a matter not of principle but of politics.”
As you have taken a matter of principle and turned it into something political?
I believe that Joe Biden was instructed to do so on the Sunday programs, so Obama could come out with his long time pro-homosexual/lesbian marriage closet stand that had so many peepholes he could no longer not be seen for who he is.
For Christians, Jews and Muslim this issue is non negotiable. It simply is a matter of what our God thinks and that is, it’s one of the four sins that cries out to heaven for vengeance. So we are commanded to not allow homosexual marriage.
That’s your interpretation of the scripture. I think God condemns rape, not love.