WATERVILLE, Maine — The mother of a 20-month-old girl who went missing from a Waterville home two weeks ago questioned whether her daughter was safe in the care of her father, less than a day after he released his own statement reiterating his innocence.
The conflict between the two estranged parents of Ayla Reynolds has been the subject of increasing public scrutiny in recent days with news about progress in the search becoming harder to come by.
On NBC’s “Today Show” on Thursday morning, Trista Reynolds, Ayla’s mother, told host Matt Lauer she was worried the girl wasn’t safe in the care of her father, Justin DiPietro.
“He would never let me see her,” she told Lauer. “I would call to talk to her, and he’d get mad about it. If I did see her and I noticed something on her like a bruise or something, instead of acting in a calm manner, he would lash out about it or go into defense.”
On Wednesday, DiPietro released his second public comments since he reported the girl missing the morning of Dec. 17. He told police he put Ayla to bed the previous night but found her crib empty before 9 a.m. when he went to check on her. That Ayla was wearing a soft cast on her right arm, due to what police have called an accidental fall, has been well publicized.
Ayla had been staying with DiPietro in Waterville since October, when Reynolds, who lives in the Portland area, checked herself into a 10-day rehabilitation program for substance abuse.
In a statement released through the Waterville Police Department on Wednesday, DiPietro said he “would never do anything to hurt my child.”
“The questions of Ayla’s arm or bruises or anything else being said are simply ludicrous,” he said. “I would never want anyone to spend even a minute in my shoes. No one should ever have to experience this. It has affected me in more ways than anyone can imagine.”
DiPietro added that he hasn’t granted interviews on the case because he doesn’t “want to in any way hinder the investigation” or fuel “additional media hype.”
But Reynolds, who has granted several television interviews in the weeks since her daughter went missing, told Lauer on Thursday she’s “in shock” over DiPietro’s Wednesday statement. She said the two parents have not been in contact since the search began, despite her efforts to reach out to DiPietro.
When asked if she believes DiPietro is involved in Ayla’s disappearance, Reynolds told Lauer, “Part of me feels ‘yes’ and part of me feels ‘no.’”
“He says he’s not in hiding, but why won’t he come out, why won’t he talk to me,” Reynolds, who filed with the state to reclaim parental rights the day before the girl’s disappearance, said on the NBC broadcast. “What is he so afraid of?”
She added: “He’s the only one who can answer some of my questions. Just talk to me. That’s all I want.”
Neither of the parents are reportedly suspects in the disappearance — although investigators recently did announce that they’ve ruled out the possibility that Ayla wandered away from the home on her own, leaving the case an abduction.
Police acknowledged Wednesday that they have been very selective in releasing information about the case, saying they do not want to compromise their investigation.
Since a privately funded $30,000 reward for information leading to Ayla’s safe return was offered Monday, police have said tips have poured in, with their overall total of leads nearing 400.
Anyone with information is asked to call Waterville police at 680-4700.
The Associated Press contributed to this story.
this is really fishy, and have thought so since day one. I just hope she is found, unharmed and taken care of. This is no life for a little child to be on the run and hidden away from the people that love her. Who ever has her, or knowledge of where she is NEEDS to let it be known. This child for one needs to be seen by a doctor even if its just to say she is healing fine…….
Who is old enough to remember the youngster who disappeared while camping with his Manchester parents in the Eustis area? It was never known whether he was eaten by a bear or kidnapped. If anyone remembers the details of this case, or can refer me to an article that has the facts, I would appreciate it. My guess is that this happened in the 1980s.
“From Yankee Magazine September 1979
Even now, four years later, Ron and Jill Newton will sometimes let their minds drift back and silently relive that Labor Day weekend, hour by hour, trying to snatch it all back and hold it still at 10:00 A.M. Sunday, August 31,1975. ”
Kurt Newton has not been found
why are you wondering this, Bill Randall?
Only because a co-worker was camping with the Newton’s at the time and I am doing research for my third book.
oh, okay! thought something might be related….
It happened in 1975. It was the biggest search in Maine history. The boy’s name was Kurt Newton. Here’s a link:
http://www.yankeemagazine.com/issues/2008-09/features/mysteries/vanished/all
Thank you.
Did anyone here hear her last comment…was the last one to see her “alive”….
I missed that! Wow. Makes you wonder, doesn’t it?
Her story has changed an awful lot from the beginning. I used to think that it was all on the father, but the fact that he is staying out of the media and not attacking Trista as she is him makes me wonder. I doubt that all the media that was released at first saying that child services interfened and gave Ayla to Justin is untrue. I find it funny that all of the sudden she “allowed” him to have her while she in rehab. And before she reported that she had not seen Ayla since she was placed with Justin. I also don’t like that she so pointedly said that Justin was the last person to see her alive. I woudl think a mother in this situation would keep all hope that her baby is alive and not even consider her not to be
Yeah, strange that it’s not very clear as to which it was, considering her and her family all seemed to be charging DHHS with abusing her rights by taking the child away and putting her in the custody of the father because “he knew someone there/they didnt like her family”.
“Just come talk to me. Just talk to me. That’s all I want.”
“We used to be able to get along all the time.”
“Talk to me. That’s all I want.”
she prob wants to bribe the dad so she don’t go to jail!! Or find out what the cops are telling him about her!!
good point, jamesbangor….why wasn’t she saying,” i want my daughter to be found…that’s all i want” that’s what I would be saying if my child was gone!!!!!! and why does she want to talk to him, if she is accusing him of everything???? what is going on??
Made me think she might want to get back together with the dad. Maybe that’s what this is all about.
which is no answer to the question that was asked of her–which was what questions would you ask if you could talk to the dad.
Trista Reynolds favorite words are “you know like”. If my child was missing I would be a wreck and not able to be so calm during an interview. I would be begging for the return of my child.
I agree with you, however, she may be taking something (a prescription) to calm herself down?
That could be true,but if she is taking something it can’t be that strong seeing that she has issues with alcohol.
It’s entirely possible that she is drinking again or self-medicating. Trying to stay sober in and of itself is tough for people with substance abuse issues. Trying to stay sober when your child is missing could very well be something she is having a hard time doing. That would certainly explain all the things people are criticizing her about.
I don’t like what my ‘gut’ is telling me after watching that interview. She’s too calm, The comment “the last to see her alive.” the changing story. The requests for him to talk to her!!! What about wanting the baby brought back home??? What about wanting to know where she is? Did I miss the request for that? I certainly did not see fear or passion for the baby’s return. I hope I am wrong in what I a thinking, that she already knows the answers. And how come when Matt asked her if she had someone take the baby, did they back the camera lens off her so we could not see her expression???
thinking the SAME things, parrotmom!!!!!
I agree and her saying “like is a sign of lying” She shouldn’t have to think what to say! The words should flow easily!! If this was my child,i’d be begging, crying! I wouldn’t be so calm!! I think she didn’t want the dad to have her, after all she said ” I raised her for 18 months!!
And she drove 75 miles to break into a house with many adults sleeping in it to take her daughter out of the house — then what?
Is it just me or does she seem joyful?
AND triumphant
She seems angry and frustrated to me…and perhaps medicated.
so it’s ok to medicate an addict– and yes, alcohol addiction makes one an addict.
Addicts are medicated all the time…be it through a doctor or through self-medication. I wouldn’t be surprised if she has relapsed…this is probably the worst nightmare of her life and if she’s not under the care of a doctor and being medicated to help her cope then it’s entirely possible that she is either drinking or using something on her own as a way to “get through” this time. No, it’s not good if that is what she’s doing, but I don’t think anyone should be shocked if she is.
has money to self medicate but not to get to Waterville? priorities
Or simply knows people who have these things on hand who will share.
or manic….
She seems frustrated and angry to me.
(Sorry about the repeat post…I came back and posted the same thing after someone went on a tirade and reported all of my posts because they mistakenly thought I reported theirs.)
we should probably keep an eye out if mom suddenly moves out of state…..her interview makes me think that she has something to do with it and she may have just said “alive” to make everyone think dad did it……maybe ayla is with family/friends of mom and she is waiting to go get her and live with her in another state.
Right. That’s why the child was taken from her and given to him by DHHS. Everyone knows how they favor men!
And she wonders why he doesn’t talk to her?
Your comments are illogical. If the mother were not taking care of Ayla her other child would have also been taken, but wasn’t. How do you explain that? Also, it wasn’t under the mother’s care that Ayla’s arm was broken or that Ayla disappeared.
I’m not logical. Good one.
Now lets test your rationale. How about because the other child was in different circumstances. Perhaps older, perhaps there was no father available to take him or didn’t want him, perhaps he was left with the adult who had historically provided for him, perhaps if there was a father he was even less capable than the mother, perhaps the other child is in school and disrupting that was judged more harmful than leaving him with his GM.. There any number of FACTS that could result in different treatment of the two children. The fact that you don’t know them is no reason to conclude that the initial decision was flawed.
This is not about a broken arm. It’s about a missing child. The DHHS is certainly capable of investigating the arm injury and would certainly act if it was even slightly suspicious. They haven’t. I guess you think that’s because DHHS has such a long established history of taking children from completely capable women and giving them to horrible fathers.
your position is entirely emotionally driven and a projection of your own miserable family history onto these folks. Own it and don’t make any claim to logic or rectitude.
The other child isn’t older. He’s under a year old. If the circumstances were unfit for a 20 month old I would think they’d be just as unfit for an even younger child that is even more dependent on the caregiver.
as strange as it seems, one child may be taken by the state and another child left in the HH. sometimes a parent neglects/abuses 1 child but not another one in the HH.
The photos with Ayla and her mother don’t show a child with bruises, broken bones or anything that indicates she wasn’t cared for. She is clean, obviously fed and smiling in those photos. I haven’t seen a single photo of Ayla with her father. Where are the most recent photos of her time with her father? All of the photos seem to have been provided by the mother and her family.
I am not the best father in the world but I would gladly tangle with a grizzly to protect my children and to use a quote already used here; God help the person who hurts my children and grandchildren and God help me for doing what my emotions as a protective father would make me want to do to them. You keep harping on the fact that the little girl had a broken arm and that makes the father immediately suspect. Years ago, my stepdaughter broke both of her arms while playing around a former home of mine when she fell down some stairs. I was a thousand miles away but felt the guilt as if I was directly responsible. Great parents, good parents and mediocre parents have children that get hurt. I am not defending that it is OK to expect some harm but accidents can happen to children as well as adults and parents are not always to blame.
My point is that we all have opinions about what happened, as do I, but fanning the flames with a one-sided “argument” based on so-called “facts” is useless and inflammatory. We would all act differently than each other if we, God forbid, had to endure what these parents are delaing with now. The bottom line is that both are suspect to some degree, a precious little girl is missing and you clowns are arguing about who’s argument is better. Ever heard the Dr. Suess story of the north-bound and the south-bound Zax?
Keep arguing, you boneheads – I will pray for the safe return of Ayla……..
My own niece broke her leg when she climbed out of her crib and fell at around this same age, so yes, I do know it happens sometimes. It doesn’t happen a lot, though, and honestly, what are the odds of this child accidentally breaking her arm from her father tripping while on some steps and falling on top of her and then not even a month later vanishing from her bed while also under his care?
and where was her emotion for her daughter…like, “i miss my baby girl….i love her so much..” it seemed to be all towards justin…and how she wants him to just talk to her……about WHAT?!!!
Dissociation is pretty common in traumatic situations. Sometimes people just shut down emotionally when they can’t deal with something. If you understand trauma her reactions really aren’t that bizarre. People are guaging her behavior as if she were someone under normal circumstances. She’s not in normal circumstances, though. It’s very likely your behavior would be just as strange to others observing you if you were in her shoes.
For being someone so concerned about her child, Trista got out of rehab and then declined to see her child for over two and a half weeks. That speaks volumes about her as a mother.
I could have sworn I heard her say that she wasn’t able to get to Waterville and that the father didn’t bring Ayla to see her.
If you listen to her interview with Matt Lauer, she clearly acknowledges that she got out of rehab in early November, and admits she did not go to see her daughter until after November 21st.
No, she said after getting out of a TEN DAY rehab (likely in October) that she saw Ayla 2 and a half WEEKS after getting out of rehab and that she had bruises and when she questioned the father about it he got defensive and blamed it on a bunch of little toddlers at Chuck e Cheese. Then she didn’t get to see Ayla again until the 21st of November. It was shortly after that time when Ayla’s arm was broken. The father claims from him falling on steps with her. Then the mother says the father wouldn’t let her talk to Ayla or see her. Gee…might that be because Ayla was starting to talk and could tell her mother how her arm got broken?
couldn’t get to Waterville? but had no problem making it to new york for the today show
The Today show would have provided the transportation. People living in motels typically can’t afford transportation as easily as most can. That is one of the things people take fro granted and don’t consider when bashing a poor single mother. She probably doesn’t even have a car.
Don”t think I beleive either of the parents right now. someone knows if this child is alive, and right where she is, who cares about the parents right now this child is all that matters
oops – sorry, that post was for someone else.
u would of thought u’d see a tear when she cried-if it was my kiddo i’d be out searching for her and be so miserable i’d be crying 24/7 not be on a talk show and acting the way she is.
u would of thought u’d see a tear when she cried-if it was my kiddo i’d be out searching for her and be so miserable i’d be crying 24/7 not be on a talk show and acting the way she is.
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WHERE would you be searching for her?
It’s physically impossible to cry 24/7. As someone who lost a loved one to a violent murder I can say that I know what it’s like to cry in a tragic situation. You have crying spells and bouts that can last for a few hours, but after awhile you can’t breathe or see, your eyes are swollen shut and the tears stop. It’s been almost two weeks now, and while I’m sure she’s still having bouts of crying every day, but it does get less. You also go through different stages…and it sounds like the mother is in the anger stage.
where is the mothers emotions?? not even 1 tear.
Have you ever faced a traumatic situation or a particularly devastating death of a loved one? I have…and there does come a point where you just can’t cry anymore. It’s like you have no tears left and you just become numb and feel nothing while just going through the motions while trying to come to terms with things.
i actually have gone thru a traumatic death and did cry all my tears out but it took about a year for that to happen. i was in shock and didn’t sleep at all for that year as well and it showed on my face. You just didn’t look like you had cried at all – but maybe that was the make up they put on you for the TV appearance.
They cake on make up for tv appearances. I know that if this were my child they would have to medicate me to be able to function. I wouldn’t be surprised if the mother is medicated. She also could be self medicating with something to try to cope. Trying to quit using substances under normal circumstances is hard enough for someone…but under the circumstances she’s dealing with…well, she might just have had a bit to drink before showing up to some appearances.
Conflicting statement: “He would never let me see her………..If I did see her and I noticed something like a bruise……….” Which was it?
Sounds like the father got defensive when questioned about the bruises and broken arm and then withheld visitation.
according to the mother….
And the grandmother, grandfather and aunt. Since the father has lawyered up and isn’t allowing interviews no one can ask for his version. I’m sure if this was a concern they were included in the court filing the mother made as well as documentation of her calls to DHHS pleading with them to go check on her daughter’s well being. We’ll find out soon enough once law enforcement wraps up their investigation and files charges on whoever is responsible for this child’s disappearance. My money is on it NOT being the mother.
listen to it again BDN. She said she was and wasn’t concerned for her daughters safety with the girls father…
I just don’t understand this woman, and why she feels she has to blame the father every time she gets in the media, if this was my child i would most definitely be teaming up with the father, even if i did think he had something to do with it, in hopes that he might let something drop…im not saying he did it, just that i wouldnt be bad mouthing him every chance i got!
As for him not speaking to her, or returning calls….why would he? all she does is blame him, call him a bad father, and bad mouth him, i wouldnt want to talk to her either.
As far as im concerned the mother has more reasons to be behind this, ie: had no custody, father didnt like her seeing the child, secretly applying forcustody and probably knew she wasnt getting it with her previous alcoholism.
The only reason he had was the fact that she was going for custody, but as she stated it was a secret and no one knew, which meant the father didnt either!
And boy doesnt she look good, if my child was missing, i know i would look a mess, and be spending every waking hour (which would be all) searching for my child, i dont think i would be looking as good as she is!!
This is actually the first time I’ve seen her where she doeesn’t look terrible. Whether anyone agrees with how the mother is handling herself or not the facts are that Ayla went missing from her father’s home. He was the one with custody and was responsible for keeping her safe. Ayla’s arm was also broken while in her father’s care. His official statements are also obviously written by a lawyer, which means he got a lawyer very quickly after Ayla went missing. Why does he need a lawyer? No matter how unlikable the mother is it’s the father who looks like he has something to hide.
Your guessing he has a lawyer and accidents happen all the time my son broke his arm at that age by tripping on a blankie accidents happen. I can’t understand why she wasn’t pleading for a child. I can’timagine what either parent is going through I think they both have guilt her for having problems that caused her not to be with the baby. The father has guilt for allowing for his child to go missing on his watch. Either way they both are gonna seem guilty.
Anyone that reads his “statements” can tell they were prepared by a lawyer. Toddlers don’t break bones “all the time.” It does happen once in awhile, but I’ve never heard of it happening to a child that disappeared less than a month later.
Because no one but a lawyer is literate?
It’s not about literacy…it’s about typical “lawyer speak.” All statements prepared by lawyers to be released to the public have the same type of tone to them. The fact that he obviously got a lawyer very quickly is exactly why I don’t believe a single word he says and won’t until I see him speaking publicly so I can decide for myself whether or not I believe him. His behavior right now is of a person who has something to hide.
“the fact that he obviously got a lawyer very quickly” – how do you know, in fact, that he has a lawyer? i’ve seen nothing in the media that states he is represented. did i miss that? or are you making assumptions that he is represented because you read a “tone” into his statements?
All one has to do is read his “official statements” to know he has a lawyer writing those statements. It sounds exactly like the prepared statements released by lawyers on behalf of their clients.
in your opinion. because it is just your opinion. you claim he has a lawyer but you have nothing to prove that as fact. you put forth statements made by the mother and the mother’s sister as fact to support your theory that the father is hiding behind lawyers. those statements are all biased since they come from only one side of the story. there are people other than lawyers who can write statements such as those released by the father. it just takes a decent command of the English language.
I wonder if you’d be saying “accidents happen all the time” in regards to the broken bone if it had happened while she was in the mother’s care. The way people are going after her every move is ridiculous — The father had her in his care, when her arm was broken and when she became ‘missing’. How many “accidents” happen on his watch and are waved away as things that “happen all the time” — If the father was talking I’m sure we’d all see he may not be such an innocent person. If the mother stops talking everyone will say she’s hiding something. The mother is condemed no matter what.
I am not claiming anyone to be innocent in any of this if you actually read my comment you would see that I said they both share some guilt and responsibility in this matter as I know I woould if I were in there positions and Ayla missing is no accident. I know I would feel both guilt and responsibility if I was in either one of there shoes. Fortunatley it is not my place to decide who is guilty here. I would be saying accidents happen all the time if it had happened in the mom’s care because accidents DO happen. You are accusing the father to be an abuser because the child had a broken arm. I tend to let the cops find the guilty party and the judges and juries to find them guilty or innocent. My comment didn’t accuse her of anything I just stated that I didn’t understand why she didn’t beg for her child back instead of COMPLETELY focusing on the father. If I had national attention I would beg for anyone who knew anything to come forward including the father.
I haven’t heard the father begging for the child lost on his watch to be brought back either. A little note prepared and presented by other people is all he could muster up to plead for the safe return of his daughter. Pretty poor way to make a plea for a little 20 month old girl I’d say. Who knows whether or not the childs arm was broken by accident or not. He hid from taking her to the specialist too. Might be able to get an abuse situation by ER doctors, but perhaps a specialist worried him a little. Has he said why he missed the appointment for that Friday? Oh that’s right he’s not talking — the missed appointment must be the mothers fault too — according to you.
No swollen eyes weight loss or any signs that she is distraught. I would be a wreck and would not be focused enough to worry about straigtening my hair and putting on some lipstick or even leaving the state in case my baby was found.
I’m guessing that the main reason she is lashing out at him publicly and blaming him is because he didn’t call her. His first call should have been to the police and his second call should have been to that baby’s mother. He didn’t even call her to tell her that her daughter was missing. Of course she’s angry and blames him, if he didn’t have anything to be guilty of he would have called her himself and would be appearing WITH her to plead for Ayla’s safe return.
If my child went missing, yes the first person i would call would be the cops, then i would be frantically searching for her, she’s 20 months old, she couldnt go far on her own, so i would be running the streets, why would i think to call the absent parent who hasnt seen her for weeks?….maybe after i calmed down just slightly (though it would be just slightly) would i think to call the absent parent, and im sure by then, the cops would have contacted them for their own reasons!!
not ONCE did she plead for “whoever” to bring back her child, not ONCE did she state how much she missed her and how worried she was, not ONCE did she mention anything about the concern of this poor little girl….and then to say at the end, HE was the last person to see her “pause” ALIVE!! kinda scarey, as im sure as a mother she would want to hope she was alive…i know i do, and i dont even know this sweet child!
Frantically searching would be the first instinct, and then 911 and then immediate family…with the other parent being first on the list…and then more searching and helping the police.
Have my other posts been removed?, as this was in answer to one that questioned my other post!
No, it’s there. A couple of people went all report happy last night and slowly but surely the frivolously reported posts are being put back. I feel bad for whoever is moderating this.
Thanks, i did find it after i wrote this, but cant delete it now lol
why would he want anything to do with her?
Are you a parent? If you are and something bad happened to your child the first person you call after 911 is the other parent. If you don’t do that then you look really bad. The other parent has the right to know if something is wrong involving their child.
She’s blaming the father because HE was in charge of their 20 month old child when she became missing. It is a child for god sake not a piece of furniture. Of course she’s blaming him. I’d be doing more than that. Teaming up with the father is pretty impossible if he is in hiding (behind his lawyers) the media can’t even find him. He sends out little morsels of “heartfelt” crap through another source every once in a while. How is she supposed to confer with him. I’d be badmouthing him and berating him with every breath I had if he “lost” my child, your a better person than me if you’d just let it be. He didn’t even call her to tell her the child was missing. I’d be more than a little mad too. Please explain how you think this mother made a 75 mile trip to Waterville, broke into a house stole her child and put her where? Love how BDN says they delete all comments accusing one or the other of doing something — funny they miss all the ones accusing the mother. Also another reason he could have is that with him taking the child from the grandmother and DHHS becoming involved they would know where he is (not always easy for DHHS to catch up with deadbeat dads) — if she had been collecting welfare he would be responsible for paying that back and continue to support the child whether in his custody or the mothers.
Follow the money, how much did the Today show pay the mother to show up. I hope that the investagation has reached the Portland area.
How much does it cost to go into hiding and to consult with lawyers…someone has money.
News organizations don’t pay interview subjects.
I’m starting to wonder if Ayla actually went missing on the night her father says it happened. She could have been miles away by the time the police started their search.
If been saying this…He didn’t take her to Friday’s appointment with the bone specialist. Probably was already gone at that time. But, with the father in hiding and the mother being bashed because everyone is picking at every word, look or action she does no one may ever know. I’ve said this several times but it keeps getting deleted. I guess questioning anything about the father is not allowed. Only mother bashing on this site.
seems to me if she was so concerned about the well being of her child she would have made a few better decisions in her life then the child would have been with her
So checking yourself into alcohol rehab/detox to try to quit of your own volition because you think you have a problem is a bad decision? I would have to disagree. Trying to get help was a good decision. The only reason the father had the baby was because the mother went to try to get help.
the poor choices were the ones she made that landed her in rehab to start with
Some people are prone to addiction and no one knows if they are one of those people until it happens to them. Virtually every person drinks to one extent or another when they are young. If you have ever drank a sip of alcohol in your life then you have made a poor choice. Cut this mother some slack. She is young. She recognized she is prone to alcohol abuse at a very young age and went to get help. She should not have her child disappear because she went to try to get help to be able to stop drinking.
no one should have a child disappear what a terrible thing to even think about, the issue was that she was pointing fingers to the father about his quality of care, when because of her life choices she was not able to do any better. It saddens me to see what some children have to go through, our prayers are with the little one and family members who are dealing with this terrible situation
A bad decision is getting into a situation where one has to go into rehab in the 1st place. If she didn’t have a problem in the 1st place child would still be with her.
People who become addicted to alcohol don’t realize they will until it happens. Most people who are just 23 years old do go out and drink. Due to how young she is it’s most likely this was a newly developed problem and she was seeking help to overcome it. If she were over 30 and hadn’t only been of legal age for two years I can understand why some might judge her harshly…but she’s barely old enough to buy alcohol let alone have a really long term problem.
By the sounds of things she was not safe with you or father and know no one knows where she is. That is total BS!!!!!
This whole thing is fishy…Mother in Rehab…father refusing to talk..child with bruises and cast under Fathers care..why didn’t she call child welfare when she saw the injuries..and then leave her child elsewhere when she went to seek rehab???
I saw in another interview that she had called child welfare because of the bruises, broken arm and missed doctor’s appointments but that DHHS hadn’t followed up on it.
She didn’t leave the child in his care. She left the child in the care of her mother and sister. He heard she was in Rehab and went to DHHS to take the child.
When will this trend of child abduction/Parents harming their children end?? What has happened to our society?
I am concerned that both parents may have had something to do with Ayla’s disappearance, considering that in some of the local tv interviews the mom (Trista) seemed too calm, cool, and collected and her narrative almost sounded rehearsed. Also she’s jumping too quick to play the blame card with her X, and also the “way” she’s been overly focused on taking attention of any suspicions around her. I can’t place my finger on it but even if she was in shock over this her behavior, tone, attitude, and wording seems too off for a mom who doesn’t know where her daughter is. The father too seems to have suspicion about him. But there is just something very suspicious about how the mom has been acting and the wording of her story. I’m not making any accusations as yet but something seems a little off about both parents.
Well, we can’t sit on here and demean the father because…he’s in hiding, we can’t pull apart his words because he doesn’t write or speak them — lawyers are doing that for him. The mother was 75 miles away. Did she make the trek to Waterville, silently sneak into a house filled with people and steal the child and just so happen to know someone who would hide her for her. All this and get back to Portland for her younger child to wake up. Everyone is pulling her apart because the father is hiding out in order to not have anything he says pulled apart. If she went into hiding everyone would still blame her. I feel bad for her — she lost her child, is doing what she thinks is right and still gets the wrath of BDN readers.
You know you’re right the father is in hiding. I would like to know when the police are going to bring all those that were in the house that night in for questioning. The only comment that was made , those that were in the house have no idea what time she went to bed, or the last time anyone saw her. That’s another red flag.
what has me curious here is the mom is making the dad out to be a bad guy but the courts had given him primary custady, which she was trying to gain and had not been able to. Given courts usually grant guardianship to the moms unless they have a reason to feel nervous about this, and if they do they grant it to the dads. If they grant it to the dad they are usually able to a valid reason to not grant it to the mom as they are fearing for the child and its safety. This may not be the case here, but I still am curious about this given its usually common practice. Wonder what the courts reasoning has been reguarding its decisions on guardianship in this case.
The mother also has a younger child that she has custody of. If she wasn’t deemed fit to care for Ayla why was the younger child not taken? Perhaps the father asked to get custody when the mother went to rehab and because he is the other parent it was granted for no other reason than he asked for it while the mother was seeking help. That is the only thing that makes sense in light of the younger child not being taken from the mother.
Ayla was taken by DHHS from her grandmother, not her mother. Trista Reynolds had left the girl in her mother’s care while she went to rehab.
I don’t believe the courts gave the father primary custody, from what I know the Mom checked herself into rehab and left her daughter with her grandmother and aunt–and the father came down with authorities and took her–nothing anyone could do to stop him as neither had any custody papers drawn up so both had every right to her.
I read that he wasn’t granted any custody by the courts. I wonder if he ever had anything to do with the child before Oct. of this year. Did he ever visit the child, pay support, etc…before this. Did DHHS come after him for support, so he decided to take the child while the mother was in rehab. Certainly would benefit him more to have the child and collect benefits himself other than having to pay support for the child. Don’t know what happened but am tired of hearing everyone bash the mom for talking out, but the dad is given a free pass because he’s lawyered up and is staying silent.
You know, I wonder if the father just came and took Ayla when the mother was in rehab without any kind of court order. The DHHS involvement may have been at the mother’s request. Her family has reported seeing bruises and said that they called DHHS about the broken arm and bruises. Everyone is assuming that DHHS took Ayla from the mother, but what if the mother was asking DHHS to take Ayla from the father because she suspected abuse?
An adult should volunteer thier time to get these parents together to brain storm what possibly could have happened to their daughter. Guy, girl, we know you hate each other, if neither of you are guilty then get together and leave no stone unturned. You were old enough to have a child, now be old enough to drop the petty BS and try to get her back.
Did they count the diapers inside left vs in the trash based on last trash pickup and last reciept at a store? Did they do the same for the enfamil or what ever the child used for feeding? This was a young child with certain steady use rates of food and diapers, and need to get more, is there a significant amount missing that would indicate supplying a child for departure? was all her stuff left behind? A picture of the splint and sling along with a picture of the outfit would help (get one from hospital). the the little splints we use in the ER should float and would stand out in an air based high resolution imaging mission such as used by DEEMI, but really need to see one for its spectral analysis. We just dont know whats happened in the LE research, and you can see that frustration in the comments. I Think they are doing the best they can with the tools they have. Doc Bowie
A 20 month old would not be drinking forumula, they would be drinking regular milk and eating the same food everyone else eats.
Thanks Doc, hope they have looked all such related things.
Seeing as it looks as if my comments were removed without cause or explanation, I wonder why the Bangor Daily news appears to side with the Father in this case, and yet allows the mother’s reputation to be dragged through the mud. Nice job Bangor Daily news.
I noticed that too.
Most of my comments have been deleted also, pretty obvious that BDN doesn’t want any comments that come across as questioning or being negative toward the father — say what you want about the mother though.
anyone else think this beautiful child is being used as collateral for a debt?
Crossed my mind, actually.
I laugh when I am nervous. I know of a murder case where a woman testified against the man that commited the murder, she witnessed the murder, and because she laughed thru her testimony, the jury found her not credible. The murderer walked. A few years later someone purchased the home the murder was commited in and found the roll of film, the murder had been photographed. Because, he had been found innocent, he couldn’t be retried.
I know I would be begging Nancy Grace for a polygraph so that the media would be looking elsewhere; knowing I would pass with flying colors.
I believe given the number of people in and out of the home that night it would’ve been difficult to have hurt the baby. Hurting a baby isn’t popular with anyone. I feel its very unlikely that anyone would’ve hurt her in front of anyone. I’m wondering if she wasn’t given too much of her pain medication for her arm or someone gave her an additional medication to help her sleep or for cough. Someone knows something.
I hope someone took her and put her in hiding as part of a custody battle. Its time for polygraphs.
I, as well as the rest of you, do not know for certain what happened to little Ayla, and who is responsible, but every time I see an interview with the mother, it literally makes me sick to my stomach. No, we do not all react to situations in the same way and manner, or sometimes the way that people think we should, but GIVE ME A BREAK, this woman does not appear one bit to be distraught over her missing “baby”.
Wonder what was going on the the house that Friday night. Houseful of people on a Friday night — just saying. Maybe more than one parent had a problem with addictions. Only the mother is talking and taking responsiblity of her problem with drinking, doesn’t mean the other parent didn’t have his own problems. He’s probably the smarter one (or his lawyers have a handle on him) by not talking and not pleading for his daughters safe return (oh I guess he did through a prepared statement read by another person) and everyone is bashing the mother for her lack of apparent caring. Look around where’s dad?
Exactly my point. Dad hired a lawyer why did he hire one so fast? You would think a decent father would be all over the news and the tv looking for his daughter. A gulity father would hire a lawyer and plead the 5th.
That’s the big question who was in that house. Where there drugs?
I commend the BDN moderator for cleaning up this blog. I too made several comments that were inappropriate. My apologies, please.
Mother bashing is still very prevelent in this and all blogs pertaining to the poor missing child.
i for one have no idea what happened …. ok , we have a mother who was in rehab, and a father who refused a polygraph. has the mother offered to take a polygraph? i doubt it. only a fool would take one since its not admissible in court to prove innocence but is a great tool for an investigator to browbeat a suspect. many years ago i worked in a jewelry company in new york city. apparently there was a pilferage problem. when the rumor began to circulate that they were going to bring in a polygraph notes were immediately posted in the bathrooms explaining how to beat a polygraph (anonymous of course) i had no problem because my job was in an area of the plant where pilferage was impossible but the notes were interesting. the ways to beat the polygraph ranged from putting a stone in your shoe and causing yourself pain to having wild sexual fantasies during the baseline testing. now …. im sure that someone will attack this post as teaching bad guys to beat the polygraph ….. my point is that the bad guys already know. if taking a polygraph (and passing it) would clear an individual i would be all for them. i would also be all for them if they were admissible as proof (like dna.) a polygraph is a high tech ouija board and might be a good party game but should never even be mentioned when there is a missing child.
Mad. Seriously? google and 3 clicks gives better info then you on how to beat a polygraph. I assure you, no sensible person will be upset by your post.
This whole thing is extremely sad. But I have to say I find it very bizarre that Trista said at the end ” He was the last one to see her alive” . Giving an idication she thinks she is dead. Which no investigator or evidence shows she is dead but shows she is missing. Does this indicate she is unfortunately dead? The mother seems a little too guilty on my end. Its hard to say “who” did take this child.You have the mother who just got out of rehab, who obviously has been in and out of her daughters life. And who went to the courts the day before her missing? The mother is upset that the father wont let her talk to her or see her daughter? Well thats probably because he doesnt want this child seeing her mother in and out of her life and, who knows relapse from whatever it is she went to rehab to begin with. The bruises and a broken arm may be suspicious but may also be a normal 20 month old who is just learning to use her balance. Maybe be neither of them had anything to do with her diappearance but all we can do as outsiders is pray for this little girl.
According to earlier reports the mother raised Ayla and had custody of her until October of this year. It doesn’t sound like she lived with the father until she had spent her first 18 months with her mother. I saw in an earlier report where the mother said that because of how the father is behaving (refusing to talk to her) that she was beginning to think that he may have done something to her. Since he still refuses to talk to her I’m sure that feeling is much stronger. She probably thinks Ayla is dead at this point. That would explain “the last one to see her alive” comment.
I’m sure any parent in her situation would feel guilty for not being there to protect their child. This is something you always hear from parents whose children are abducted by strangers while playing outside. The parents feel tremendous guilt for letting their child out of their sight.
It doesn’t sound like the mother came in and out of Ayla’s life. She had custody for 18 months and then for the last two months she was able to see her twice that we have heard about and the mother says the father wouldn’t let her see Ayla and that he got defensive when she questioned him about bruises and the broken arm. She then says she filed for custody because she was tired of fighting with him, likely fighting to just be able to see her child.
It has been reported that she went to rehab for alcohol. The mother is what, 23 years old? That’s not very old, and to already recognize she had a drinking problem and seek help for it is actually pretty responsible. Anyone can develop a drinking problem. During the early 20’s young people tend to party a bit and most carry on for much longer than this girl’s mother did.
I have a grandson who is 23 months old. He has never broken a bone and very rarely gets a bruise. He almost never falls down due to lack of balance and hasn’t for a really long time. He also still wakes up every night crying for a drink…and he doesn’t have a bottle or pacifier. He cries for a sippy cup or because he has to go to the bathroom or has wet his pull up.
For me, the father is the one that is behaving suspiciously. The lawyer written statements REALLY send up red flags for me. He says he doesn’t wan’t “media hype.” It’s media hype that keeps attention on the case and keeps people looking for his daughter. It keeps her photo fresh in the minds of the public everywhere. If he honestly doesn’t know what happened to Ayla and doesn’t know where she is then for all he knows someone could be taking her across the country. Keeping the story alive in the media could help bring her home. The fact that he doesn’t want media attention suggests to me that he knows where she is. When a parent’s child is missing they are desperate to find them and they WILL go on camera asking for whoever took her to bring her home. The fact that the father hasn’t done that is something I find VERY suspicious. It’s not normal NOT to make those pleas to tv reporters.
I’m sure any parent in her situation would feel guilty for not being
there to protect their child. This is something you always hear from
parents whose children are abducted by strangers while playing outside.
The parents feel tremendous guilt for letting their child out of their
sight. SO HER CONSTANT LACK OF EMOTION IS HER GUILT? …..I FIND THAT “PILL” HARD TO SWALLOW, AND SURE MANY OTHERS WOULD TOO……
Dissociation during the traumatic event of her child disappearing and her fearing the worst because the father refuses to speak to her and didn’t even call her to say their child was missing. Look it up.
both of these “parents” (cough, cough) seem to be MUCH more interested at pointing fingers at each other than the retrieval of the child…of course thats because they both know the child is dead. Couple of scumbags…and if you don’t believe it, then you’re as dumb as they think you are.
I don’t know who to blame for this. I am not going to defend the dad, he WAS the last to see this baby. BUT…maybe he didn’t want to allow the baby to see the mother because she was on drugs…? She doesn’t seem too trustworthy herself. Obviously she was not there to take the baby herself, but she does not seem like the most likable character either. This case is a mess…the most important fact is that baby coming back alive. I don’t know why the dad isn’t talking. Maybe because he knows no one will believe him. But when the mom talks, at least when I have seen her talk, she seems distant…..as if she is talking about someone she doesn’t even know, not her own child.
The mother’s behavior really isn’t all that strange when you understand the way people can react to a traumatic situation. Look up dissociation.
Also for all we know they were both on drugs and the dad was passed out, the mom could have easily taken that opportunity to take the child herself and then leave. And/or have anybody else do it. The possibilities go on and on. I can’t say with 100% certainty any of us know who did it. But I am suspicious of both parents based on our observations of things they’ve said and done, and the way the mom phrases things and the way she acts. Some may say that the Dads absence in all this necessitates guilt but all I can say is that I find it a little suspicious but not without explanation. The inverse may also be said for the mom, she is extremely Pro-Active and collected for someone in that situation. I find both parents most interesting to watch. I’m someone who has studied Psychology, Sociology, and Anthropology so I feel that I am tuned to something they are both up to but I CANT say for sure I know what that is. Then again I also maybe reading into their behavior (or lack of certain behaviors).
But the father lived with his mother, sister, sister’s 18 month old baby. That house doesn’t look very big…probably a 3 bedroom. The babies had a bedroom. You can bet the mother had a bedroom and that the sister had a bedroom. That leaves someone most likely sleeping in the living room. Neighbors reported a really loud noise in the middle of the night that was so loud it made dogs bark and woke them up. Even if the adults were all passed out from substance use it would have woken up the babies and made at least one of them start screaming.
http://www.examiner.com/crime-in-nashville/ayla-reynolds-father-justin-dipietro-and-his-strange-behavior
http://www.examiner.com/crime-in-nashville/ayla-reynolds-father-justin-dipietro-and-his-strange-behavior
This is a perfect example of why degenerate people should not reproduce!I wish she would stay off the national news circuit, and stop making the rest of the country think everyone from maine is an inbred!!
What if it was a stranger abduction and someone has the baby in another state halfway across the country? No national media means no one knows Ayla is missing or what she looks like and she would never be found. I’m sure Shasta Groene is thankful for the national media because that’s how the authorities were able to track her kidnapper and the man who killed her brothers and mother. If not for national media that little girl would have died the same way the rest of her family did.
I sincerely doubt it was a stranger abduction. The child was at “home” in her own bed.
I think the same thing…because of the father’s behavior. If the father were doing the same thing the mother is doing I would be much more open to this being a stranger abduction. Parents who don’t know where their child is are desperate and go on tv no matter how bad they look to try to get their child back.
Even though TV ads strongly warn us about stranger abduction the actual Scientific Statistics clearly show that most abductions are in fact done by close family or other relatives that have access to the child. But that doesn’t rule out the idea that someone may have broke into the home that was casing the place. However, statistically it is more likely a family member, close relative, or close friend of the family. But I’m still not saying that know who did it. However some of the actions, wording, and mannerisms of both parents seen suspicious.
Actually I agree.
The mother is hoping to become a media darling and the father has guilt all over his face which is why he doesn’t want to be interviewed. If it was my child missing, I wouldn’t be doing a media tour of talk shows, I would be out there in the mix looking, and investigating my own way.
Are you saying John Walsh was wrong when his son Adam went missing? You want to get out and be on every show as possible . incase someone knows something. Elizabeth Smart parents were always in the spot light.
It’s a war of the sexes. In the USA too many women are what you call “professional victims” and they believe that “all men are bad”. I’m not saying all women are like this but too many of them are. With no real evidence they can’t wait to point their fingers at men. I don’t know which parent is guilty or not but a lot of comments made by women seem to be biased and bigoted.
This is not about sexism for crying out loud…it’s about a 20 month old baby who is missing on her father’s watch. Of course people are going to think he might have something to do with it. If she was living with her mother all the same things would be said about the mother too.
OldWench: I’m talking about the POSTS I was replying to and not the STORY itself. If you were more logical you would have seen that.
There was absolutely nothing in the post you responded to about gender equality or sexism. All of the “new” people posting on here keep attacking the mother and defending the father without knowing anything about this case. Calling the father the husband and trying to make it about a nasty custody battle in court and vindictiveness/bitterness from a broken relationships, sexism against men in courts, etc. It’s people from a men’s rights website rushing to this father’s defense without knowing anything about the case. This is about a little baby girl that is missing and everything we’ve learned places one parent as being present and the other being 75 miles away. There is no bitterness from a past break up because the parents were never a couple to begin with. If this all happened while that baby was under the mother’s care everyone would be looking at her. This is NOT about sexism, gender or either men’s or women’s rights. It’s about a baby who is gone and needs to be found.
Watch: If a woman said that “too many men are bigoted and biased against women” that post would be left up. However I have the suspicion mine is going to be taken down. Even if they could easily use the same rationalization to take either down. If not then I’ll be surprised.
This is about a missing child. Not about war with sexes. You seem to have a problem with woman.
But when John Walsh was on, he and his wife we’re obvious wrecks, I am not the only who obviously notices that this woman seems way too cool, calm and collected and there seems to be more finger pointing and less pleading for the child’s safe return.
If she was THAT worried, why didn’t she call DHHS to have the child removed from his care? I know she was filing paperwork to get Ayla back, but if it was a bad as the mom says, wouldn’t emergency placement until the paperwork went through have made sense? Also, how is she able to stay calm and focused on how terrible her “baby daddy” is when her child is missing? Maybe is a personality type I don’t understand, but something feels very uncomfortable about her.
She said in at least one interview that she DID call them and pleaded for them to do something and they didn’t.
If that were true, it would have lawsuit written all over it.
When all is said and done I’m sure there will be a lawsuit.
Not to mention…if you think your child is in danger, do you call DHHS once and let it go, or do you call the police, or go yourself to check? He had custody, but unless there was a PO against her, nobody could stop her from checking on her child.
The more and more this mother berates the dad, the more she looks suspicious…..She has done nothing but bad mouth him the whole time. He was wonderful enough to sleep with 20 months ago, and then it all changed………She looks very well put together on tv and interviews for someone who’s child is missing, most parents in that situation would be incoherent and crying all the time and perhaps need help from a hospital….her lack of emotion says a lot about her character and mothering, and perhaps her involvement some how. In the end, the truth will come out….almost clockwork typical Maine scenario, girl meets boy, they have sex, baby born to unwed couple, they split up, custody issues, CHILD SUPPORT ISSUES, dad gets to see child less, mom meets new man, cycle continues, has another child, and the cycle repeats again. …the only one hurt and damaged in this vicious cycle is the poor child or children.
Another person who has no clue about the facts in the case.
Facts:
The mother and father NEVER were in a relationship.
No romantic relationship means no hard feelings/bitterness between the parents.
Dad didn’t want to have much to do with Ayla until she was over a year old.
Mom is 23 years old and decides at such a young age that she’s drinking too much and checks into rehab.
Mom leaves her kids with Aunt and Grandmother for 10 days
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Ayla’s father decides to take the baby he wasn’t interested in before while the mother was in rehab
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What few times mom is allowed to see Ayla she has bruises and a broken arm
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Ayla’s Mom calls DHHS to ask them to check on Ayla and DHHS doesn’t follow up.
Father skips bone doctor appointment and Ayla disappears from his care.
Father calls 911 when he can’t find Ayla but doesn’t bother to call the baby’s mother to tell her what happened…and Mom is righteously peeved off with the father. Can’t say I blame her.
most of this info that you are stating as facts came from the mother. Not necessarily factual just her version.
Most of it actually came from the maternal aunt if I remember correctly.
After reading the comments come on people. She had nothing to do with it. She went to the police ASAP. They found some evidence at “his” house. That’s why the crime scene tape went up and there is a police car sitting outside his home 24/7 . It’s obvious the police know something.
I want to know the last time the neighbors saw this child alive.
Who was in that house the night she went missing. Was this a drug party?
And did he have a girl friend that was staying at the home the night she went missing?
She has 2 or 3 kids from the father but she has no idea the names of the people who attended the party? Who his buddies are? Who is likely have been at a party? She’s an alcoholic,surely she must have an idea what goes in at her husband/father’s parties , who usually attends.
Sounds like she wants to talk to the father so they can get ‘their story right’
I really don’t think she had anything to do with this. I wonder if he had a girl friend who was in the house that night.
This case is so much like the Hayley Commings down in Palatka florida. Dad went to work comes home his daughter is missing. The girl he was living with ( who was not the real mom) had something to do with her disappearance. But couldn’t prove it there was a party at the home that night and they were all saying eachother killed the child, saying it was accidental child OD
Actually you’re not using your mind to “think” so much as “feel”. To “think” would suggest that you have some data that the police don’t. I don’t mean to sound bigoted but statistically and scientifically women tend to be more “subjective-emotional” in their thoughts than men who are statistically shown to be more “objective-logical” in their decisions. However, I’m not saying all men & women fall into these categories. But you should practice not letting your emotions bias your opinions. That’s how a lot of innocent people get into trouble is when others bare false witness. Though I’m not saying myself who I think is innocent or guilty so I’m not technically siding with either party.
“I’ m not saying myself who I think is innocent or guilty so I’m not technically siding with either party”
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Did you read your comment above? You inferred in every sentence that the mother must have something to hide because of the way she acts, talks etc. You didn’t mention once that the father was acting odd by not coming out and asking for his child to be returned, he is hiding and not getting caught by words that might come back and haunt him later. I’m thinking your a little biased here in jumping to judge the mother because she hasn’t been rehearsed enough. By the time we see the father in public his lawyers will have him looking and speaking the part.
Facts:
Ayla was living with her father at the time she disappeared.
Ayla was living with her father when her arm was broken.
Ayla’s father was in the house at the time she disappeared.
Ayla’s father was with her when her arm was broken.
Ayla’s father did not notify Ayla’s mother that she was missing.
Ayla’s father refuses to speak with Ayla’s mother to answer her questions about what was going on in that house that night.
Ayla’s father has not done what every other parent always does when their child goes missing and they don’t know what happened to them…go on tv and beg for her safe return.
Ayla’s father’s only “officially released statements” sound like every other official statement prepared and released by a lawyer.
Ayla’s mother lives 75 miles south of Waterville and had not seen Ayla since November 21st.
The rational and logical person is going to look at the above info and have suspicions about the father.
Everyone who refers to the father of Ayla as her mother’s “husband” OBVIOUSLY isn’t actually following this story enough to know what’s going on. They were never married AND they were NEVER a couple.
1. Nobody knows if either parent is innocent or guilty unless you know something the authorities don’t. 2. There have been many cases of missing persons in which the murderer not only went to the police ASAP but also took part in that persons search (all to try and take suspicion off them). 3. Everyone has noticed the mom’s odd behavior that is not consistent with someone in her unfortunate position. Which doesn’t mean she is guilty either however is raising red flags with a lot of people. 4. Of course the police “know something” but we can only guess to what that is. There is stuff the police can share with the news and there is stuff that probably needs to remain secret to help with the investigation. However a lot of things they are doing is standard procedure however doesn’t logically necessitate guilt. I know it’s hard for certain people to not let their emotions rule their heads but you should “think” more carefully when you have strong emotional feelings that may bias your opinion. Anyway, I’m not saying one way or the other who I think kidnapped Ayla. But I and others have noticed certain things that the mom says and does that raises suspicion. However I can’t say for certain “why” or “what” that is. But this doesn’t mean I’m siding with the father either. I feel I need to say that because certain people statistically “add lib” based on their subjective-emotional opinions than others. But just like the police work & news reports have “a lack of data doesn’t mean we can fill in the gaps with our bias”. Also a lack of data in the investigation also doesn’t mean anything is necessarily being withheld on purpose or by accident by the authorities. But for certain people this causes great distress and they tend to “fill in the gaps” with their opinions that have no basis in fact.
You’re right we don’t know but we need to consider Waterville is so close to the interstate Alya could be anywhere.
Whatever you do…DON’T say anything about the mother that could be construed as “negative”. Make sure any negativity is pointed towards the father. The BDN doesn’t want to give the impression that a mother could possibly hurt her own child…it is ALWAYS the man that hurts the children.
Susan Smith never happened, BDN says it really was a black man that drowned her kids. DON’T BLAME THE MOTHER. She has such an honest face and demeanor…how could she have possibly done it?
It was definitely the man/father, because some part-time BDN employee who is in charge of making sure conversations are aligned w/ BDNs opinion, says so.
Whoops…I accidentally liked this comment…didn’t mean to…meant to hit reply.
Anyhow…if Ayla were under her mother’s care when her arm was broken and when she disappeared I would be saying the exact things I have been saying about her instead of the father. This isn’t about sexism or gender. It’s about whose care the baby was under.
I’d say 95% of the comments on here are bashing the mother — what are you talking about? Any comments related to the father are immediately deleted by BDN. Are you not reading the same blog? Mother not talking right in public, mother not acting sincere, mother wearing a plaid shirt (whatever that references), mother combed her hair for interview, mother is guilty of something. I haven’t read these type of comments directed toward the father — who by the way was caring for the child at the time and is doing nothing to find his daughter — he’s hiding and staying quiet — I wonder why?
I hope the police find and return the young girl soon. Then the responsible parties will be dealt with. Who ever they are.
I wonder how many people are basing their opinions based on their social bias of men.
Dsme , when are you going to call the Waterville PD tell them to take the crime scene tape off the house let them know how you “feel” and they are being bias.
Good grief…I am basing my opinions on my social bias of following the facts and evidence.
Who was responsible for caring for and protecting this child at the time of her disappearance?
Wait…the child had a broken arm when she disappeared? Whose care was she under when she got the broken arm?
Hang on…one of the parents didn’t call the other parent to tell them their child was missing? They are refusing to talk to the other parent, too? What? You’re kidding, right? Which parent is doing that?
Hold up…the same parent as all of the above is only releasing statements obviously written by a lawyer? Which parent is doing that again?
Now answer all these questions and you’ll see WHY many people are suspicious of that particular parent. Now the other parent may not be the model of prim and proper behavior and may have their own issues…but by all official accounts that parent was 75 miles away when all this happened.
Now take gender out of it completely and honestly look at where all the actual facts in the case are pointing and then ask yourself again if there is any place for the question you asked in these comments.
Its my personal opinion that the mother is acting suspicious in media interviews.
was she better off with her drug addicted mother?
She had/has a drinking problem…recognized her need for help and seeked it out.
Then coming up missing from the father’s house and care — Yes, I’d say she would.
I don’t believe a lick of what either of these two “parents” (cough, cough) have to say…and neither do the cops.
Its my personal opinion that the mother is a human being who walks upright and breathes air.
The mother is wearing a plaid shirt in the Today Show video.
AND….This meaning what? Oh she must be guilty.
I just wish this baby was found! I pray for her, and want so badly to hear that she’s safe!! may God bless all those that love her…and bring her home safely! oxo
Seems to me that this couple is jumping on the “i don’t know where my kid went” bandwagon of the summer, possibly looking for some quick cash by being on the today show and any other interview shes being paid for. When is her book coming out….?
She probably doesn’t know what happened to her child. Being 75 miles away, the father being in hiding along with all his ‘family’ that he shared the house with, and the police not talking with her much. I bet she doesn’t know where her kid went. The person that does or should isn’t talking.
Whatever, all you people!! Let’s just pray for the baby’s safety and that she is found soon!!! That is all we all want!
What medication was the child on (if any) for pain for her broken arm? Sometimes accidental overdoses do happen.
I cant help but wonder…
1. Why am I getting more emotional as I read articles and watching the news than either one of the parents seem to be?
2. Why is the mother flying to New York to do an interview on the Today Show while law enforcement and dozens if not hundreds of people are out searching for her daughter?
In the end if this girl is found alive and well and none of the tips lead to her being found…put the 30k in an college account for Ayla to use if she decides to go on to school.
One more though…why isnt Gov LePage weighing in on this? He is never at a loss for words and this happened in his hometown of Waterville where Im sure he has some pull
I’m anticapting that the father will make and appearance soon. I’m sure that his lawyers are preparing him both in how he looks and how he presents. Too bad someone didn’t take Ayla’s mother aside and tell her that if she went out and just grabbed at every chance to plead for her daughter to come back (and yes, vent her frustrations over Ayla’s father’s incompetence in his ability to safely watch their child) that she would be judged and racked over the coals in hard shape. Good thing the father has a hiding place and people around to guide him in acting appropriate. He will come out soon and he’ll be ready for his spotlight. We’ll all be saying what a great dad he is and how articulate he is, rehersals will do that for you.
I find it really suspicious that the father won’t talk to the mother. If you really care about the well being of your child you would get over any previous personal grudges over the mother so you can work as a team and bring your daughter home.
I think they both have dirt on each other outside of the missing child, in my opinion based on speculation
And she was mother of the year? Doing drugs and taking excellent care of her child? Never high around her child? Not having drug dealers around her child?
Mother of the year, probably not. But again…the child didn’t vanish from her home.
She was a drunk — I haven’t read or heard anyone imply that she was addited to drugs (other than alcohol) — don’t think drug dealers deliver alcohol. Too bad we haven’t heard the history of the father — bet that’s not much better.
The only people that hide are people that have something to hide.
I know that if one of my children “disappeared I would use every form of media that I could to plead for any kind of answer.
Hmmm I had alot of comments and now they are gone?
Must of written something that implied the father was involved. Those comments get deleted.
Wonder how much money the mother is getting for all her interviews?
Wonder who is about to be arrested? Police just announced there is evidence of foul play and this is now a criminal investigation and the forensics team are back at the father’s house. They removed a paper bag from the house and have a shed in the back yard roped off. But hey…keep right on blaming the mother even though she lives 75 miles away.
Where’s DiPietro’s mother with whom he was staying with? Wouldn’t the grandmother that was present when the child disappeared at least plead with the media to get this baby’s picture out there and keep it out there. Any grandmother that I know would be distraught and inconsolable if their grandchild came up missing from their house. This whole family seems to be acting odd — a child is taken from the house and everyone in the house that night with the child is hiding out.
Police has just announced foul play occurred in the disappearance of Ayla. It’s now a criminal investigation and a forensics team is back at the father’s house and have roped off a shed in the back yard and removed a paper bag from the house. :(
This would be easy to check out if a text was really sent..
“…Also, according to Ayla’s mother Trista, Justin sent her a text message
before Ayla went missing and he predicted that Ayla would be abducted!
The text said: “I fear someone is going to take the child.”
http://www.examiner.com/crime-in-nashville/ayla-reynolds-father-justin-dipietro-and-his-strange-behavior
Right, wrong or indifferent….Trista Reynolds just oozes “Douchieness”, I don’t have a horse in the race, but were it me I wouldn’t be doing the talk show circuit until I was done mourning – Which clearly she isn’t doing – It’s almost like she hopes something happened to Ayla, so that she can say “I told you so” or worse yet; so she can get an “After School Special” made. This is all very dicey at best and really wouldn’t surprie me if she and DiPietro were in cahoots.
Why would she be mourning? I bet she’s hoping the her child has been taken by the father or a family member of his in an attempt to keep her child from her. She’s been given very little information and if no one was giving me information if my child was taken I’d be running my mouth all over the place too. How frustrating it must be to not have any idea what happened in that house the night your baby is last seen. She’s lashing out at the baby’s father because she (like most of us would) believes its impossible for him to be in that house and not know what happened to Ayla.