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My 14-year-old son’s lessons on being an adult

By Sarah Smiley on July 20, 2014, at 10:07 a.m.
Now that my oldest son, Ford, is almost 14 years old, he spends a lot of time thinking about what it means to be an adult. I don’t remember thinking the same way when I was 14, but I’m sure my husband, Dustin, did. This is likely a lesson in …
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Car shopping with the Smileys

By Sarah Smiley on July 13, 2014, at 6:48 a.m.
We were in the market for a new car, and it had been awhile. In fact, now that our youngest child is 7, this would be the first new car in 14 years that we’d buy without the thought of car seats. Cars have changed a lot. If you haven’t …
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Sarah Smiley answers readers’ burning questions

By Sarah Smiley on July 06, 2014, at 9:01 a.m.
I often get messages, and sometimes actual letters, from readers asking a variety of questions. Unfortunately, I can’t always respond to them, as the family tends to want dinner, but I do read everything (that isn’t in the comments section), and today I’d like to provide some answers. Is Smiley …
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A letter to my future daughters-in-law

By Sarah Smiley on June 29, 2014, at 6:09 a.m.
Dear future daughters-in-law, I have you in mind quite a bit. I am keenly aware that my three boys will live with me for a mere 18 years and with you for a lifetime. My successes and missteps impact your future. I know this because I live with a man …
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Phone use at restaurant is wake-up call to turn off our devices

By Sarah Smiley on June 20, 2014, at 8:23 a.m.
Last weekend, our family was on a getaway in Bar Harbor. If you were visiting at the same time, I’m sure you heard us. It doesn’t matter that you were at a different hotel; we are loud everywhere. Even critters beached by low tide on the bar skittered away from …
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Lindell, 7, practices feeding a calf at Stonyvale Dairy Farm.

Dinner on a farm powered by manure

By Sarah Smiley on June 13, 2014, at 11:24 a.m.
Lindell, 7, has always wanted to be a farmer, except for when he wanted to be an astronaut, a mailman and a dog. But Lindell doesn’t want to be just any farmer. He’s not that interested in growing plants or vegetables. He’s more into the animals and the manure. Mostly, …
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Wait, baseball is dying?

By Sarah Smiley on June 08, 2014, at 9:10 a.m.
I haven’t always loved baseball, but right on cue, as soon as I did, people said it’s a dying sport — especially in the youth divisions. According to the National Sporting Goods Association, from 2000 to 2009 the number of 7-17-year-old kids playing baseball dropped 24 percent. Other sports like football and …
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Typically, the minor league plays on a field with no dugouts and no scoreboard. When this group stepped away from their spartan bench and onto "the really big field," the game of baseball took on a whole new light.

A score worth keeping: Major-league success in the minors

By Sarah Smiley on June 01, 2014, at 11:59 a.m.
In the wake of some schools across the country canceling things like academic awards night and valedictorians at graduation because people might not be able to handle the exclusivity or “unfairness” of it all, I witnessed something that helps prove this theory wrong. It was the night the minor league …
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Small flags are placed at headstones at Arlington National Cemetery.

‘We try our best to move forward’: Checking in with a military widow friend for Memorial Day

By Sarah Smiley on May 24, 2014, at 5:59 a.m.
In September, I introduced you to my friend Theresa. Three days after her Navy husband and Dustin’s former squadron-mate, Landon, was killed overseas, Theresa co-wrote a column with me about her experience. It was a fresh, raw glimpse at what being a new military widow really looks like, and the …
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Sarah and Lindell Smiley during a recent visit with James "Jim" Dill, pest management specialist at the University of Maine's Cooperative Extension.

Bedbugs as pets? How dinner with an entomologist earthed up some insect truths

By Sarah Smiley on May 18, 2014, at 11:54 a.m.
Entomologist James “Jim” Dill and I serve on a board together at United Technologies Center in Bangor. Jim also is a state representative. That much I knew. However, when Jim casually mentioned during a meeting that he used to keep bedbugs as pets, I was curious. OK, I was stunned. …
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Pentagon’s proposed pay cuts will be devastating

By Sarah Smiley on May 11, 2014, at 10:03 a.m.
“Will you encourage your three boys to join the military?” That’s a question I get often because my husband, dad and father-in-law are Navy pilots. But it’s a question I struggle with, especially lately. Choosing the military always means choosing sacrifice. There is no question that a civilian engineer has …
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When mom’s away, the siblings will play

By Sarah Smiley on May 04, 2014, at 10:02 a.m.
As the kids get older, there are some things, thankfully, that get easier. One of these is doing errands — alone. This is, in fact, so far the only hope I can offer new parents: Someday, you will go to the grocery store alone, and it will feel like “Ferris …
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Depression doesn’t play favorites. But insurers do

By Sarah Smiley on April 27, 2014, at 5:49 a.m.
When I wrote about depression three months ago, I was still, for the most part, in the throes of it. Happily, with time and distance comes more perspective — some good, some not so good. I was overcome by the amount and quality of responses I received to that column. …
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Parenting: It doesn’t get easier

By Sarah Smiley on April 20, 2014, at 5:40 a.m.
Last week, I posted the following on Facebook: “Why didn’t anyone tell me that this parenting stuff just keeps getting harder?” The responses were amusing: “We didn’t want to scare you.” “At least you have boys!” “We wanted you to hang onto that little bit of hope.” “It’s on a …
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Mass shootings on military bases violate sense of security

By Sarah Smiley on April 13, 2014, at 5:59 a.m.
In more ways than one, the military has sometimes been an institution that change forgot. Some people refer to military life as living in a “bubble.” Some people have worse names for it. But for generations, the experience has remained the same: once inside that front gate — the one …
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Oldest son shows what he’s becoming

By Sarah Smiley on April 06, 2014, at 8:56 a.m.
On the morning of Sept. 11, 2001, I took a picture of you standing next to the window in your nursery. The sun illuminated half your face, and you were holding a wooden train in one hand. When you heard my footsteps, you turned around, threw back your head and …
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In life and in death, Marines and fathers are always faithful

By Sarah Smiley on March 30, 2014, at 8:24 a.m.
I wrote the following column in 2005 after my friend Marc Tace died of muscular dystrophy. This week marks 20 years since Marc’s dad, a Marine colonel, died of a heart attack while serving overseas. I’ve been thinking a lot lately about Marc and his family. On Thursday, I was …
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Remembering the time I got my first military ID card

By Sarah Smiley on March 23, 2014, at 11:01 a.m.
For the average kid, preadolescence and the teen years are marked with many rites of passage: facial hair, deodorant, pimples, crushes and braces. There is the experience of wearing pants that fit yesterday but are too short today. There are awkward bus rides and annoying parents. And there is the …
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A new, disturbing trend at retail stores

By Sarah Smiley on March 16, 2014, at 9:43 a.m.
A disturbing trend is happening for people like me, people who majored in mass communication, not one-on-one communication. Small talk is difficult enough for me. I stammer, my palms sweat, and I say stupid things. But lately, my interactions with cashiers have become even more torturous. In fact, the problem …
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The Navy’s 2014 Spouse Survey misses some things

By Sarah Smiley on March 09, 2014, at 8:39 a.m.
Somewhere at the Pentagon, someone with a lot of medals on his chest is shaking his head, wondering why I was chosen to take the 2014 Navy Spouse Personal and Family Readiness Survey. Except, the letter inviting my participation stated I was “randomly selected,” and I believe it. Any top …
 
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