PORTLAND, Maine — Trista Reynolds wants to know what happened to her little girl, Ayla Reynolds, but there’s a limit to the details she wants to hear.
Reynolds said thinking of what might have happened to Ayla on Dec. 16, 2011 — the day before the then 20-month-old toddler was reported missing from her father’s home in Waterville — brings on her darkest moments.
“I don’t think I want to know what happened that night,” said Reynolds during an emotional interview Wednesday with the Bangor Daily News. “I don’t want to know if she had to suffer or if she was in pain. I don’t want to know how she felt. That’s not something a parent or a mother should have to feel.”
As the search for Ayla Reynolds approaches two months in length, investigators continue to sift through tips and leads that now number more than 900, according to Stephen McCausland, spokesman for the Maine State Police. McCausland said he expected the investigation to continue “quietly” this week, as opposed to very public searches in the Waterville area and press conferences that have punctuated the search for Ayla.
McCausland, who is the only law enforcement official making public statements about the case, has said that no one, including Trista Reynolds, has been ruled out as a suspect in Ayla’s disappearance. However, McCausland has said that investigators believe the three adults who were with Ayla on Dec.16 — Ayla’s father, Justin DiPietro; his sister, Elisha DiPietro; and his girlfriend, Courtney Roberts — know more about her disappearance than they have told police, including how Ayla’s blood wound up in the basement of the DiPietro home at 29 Violette Avenue.
Trista Reynolds said that although police haven’t confirmed it, she is not a suspect. She said part of the reason for that is that police have told her things about the investigation. In recent days, Reynolds has posted some of those details on a website her family is maintaining at www.aylareynolds.com.
The Bangor Daily News will not repeat the accusations made by Reynolds because they could not be independently verified.
“The police have told me I can tell people whatever I want about the investigation, but that they won’t back me up with it,” Reynolds said.
McCausland said Wednesday he would not verify or deny Trista’s statements or the information posted on the website. McCausland also said police continue to urge Ayla’s family members to talk to the media. Asked if the Reynolds’ public statements complicate the investigation — particularly details they say were given to them by police — McCausland said they have not.
Justin DiPietro has refused numerous requests for comment from the Bangor Daily News since Ayla’s disappearance, including an unanswered phone call Wednesday.
“I have no reaction to specifics about what any family members are saying,” said McCausland. “I also have no reaction or information about what the website has said.”
Trista Reynolds said she has known some of the details she released over the weekend for several weeks, but chose to air them now in an attempt to put pressure on Justin, his sister and his girlfriend. Reynolds said DiPietro hasn’t responded to her phone calls or text messages for about two weeks.
“If this is going to be how I’ll get him to hear me, so be it,” she said. “He won’t answer my calls. He won’t even text me. I’m not stupid. It’s like, I know you know more than you’re telling me. Whether you want to start being against me and clam up and hide away again, that’s fine. I will put it out there for everyone to know the truth.”
Reynolds said she also is going on the offensive in other ways. She said she is seeking a lawyer to represent her in a suit she wants to file against the Maine Department of Health and Human Services for placing Ayla into an unsafe environment. Reynolds said DHHS officials took Ayla from Reynolds’ sister and mother and placed the girl with DiPietro. Reynolds was in a substance abuse treatment program at the time.
Reynolds said DHHS failed to protect Ayla by conducting background checks on DiPietro and the other adults who lived in the Violette Avenue home, inspecting the home for safety and following up with home visits.
Therese Cahill-Low, director of the DHHS Office of Child and Family Services, could not comment on the case of Ayla Reynolds or even confirm any involvement DHHS has had with her. But she did say the department’s authority is limited whenever a biological parent wants custody of a child who is staying with extended family members, as was the case with Ayla in October.
“A parent has legal rights to their child unless they have an unsafe child protection background,” said Cahill-Low. “Then it’s the parent’s responsibility to make sure the child is safe.”
Asked what outcome she would hope for in a suit against DHHS, Reynolds said she is seeking a lawyer to help her answer that question, but so far hasn’t found one, partially because she has no money to pay one.
“I want everyone to know that Ayla’s mommy will not back down,” she said.
You can’t hide forever the truth will come out. Just do whats best for Ayla and start talking.
Two months later and mom wants to go on the offensive? Should have been on the offensive a long time ago…
Why? How? What would she have shared two months ago that she has shared now? She did not have this information until now. You are hatefilled…
If you read the article properly Trista states that she’s “known” this information for a while now but because JD’s not talking she put it out there for the world to see & hopefully get him to respond. & someone making a comment based on marriage isn’t hatefilled….it’s logical. How many children would you want to different men? Trista is young & has made some bad choices so far & learned in a way nobody should have to learn, but downeastlaw we all learn vicariously through others if we are smart. My daughter who is 17 commented to me that she wouldn’t want to be unmarried like Trista with children to different men, one of those who was clearly a one night stand, & she also ended up in rehab because of her drinking problems & my daughter also pointed out that clearly TR & JD got around in the same unhealthy circles. I can tell you there is nothing hatefilled about my daughter, just observant like some others are.
I hope she is getting married to her other baby’s daddy.
I believe he’s in prison, arson from what I saw, and I think he’s still got years (7) to go.
Thanks for the info, these people take the cake on so many levels.
When you know better, you do better.
Are you kidding me? Well, no comment from me. I didn’t know that. Another freakin state case….like we need another one.
What is is name if you know
I do know the name, but I’m sorry, I’ve decided against posting his name. I just pray (against all odds) the child is safe. I really wish people had to take a test before having a child!
No problem i can figure it out easy enough
What I have read so far it seems to me she has been on the offense.
She’s awfully contradictory!
How so?
Someone needs to start talking… and let this sweet little girl rest in peace!
A new opportunity for the “mother” to get her face in front of a camera
How does her loss of custody gibe with suing the DHHS for failure to provide a safe place for her daughter?
come clean simple
There was a million reasons I wouldn’t want to be Justin, now it is 1,000,000 and 1.
She would have no trouble finding a lawyer if one thought there was money to be made here. Her claim is absurd. In hindsight it appears the girl was unsafe, but without just cause the government has no right to keep a child from a parent. They could do nothing.
“The Bangor Daily News will not repeat the accusations made by Reynolds because they could not be independently verified.” Seriously? Since when did the BDN let lack of verification get in the way of anything?
I wonder if it is true that the father took out a life insurance policy on the baby a week earlier. That would be pretty convicting in all reality. That is what the website says, who knows.
Except that life insurance policies don’t pay out without a death certificate. It can take years to have a missing person declared dead; not sure how long such a declaration would take for a missing toddler. Also, it would seem to me that if someone wanted to collect on a life insurance policy they would arrange an accident so there would be no issue with getting the death certificate instead of inventing a kidnapping. It’s all very bizarre. May the police crack this one soon.
I have life insurance on my kids through my employer. It is not a large amount, and the purpose is to cover funeral/burial expenses (God forbid) should we ever need it. If it weren’t presented as an option through the employer, I probably wouldn’t have gone out and looked to buy it. It’s not something people probably give too much thought to, but death is really expensive, and in the case of a child it is nearly always unexpected. I don’t think that having life insurance on the child is particularly damning if it is a “normal” amount to have for a child – say in the $5000 to $10,000 range. If he took out a $5 million policy on his daughter, well, then maybe that’s a bit sketchy.
Good Girl Keep it Up, Someone will help you I am sure. Keep in contact with the F.B.I. they will do all they can.
What I see when I read this article is obviously not what the other commenters see. I see a mother who is trying to find out her rights as a parent. The system took her child away after the mom temporarily placed the child with her family while she was being helped. The mom had a problem, placed children with grandparent, went to rehabilitation(she did all the right things based on her illness at the time), expected to have her children back when she healed, dad got one child, I assume the other younger child stayed with grandparent. Dad gets temporary custody of Ayla-that he obviously sought. If he didn’t care why would he seek custody? Mom is at a loss. She isn’t getting the satisfying answers that she is entitled to. DHS is not taking responsibility because the law allowed Ayla’s placement with the biological parent. I know that children go missing and that parents are in anguish not knowing and maybe never knowing. I don’t think Mom is trying to gain a spotlight. Mom is doing the only thing she feels she can. She has the medias attention and is in hopes of gaining some answers with that attention. She is pleading and crying. Dad is staying away from the media. He may not have answers. Men handle things slightly different. Sometimes they bottle up and don’t speak at all. It’s sad. I know that children are abducted every where and just heard a neighbor say today that someone approached her in the Augusta Walmart and tried to steal her toddler. Someone may have been watching the house where Ayla slept and at the opportune time, Ayla is gone. There’s so many possibilities. I just know that Dad wanted that child or he wouldn’t have made THAT effort! Why not just let Ayla stay with grandmother? None of it makes sense that either parent would purposely hurt that child!
I agree with you 100%. I don’t feel shes trying to get the spot light I feel shes trying to keep everyone aware her child is missing and shes not giving up. People comment that because the articles written in the past were about her history that shes trying to get the attention, I don’t think they realize it’s the reporter that asks the questions and reports the story the way they want to. As for the past choices/mistakes that both mom and dad have made I just hope that they can learn from their mistakes and change for the better, we are all human and have made mistakes at some point in time. As far as DHHS putting the child in the fathers custody I have nothing to say as I do not know why they made that decision, all I can say is I hope giving the biological parent custody is case to case. I have 2 children and my oldest has a different father who she does not know to her daddy is my husband(of 7yrs) So yes I to made a mistake years ago. I just hope and pray that Ayla is found.
From what I understand the father had every right to have his daughter come and live with him. Neither parent had “legal” custody of her so both had this right.
Someone sneaked into the home, smeared the child’s blood all over the basement and somehow cleaned it up, as it was Luminol that discovered it, and nobody sleeping down there heard a thing? Dad and his family had nothing to do with it?
We all want to believe it’s not as it seems, but I’m afraid it probably is. And the more time that goes on, the more I wonder how sick every player in this sad tale is for their own actions and roles in what happened and what continues to happen.
You are left wondering why people are behaving the way they are if this child were so desperately loved and missed. How does it end up that this baby is passed back and forth between so many people for various reasons, having at least two serious injuries in her short life (one her arm and the other whatever caused such significant blood loss in her father’s basement), and the mom is spending her time trying to press charges against the state while her daughter is still missing (or should I say hidden somewhere, since it was determined she did not wander off by herself) while the dad is in hiding?
How come the rest of the state seems to miss her more than the adults who were there that night? Sick world.
Trista…you completely failed your daughter and it’s sad that you can’t see that.
I just don’t get how you people can be so incredibly heartless. This woman lost her daughter and has just moved to a stage where she has accepted that her little girl is probably dead. She’s angry and devastated and IS WORKING WITH THE POLICE, just as she has been from e beginning.
If the police didn’t want her to post this info online right now, they would certainly be out there saying it’s not helpful. Instead they’re “not commenting” and encouraging family members to keep the media involved–and they most likely suggested it as part of their strategy of forcing the father to talk without hurting their own criminal case.
So unless you mean that she failed her child by going into rehab, I don’t know what you mean. It seems so cruel and heartless to stand in such self-righteous judgement of a girl who cleaned herself up for her kids, only to lose one to some unknown, likely violent and unthinkable circumstances.
Yeah Trista how dare you go to get help for your addiction so you could do better by your children. How dare you leave your children with your mother (their grandmother) while you did this. Shame on you Trista!
I probably missed it, but where has the story on BDN been about the arrest of the guy that broke the windows? It’s been on the Boston news for two days. I thought it might have been front and center here. Her TV interview was on this morning news down here….
Why are most of you putting the attention on the mother? The father and the 2some are the guilty ones, you don’t need a PHD to figure that one out, C’mon People!
Before you went to rehab you should have thought about the wellbeing of your daughter. Then you would know where she is today. But no you where selfish and thought of yourself only. So everybody just pray that little Alya well be alright and GOD is watching over her. Amen
this forum truly has a bunch of idiots. just saying.
May cause you some headache’s down the road calling someone idiots. Chumlee or maybe you now something no one else does.
Huh????????
What part did you not understand.
The part where you said going to rehab is “selfish”. Trying to get your life straightened out is not selfish….imo
Unless the state is paying for it, how many of us working class stiffs can AFFORD to go into in-patient rehab and leave our families, jobs, and responsibilities while we get clean and sober? Why didn’t she do AA or NA like the vast majority of the population who don’t use state resources? Go to meetings on her own time? Free meetings? And a better long-term result than most “in-patient” treatments.
I don’t know why she didn’t go to the other rehab options you mentioned. Maybe she was to far into her addiction for those meetings to help her. My point was, simply, that getting help for yourself so you can be a productive member of society, and not a burden to society, is NOT selfish.
Read anything into it that you want and turn it around and around. I been through Rehab and mad sure my family was safe first. So talk to someone else that does not understand Rehab. Have you got it. Pretty easy to understand for the common person.
Have I got it???? Maybe not, but thank goodness YOU’RE here to help all us “common people” to understand. Carry on…….
Not the brightest light bulb in the draw..
I believe she did think about her daugher as she placed her in the care of the grandmother and aunt. Sad that she had the addictions she did but she deserves credit for going to get help. Seems the father did not have much contact with her or Ayla during her short life–sad that he showed up and decided to take her which resulted in all this!
The father of the mother and aunt.Iam Glad she got help but not at the safety of her daughter.
She should have never have made the choices she did to put herself in the position of needing rehab in the first place. But that being said–she WAS having addiction issues, admitted it and went to get the help she needed, nothing selfish about that part, it would have been more selfish if she kept on getting high and ignoring the need for her daughter to have a mother who was clean and sober. Her daughter certainly wasn’t safe if she was living in a home with an addict. She placed her daughter in her grandmother and aunt’s home while she did this, none of the reports I have read suggest that this was not a safe place for Ayla. Then along comes Dad, nothing in the articles I have read suggest that this mother willingly let Ayla go live with him during her rehab. I in no way condone the behaviors of either of these parents, I am sure Ayla didn’t have the easiest life so hopefully she is in a better place now.
Perhaps if you would read the entire story or follow this case from day 1 you would know that DHHS took the baby away from the home Trista had placed her in for safe keeping. At this time their reasoning for doing so is unclear. It appears that Justin or his Mother were tired of paying child support, or being behind on child support payments. DHHS may not have followed procedure in this placement. Follow the trail from the time DHHS took the child and it will tell you who the selfish people are, and who did this for selfish motives.
Something hasn’t sat right with me for weeks now. When Ayla first went missing she had time to go on camera for the Today Show and other large news organizations but she wasn’t on Justin’s door step demanding to know what happened? You better believe that if my child were missing and my ex had them last, it would take an act of God to keep me away from that home and out of their face. She said in interviews initially that they hadn’t been in contact. Are you kidding me?!
Ayla, did anyone love you?
Couldn’t agree more. If I had to go for treatment, I’d be sure I left my child in the hands of someone I trusted or at least had constant contact with. I do like the fact that she is keeping the case alive, whether she’s guilty or not. Doesn’t matter. Poor Ayla had no say in any of this.
she did place the child in the hands of someone she knew and trusted–her mother and sister! Justin then came along and demanded his rights as a father–nothing legally she could have done to stop it.
she was advised by the police to stay away from there.
Was she advised to not help search efforts?
he would be MIA just like that poor baby girl!!!!
what I hate about police is once they suspect a conclusion as to how they suspect something happened they stop actively thinking and start looking to make the evidence at hand support their conclusion and as a result the real perpetrator gets further and further away from being caught. I would ask for different investigater as they make have a fresh perspective as a cold case detective would
Huh? Any chance you might rewrite your thoughts in a somewhat cohesive manner?
disagree.
Police say she still is a suspect, Reynolds says she is not. Gonna have to believe the police on this one.
Why do you wait 2 months to go on the offensive? As a parent, I would have gone on the offensive the second I knew anything was wrong with my child. Sue the state??? Your own actions led to her being taken from you. Make sure some of that blame comes back in your direction.
Oh, and someone please take that poor boy away from her before we have to read about Ayla’s brother meeting the same fate.
Give me a break — She wasn’t the one who “lost” Ayla that was DADDY! If she’d gone on the offensive any earlier you’d been one of the first to blast her for that…Bless you Heart!!!
I wouldn’t have “blasted her for that” if she went on the offensive earlier. I would have commended and admired her for fighting harder to find her child. She certainly isn’t innocent in this situation. Using her lost child for publicity 2 months later is disgusting.
The dad isn’t innocent in this either. Both parents were not the type of parents that any child deserves.
So, what are you saying, OCHO, if this was your child, and the news was going weeks without any word on your missing child, you would not get in front of the reporters and get your child’s face back in the papers?
Judgemental Much? She has been blasted for everything she’s done! People have even commented on her weight, what she wears etc. Funny thing is though is that she had care of Ayla for the first 18 months of her life and to my knoweledge nothing has been reported that Ayla was in an unsafe situation when living with her. It was only after dear ole’ dad came and took her that Ayla’s life was in jeopardy. He also must have thought this as he took out a life insurance policy on her the week after he took her. No job no way to support Ayla but has enough money to take out a policy on her life…this speaks loudly–
For those of you who are interested: after doing a little research it turns out that Jeremy Hanson is related to Jeffrey Hanson the registered sex offender from Clinton & not the one that maintains Ayla’s page. I know its not related to this article but I just find that the plot only thickens here. I liked how LE said that they were “so happy” that they were able to crack the case of the smashed windows that it leaves me to wonder why they haven’t yet cracked this one when there is apparently so many pieces of evidence/info that points to the father. Either JD’s story is full of legal loopholes or things are not quite as they seem.
Trista has a point. If you expect the State of Maine to follow through with their promises, then yes, you trust that they are keeping your daughter safe. She has to be looking back and thinking about all the things that she should and could have done better, all those signs that she should have acted on. She could have been a better mom, but couldn’t we all? I hope she gets on the news everyday and keeps putting pressure on the DIPS and keeps Alya’s beautiful face out there.
I think mom should speak out and place stuff on the website. Justin DiPietro is not speaking anymore to any News….hmmmmmm I wonder why? He was in the beginning…..
He really wasn’t though.. maybe once or twice. Other than that, he was passing notes to the police to read for him.
dad only went after ayla so he did not haffta pay support he did not love this little girl,he knows what happend and where she is (sadly to say she is gone) he thinks if they can not find a body then they can not put him behind bars but he gets no insurance if they don’t find a body. the 3 of them will break down soon the trueth will come out.
You profess to know everything and have all the answers, but in reality you know
“nothing”…
Read between the lines carefully and it seems obvious that the police don’t mind her giving the public information that they can’t. It puts pressure on the suspects. I thought it was strange when the cops said they think the 3 adults who were in that house were not telling all they knew. It would be different if they said only one of them but it’s like they are implying that all 3 of them know what really happened to Ayla. If that’s the case I’m sure they will have a hard time keeping their stories the same.
My heart goes out to all the people who are innocent of this tragedy but have been directly affected by this tragedy.
This is sad, this woman is looking to get a big payday out of this tragedy. I wonder who next will be on her list of lawsuits she wants to file against.
Well Said
Let’s see, sue first, movie next then a book?
You got it all figured out…good for you. Perhaps she’s not even going to sue the state maybe this is just a ploy to push Justin’s and his groups buttons — make them a little nervous knowing that Trista isn’t sitting at home just waiting for news of her little girls demise. Trista is being vocal (like it or not) and this could lead to someone getting upset and begin getting stories messed up. It doesn’t sound like the little depeitro family can hold their temper very well (given Lance’s last little run-in with the law)
Exactly, how sick is that to profit from a tragedy like this.
This story continues to be so sad to hear and read about, and MAINEDAD, I agree with your statement here, once again, she is back on the “Justin Bashing” instead of putting her focus on helping to find her loved missing child. I think Trista needs to back off and focus her energy into looking instead of bashing Justin, by the way, 22 months ago he was so wonderful she slept with him and got pregnant…my how things change
She is putting her focus on finding Justice for her missing child. The “Justin bashing” as you call it is to put some heat on Justin and get him talking. Why do you want her to look for the missing child, she didn’t loose Ayla. Justin knows exactly where his child is.
Exactly what else can she do to “find” Ayla? The police are resorting to diving in the freezing waters of the area. Is she supposed to get a wet suit and jump in to look for her daughter? Give me a break…Trista is doing the only thing she can do and that is to go after answers anyway she can.
I wonder who paid for her rehab? The State? Now she is suing them? Just curious?
Unbelievable!
How would you handle this if it were your child? After you answer that, look in a mirror, is she looking back? or is it you? I’ll keep in mind you don’t really know because it’s not you.
She should be quiet and let this fade? Spotlight on her! Listen to what your saying, clearly her daughter can’t keep the focus on this, the father isn’t, so who should?
I know a lot of people, I haven;t found anyone perfect yet and from where I stand everyone has their faults. Just because their not like your faults doesn’t make them better or worse then you and yours.
I think she’s doing the right thing in keeping this in the face(s) of the person(s) involved.
Im with you.. She is in it for the spotlight. I think there real deal is what the heck happened in the fathers house. What happened to this baby?. Well ill be the police have a a pretty darned good idea it allll happened at that house. Everyone in the house knows exactly what happened and I dont think they are smart enough to keep it to themselves for long
and the father is now not talking…..hmmmmm those adults in the house know what happen to this child.
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Trista cannot find a lawyer to sue DHHS, because if Justin was the father, he had 100% rights to come and get his daughter from Trista’s family while she was in rehab. Her statements that “DHHS failed to do a background check” on Justin and his family as equally absurd and improperly shift the responsibility onto the government. The time for making sure Justin was an appropriate person to father a child was BEFORE she got pregnant with his child.
Exactly…
FROM THE ARTICLE: “McCausland also said police continue to urge Ayla’s family members to talk to the media.”
McCausland made a big boo boo when he let the father and his family know the police didnt think they were telling everything they knew , that just made them clam up and made them know that they were being watched closely ! Bad move in my opinion !
Totally agree. To watch that video is kind of sad. If it were my child who was missing, I would be a complete emotional wreck. There would be almost nothing anyone could do to console me, until I found something out about what happened to my child. It is hard to watch her sit there smirking and smugly telling reporters that she made all of these demands, yet never actually made any formal complaints. Something isn’t right with both her and the father. Considering their history, the more I read of the case, and about her intentions to sue DHHS, it just seems like Ayla was a money baby to them.
If she wasn’t talking people would be saying she was hiding — this is a no win situation for this lady not to mention SHE’S LOST HER CHILD come on people are you serious? I’d be talking to everyone I could and I wouldn’t care about the 46 people who pushed the like button on your comment! I’d care about making someone tell me where my child was without regard to stupid people thinking I was trying to get on t.v.!
Honestly, I could care less how many ‘likes’ I get to any particular comment. I would state my opinion, whether or not it was considered popular. Click on my profile and you would find several that were not. Personally, something just seems off about both parents. When I read about both having a history of drug abuse, and the party that went on the night before she went missing, it tells me that this child wasn’t in a good family to begin with. Not to mention how long it actually took people to realize the poor baby was missing. In any case, I was commenting more on her actions and demeanor. At this point, I would think any parent would be much more distraught about having lost their child, and much less concerned with getting a payday through suing DHHS. Not that her claims have very much merit, when she never actually made a formal complaint.
The comment you replied to was talking about how suspicious the mother acts also. I tend to agree, she does not appear like a greiving mother to me either.
Did you ever think that the meds they have her on make it impossible for her to show real emotions? Not to mention she’s in shock. As a mother who lost a 5 yr old in a drowning accident I know all about those meds. Can you imagine the nightmares she has every nite trying to force herself to sleep. You know what else? Those nightmares never go away and it will eat her from the inside out. So just because she smiles or smirks on the outside doesn’t really mean that’s going on the inside.
I think the police made a number of big mistakes in the early part of the investigation that is making it difficult to make an arrest or get a conviction! I believe they know exactly what happened to Ayla but need time to straighten out the mess that was made in the beginning!
But she DID “clean up her act.” How can you say in one sentence that she’s a bad person for having been in rehab, and then go on to say that her problem is that she needs to clean herself up and take responsibility?
As for talking to the media, McCausland is ASKING her and other families to please keep the media involved because it keeps attention on the case.
So anyone who goes away for whatever reason and leaves their child in the care of a grandparent is not being a mother? Just wondering…many people go away and leave their children–mothers work, does this mean if something happens to their child at daycare then that parent isn’t a good mother? Or are you just saying that if someone is trying to get the help they need and it happens to be for a mental illness or addiction then you have the right to decide that they are not fit to be parents.
I hope someday we find out exactly what happened, good or bad. I hope you persue this till there is an answer.
We live in a world where everybody wants to blame others for their problems, thats what times out do for your children , instead of showing them right from wrong ! Time outs ! a way of disciplining your child when you dont have time to do it correctly ! Just sit here for ten minutes while i watch my soaps sweetie !
What’s WRONG with you? The baby is still missing and YOU think she should be quiet about it? I don’t care what you think of her keeping that baby in the spotlight is VITAL to finding her or finding out what happened to her.
but you cant appear to like it as much as she did..
I can’t appear to like what? Do you think any mother likes it when their baby goes missing? Are you saying that if it was your baby (or loved one) missing that you wouldn’t put as much effort into finding your loved one as this mother does? Are you saying you don’t think people who love you should bother looking for you should you suddenly go missing under suspicious circumstances? I’m so glad that you aren’t this baby’s parent. I’m glad that Baby Ayla is fortunate to have at least one parent who cares enough about her to make sure the public doesn’t forget that she’s still missing.
The majority doesn’t want to see this case go cold and this baby never found. If you can’t handle reading about a mother desperate to find her missing baby then why don’t you go do something else. There are people who really care about keeping baby Ayla in the spotlight and others, like you, who don’t care at all. Why not try being respectful of that and do something else that might interests you more. Maybe you might be better off reading articles about bigfoot sightings or alien invasions and commenting on those forums.
The bottom line is this… if you can’t live with this missing child being kept in the spotlight that’s your problem. The rest of us want to know what’s going on with this investigation. The rest of us want baby Ayla found one way or the other.
P.S. (Just curious… are you actually Justin, his mother, a relative of his or one of the people in the house that night? They, like you, seem to be the only ones who really want this to just all go away quickly and quietly. They are the only people who really don’t want Trista out there reminding the public that the baby is still missing.)
If she cared about that baby, why was she doing drugs and ending up in a rehab. If Dhhs was involved as she has mentioned then someone was recieving welfare, was our tax dollars paying for drugs and rehab while that gem of a father and his mother were supposedly caring for Ayla. The dad, grandmother, aunt and girlfriend know exactly what happened to that little girl that night and how they close their eyes at night is beyond me. With family like that poor little Ayla was doomed to a hard life, but someone took it upon themself to end that prescious little life. I pray that person or persons never find a minute of peace on this life and after.
A lot of people end up with drug problems for any number of reasons. That does not mean they don’t love their family. That’s ugly of you to even imply that. The fact that she was seeking help through rehab tells me she cared a lot… what’s it tell you? The baby disappeared while in the care of the father… HE and everyone in his house are responsible for what happened to Ayla. Even if you think that Ayla was destined to a bad life… killing her was not the answer. That’s beyond disgusting that you would make such a statement as to imply that it was good thing that someone took her precious life. What is wrong with you? You don’t kill a baby because you think it would be better than having a bad life.
I never suggested it was a good thing that Ayla has disappeared. If you are busy working and taking care of your family, when do you have time for drugs and alcohol? That father was a man she chose to have a child with, was he such a great person back then? Not the way she talks. Then she chooses to get pregnant again by another man who ended up in prison. She is definately good at picking daddy`s for her children. With these two she was definately guaranteed a check and medical coverage for 18 years. Rehab was a getaway, she could have gone to AA or ALANON and still taken care of her child herself. The situation was tragic from the start. I`m sorry, the only sympathy i have is for Ayla and her grandfather, i truly believe he is devastated by Ayla`s disappearance.Do you really think she was worried about her daughter when she was out drinking and doing drugs, do you think she knew what her daughter was doing then, what was more important then, apparently not her daughter. Oh and show me where i said it was a good thing someone took Ayla`s life.
Here is what you said and there is no other way this can be taken ”
With family like that poor little Ayla was doomed to a hard life, but someone took it upon themself to end that prescious little life.” Clearly you are saying that Ayla was doomed in life but someone took it upon themselves to end that. That absolutely suggests that what has happened to her now (missing) is an improvement over what she was born into (a bad family).
It’s easy to criticize other people for making bad choices… but it’s not valid unless you’ve have never made a bad choice or never loved someone who made a bad choice. Criticizing others and boasting about being unable to forgive someone for their mistakes, being unable to encourage reform, being incapable of caring about or loving someone after they make a mess out their lives does not make anyone a good parent or even a good person. Forgiveness and understanding do. You don’t have a right to condemn or sit in judgment of others.
But okay, let’s examine your criticisms anyway. I’d like to put the matter of the mother’s personal flaws aside and move forward and focus on what is really important – “Where is little Ayla?” Your focus has been on the mother… not the missing child, not the father, not the people who were present at the time she went missing. All you are commenting on is that this mother screwed up her life and that’s just unforgivable to you, despite the fact that this horrible tragedy happened while the was trying to turn her life around in rehab. You criticize her for going into rehab and twist that information into an ugly scenario claiming that this somehow proves to you that the mother doesn’t love her baby. Further proof to you is that her concern over Ayla missing is growing… really? This is proof of anything to you? From where I’m sitting your criticisms sound like nothing more than gossip and ugly talk.
You criticize the mother for leaving the baby in the care of her biological father. You call it “leaving the child with “just anyone.” Let me ask you something is this how you refer to the father of your children or your own father? Are they parents or “just anyone?” In the eyes of the law the father is never considered “just anyone” – he is a parent and because all parents have equal rights under the law, one parent cannot deny access to the child from the other parent – not without a court order. This mother was seeking such a court order… but for some unknown reason you’ve chosen to leave that part out and twist all the words around so that you can have your ugly say about the mother create an illusion that she left the baby with “just anyone.” This isn’t even legitimate criticism… it’s ugly and untrue gossip.
What I’m hearing from you is that you aren’t concerned about the child, you don’t criticize the father or the people in the home that night.. your focus is solely on bashing the mother. You want people to believe that it’s not possible for an alcoholic, drug addict, anorexic, bulimic, cutter or anyone who engages in any kind of self-harm, self-destruction can’t possibly love their child, their parents, their siblings…anyone. For you, the proof is in the fact that they developed an addition and haven’t conquered their addiction. Oddly enough you incorporate the very fact that working on an addiction is somehow further proof of a lack of an ability for an addict to love. I’m still scratching my head on that one – it seems she can’t escape your criticism and idle, ugly gossip no matter what she does to turn her life around, i.e., I think you said she shouldn’t have gone to rehab because you think that’s a vacation but instead she should have listened to you and gone to AA. What do you know about this? What makes you think rehab is a cake walk?
Fantasies… I hope your kids never make a mistake, never “go the wrong way” in life because from what you’re saying you aren’t capable of accepting that they’re human, not perfect and you don’t possess the ability to forgive or encourage. All I can say to that is that I hope that the “just anyone” in their lives is more compassionate and less judgmental than you. I hope they never are subjected to the kind of ugly gossip you dish out when bad things happen.
Now… I am DONE listening to your trash talk about Trista… if you want to comment on hope for Ayla, I’m all ears.
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The television broadcasts are not about the mother… they’re about keeping Ayla in the spotlight. Alya’s mother has accomplished that. If you don’t like it, that’s too bad.
Yes, the mother has a drug problem and the best thing she could possibly do for her children at that point is to go to rehab and correct that. If you’ve got a problem with that it’s your problem.
You claim that you would never leave your child in the care of “just anyone.” Are you awake? Where have you been all these months? She left the baby in the care of the baby’s biological father. From what I’ve heard through all media sources is that she asked DHHS to intervene and they told her that they could not prevent the biological father from caring for his own daughter. Case closed… It’s pretty darn naive of you to think that you’d have any say in the matter if you were in her shoes. You just aren’t a celebrity in the eyes of DHHS or any other governing authority and neither was Ayla’s mother.
You are criticizing the only person who has actually done something about Ayla’s disappearance… while at the same time having nothing to say about the father, the grandmother, the aunt and the rest of the clan in the house the night the baby disappeared. Nothing to say about all of them doing all they can to hide what happened at at the father’s house the night the baby disappeared. You’re not criticizing them for trying to sweep the whole thing under the rug. That’s disgusting.
The baby went missing while in the care of her father and he was responsible for keeping her safe the night she went missing from his house. You criticize the mother and don’t criticize the father? That just proves how very young, naive and foolish you are. While you may think you’re all grown up and know it all because you’ve got an 11 year old child, you need to grow a little more. I am grandparent, I have worked with disabled children, I have worked in the mental health field, in the legal field… and I’m not so gullible and easily misguided to forget that the baby was in the father’s care. I’m not inclined to think it’s right in any way to criticize a mother who lost her child for not blubbering on television. It’s not about her… it’s about her baby. If she sits there blubbering what good would that do? Go ahead and tell me because that’s what you said you’d be doing… that’s what I thought. Pretty stupid isn’t it?
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I hear hearts breaking all over Maine, by people
finding out this day, their parents wouldnt
do as much if they had were missing.
A very sad day indeed.
If Trista didn’t do drugs and go to rehab, maybe she wouldn’t be without her child. Guess we know what her first choice was….certainly wasn’t Ayla…..I am praying for the safe return of this child
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No one forced her to take drugs, that was “HER” choice. Her kids should have come first no matter what. She brought her drug problem on herself. WAKE UP it wasn’t a mistake it was stupidity on her part. I have no sympathy for any druggie!!
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I guess you can tell that I never did any drugs and didn’t let anyone else raise my children, whom I’m proud to say they don’t do drugs either because they didn’t grow up with any drugs around them.
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Or…you’re just ignorant (you sure sound like it when commenting) and your children hide it well from you while your nose is raised to the sky. Drugs are everywhere, not just among the poor and uneducated. I’ve known plenty of wealthy, well educated people who have abused drugs. As oleyane said, life is full of surprises…but you go ahead and tell us how great you are.
Wasn’t she just hugging all up on Justin (*cough* for the camera) at the memorial they had a few weeks ago in Waterville. Idk I’m not feeling her half hearted interviews especially when she’s got a smirk on her face all the time.
Maybe she went to rehab to clean up her act. HELLO…the human race and moms are not, always, perfect and sometimes people need HELP to get it together. Sorry to burst your superiority bubble.
The debate and arguments on this are pointless. Neither side wins, in the end a baby is missing, that is the issue.
even though my instincts tell me ayla is no longer here with us on earth. my heart wants her to be found unharmed. i do not feel enough is being done to find out what happened to this child. i do not want justin and his family to walk on this.
the bottom line is dhhs had the ball. THEY DROPPED IT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think the mother is doing the right thing by using the media to keep this case out there. if the farther isn’t guilty of something why isn’t he out there demanding to know what happen to his daughter. Ayla was in his care and he needs to step up and let Ayla’s mother know whats going on. As for DHHS why didn’t they do a background check on the father and girlfriend before releasing that child into their custody. They are suppose to keep children safe so why didn’t they check things out before hand. I feel she has the right to sue them they were suppose to ensure that child’s safety before handing her over. if the father isn’t guilty of anything but knows who is then he should step up and get justice for his daughter even if it was a family member who harmed her if not he is just as guilty as the person who did.
you never get closer on a child’s death or in this case till she is found what happened and where she is. I would go to hell and back to find answers.
DHHS does not do “background checks” on biological parents who by law are entitled to full custody of their own biological children. Absent a report filed by Trista that alleged abuse or neglect on the part of Justin, he was entitled to his daughter. Period. The persons who are FIRST and PRIMARILY responsible for “ensuring children’s safety” are the child’s parents. If Justin was not fit to be a parent, then Trista should never have allowed herself to become pregnant with his child. If she became aware after the fact of neglect or abuse on the part of Justin, then she could have pursued a child custody determination. She apparently did none of these things. She now attempts to place the burden on the state. That is wrong. SHe also, apparently, went on to have another child with another father, who, if the comments in this report are accurate, is currently serving in the state prison. She doesn’t appear to do her homework before she gets pregnant to determine if the sperm donors are going to be adequate fathers. WHy is this failure on her part DHHS’s responsibility?
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Completely agree! Let’s make the state responsible for doing background checks BEFORE women have babies???
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First there are other ways for her to keep her daughter’s plight in the news besides her plan to sue DHHS. Where was she when this child first disappeared? She couldn’t get to Waterville but was able to drag her lazy backside to New York. This child was failed in many ways and her parents are to blame for this, sick of people passing the buck (blame) to take the glaring light off their own misdeeds. They are both pitiful excuses for parents!
This video is sad beyond words. This young woman seems very disturbed and angry and almost void of compassion. I sympathize for the baby on her lap.
The three adult that were in the house know more than what they are saying. I don’t understand how someone can do something like this. I do believe the Mother had nothing to do with Ayla being missing. Those adult do know what happened. So sad
My God, I’d like to say to some people walk a mile in her shoes before you judge BUT I will say instead Thank God you DON’T have to walk a mile in her shoes.
I am praying for all involved in this case. I pray that little Ayla is found.
Missing for three months and mom is now going on the offense?
How many doorbells has she rung? How many people has she stopped and asked if they have seen her baby? How many streets has she canvassed?
And, what about Daddy? He appears to be quite removed from any concerns any dad would have for his baby. However, his stiffly worded “no comment” reveals more than he would dare say about what happened the night his baby mysteriously disappeared, as he lay in bed oblivious to it all.
Instead of pounding the Waterville pavement asking questions, what has his personal involvement been in searching for his baby? All he’s done is make aloof statements to the press to avoid comment. Did he ever knock on neighbor’s doors, scour the streets, and invite the press into his home so they could see where Ayla lay before she disappeared?
Sorry, but I just don’t see two very concerned and distraught parents, or family for that matter.
It’s been three months, and all we’ve heard from the family is they knew nothing about what happened.
This child has been failed on many fronts BY HER PARENTS!!! Shifting the blame doesn’t fool anyone, there are other ways to keep this child’s plight in the news besides threatening DHHS.
Shifting the focus onto DHHS might help distract her attention from the matter at hand – her missing baby. But it’s only momentarily. Once mentioned, it’s quickly forgotten. The baby is still missing, and she’s blaming the DHHS., while she sits in a comfortable lounge chair in Portland.
Neither she, or her husband, appear concerned.
What was the point in that video? To show that she doesn’t like cameras?
The point was to have Aylas name in the news today. Looks like she got her point across to everyone but you!
Do you trust the way the man-child Justin took out a 25,000 life insurance policy on his baby?
Did you hear that too shortly after she disappeared, can we just say odd on that part
I know there are modest life insurance policies to help pay for a child’s funeral, but that is generally low (5K) and usually offered through an employer. From what I’ve heard he was unemployed at the time he purchased the policy on Ayla. It’s normal for a parent to have life insurance on themselves and list their child as beneficiaries. As evil as it sounds there are some parents who have killed children to avoid paying child support. I don’t know if that is the case here, but in addition to all the other red flags, this is damn suspicious.
How one “appears” has nothing to do with how they cope in a situation, so tragic as this. I have no idea how I would “appear” in the public eye, if this were me. Everyone deals differently. One thing I know for sure, is an innocent baby is still missing! I hope I never have to know this kind of suffering. The truth will hurt all of us. One day we will know the suffering Ayla went through, probably since birth. We need to pray for Ayla, at this point that is all any of us can do.
What does it cost to give these adolescents free babies to play with? What does it cost the babies to be accessories, amenities, to young people like this? The sense of entitlement in this interview is staggering. The references to the social, medical, law enforcement, counseling, and legal services that have been at the disposal of this young woman, simply because she has given birth, make me hang my head in disbelief and despair. Who can imagine a happy fate for a child conceived as a shortcut to adulthood, and an adulthood achieved entirely on somebody else’s nickel?
Even rehab. All over the state, people get clean and sober in AA and NA. It is HARDER than rehab, though. You have to DO it, not have it done to you or for you. Why would an alcoholic or addict even imagine she should have to get herself to a meeting when she has so thoroughly learned that the only thing she has to do is keep a baby on her lap and life will flow her way?
Poor babies, all of them. This story shows a world turned upside down by the bad idea that it is kind and loving to pay kids to have kids before they’ve even gotten a hint of what they might be able to do with the life they have. The state creates Perpetual Juveniles and pays them to play house. Of course everyone’s heart will be broken.
What a brilliant post.
What you all don’t understand is that this interview was more than likely ascended to under recomendation of law enforcement in an attempt to turn up the heat on the offenders.
Stop holding that other precious child in your on-camera interviews. I feel so bad for the baby and can only imagine what an upbringing he will have.
Good luck finding the girl I hope they hang the SOB
I have to wonder what the Dad has done to find Ayla other than keep his mouth shut tight, and drive his Brother to beat up someone . I and every other person that wants Justice for Ayla wants Trista to stay in front of the camera every day. It is called putting pressure on the perp, and it is done with LE approval and recommendation.
The DiPietro’s home address shouldn’t have been published. It was already vandalized once. I’m sure the police will crack the tight mouthed threesome sooner or later. I’m surprised none of them has the rudimentary spark of a conscience that would make it difficult to keep silent this long. All I can say, “Breathe air of freedom while you still can.” This is one case that neither the police nor the public is going to forget. While there’s still time, one of you should crack and come forward.
If you people really want to feel good go kick a puppy today. You are very sorry excuses for human beings.
I agree
Cue the banjo music.
I can’t even imagine what it would be like to have your child missing. It must me the one of the most horrific things that could happen. With that said, I don’t agree with Ayla’s mother wanting to blame and sue the State for not keeping a closer tab on Ayla, In my opinion if the mother was more responsible she wouldn’t have had to go into rehab. therefore would have had her child with her. She now has another child who was taking care of this one. I feel for these little children that have been brought into this world with parents like this. As horrible as this is take responsibility for your own actions don’t blame DHHS.
She says in the video that she had a family meeting with DHHS and they made an agreement on how DHHS would handle the time Ayla spent in Justin’s house. It sounds like they didn’t do what they said they would. I’d be pissed too if I was told that someone was going to make sure that where my 18 month old was going to spend time was going to be safe and they failed to do it. In this case the failure to do this lead to Ayla’s demise.
Nice that she can afford to have the heat high enough so that her baby only needs to wear a onesie.
OMG! And a very healthy happy little guy at that. Seems like this young mother can do nothing right with some of you.
going through the hell she’s going. Maybe you should be saying your doing a
good job.
OMG!
So what if the baby has on a onesie! I lived for years in an apartment that I had NO control over the heat. My children wore shorts and t-shirts in the dead of winter because it was so blasted hot in the apartment!
Rude, cruel, judgmental, irrelevant comments keep coming and coming and coming.
Wow. Thats about the most idiotic, mean spirited, useless opinion Ive read in a long time. You must have a lot of friends.
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There are some extremely judgmental,verbally and emotionally abusive people commenting in this forum. They have narrow minds and are apparently utilizing very low emotional intelligence as well as intellectual intelligence. It seems in the Eastern Maine area, especially, (or I should say anything above Augusta) if an individual decides something is a reality, the way it ought to be, then it IS so, the truth be damned. So many slam Trista for doing the right thing. So many people here judge her for EVERY little thing in her life, about her life and herself so completely and think/ feel it is perfectly all right to do so. I wonder, how would these people be reacting if this was their life up for comments that are cruel, abusive, inaccurate, lies, rumors and gossip made worse with each posting? They’d blow a gasket.
Good job, Trista! Keep doing interviews, keep speaking out, keep doing exactly what you are doing to find your angel, Ayla! God bless you, hon!
Or maybe people are getting tired of everyone enabling/normalizing such dysfunction so people can validate themselves (and their own poor choices) by proxy.
People are supposed to be impressed that she went to rehab, but not judge that she had the addiction through 2 pregnancies, and probably isnt “cured” after a 10 day stay. People are supposed to give her so much praise for how much she “cares about her kids” when she willingly put herself and them in these situations with two losers. If she was that great a mother and that concerned for Ayla, where was that concern when she was out partying with this second loser (supposed felon), and “accidentally” getting pregnant with the second child instead of putting Ayla first?
It’s not like the father’s any better, but the way people try to turn Trista into a saint is pretty sad. It’s also pretty absurdly hypocritical how in one breath people wanna talk about “not judging”, but have no problem going after the penis having parent. It seems less about “enlightenment” and more self validation.
I haven’t read one post where anyone has “turned Trista into a saint”. I don’t think people are judging Justin simply stating the facts: HE HAD CARE OF ALYA WHEN SHE WENT MISSING! Keep on keeping on with all your judgemental ways we know you will.
Amen, jb!
Namaste!
No, accusing Justin of breaking his own windows to try and “throw people off the trail/garner sympathy” isnt judging. All the other speculation against his side of the family (and what monsters they must be) isnt judging. Equating silence with automatic guilt isnt “judging”. How is that ANY different than stating the FACTS that relate to Trista?
It’s “ok” to assume tons of stuff about Justin and his family based on the little information we have, but when Trista’s flaws are called into similar question, that’s “picking on her” and “judgment”.
It’s funny people are so willing to go the holier than thou route when they’re being among the most hypocritical themselves.
This is called countering and discounting….
It’s called waiting till all the facts are in. Holding no bias. It’s one of the many qualities that a SMART person has and oleyane has it in spades.
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Hmmmm, if people are tired of her looking for her child, don’t read about it or watch tv when she is on for an interview.
How many people posting here have never made ANY mistakes, whether it be personal or parenting, big or small? Anyone who says none is lying to themselves and everyone around them.
My point, however, was made, simply by way of your post.
Nice attempt at a straw man argument, but nowhere did I remotely say that. It does go to demonstrate that the facts arent apparently as relevant as trying to manipulate through emotion based argument.
Some stuff DESERVES to be judged, especially if credit is supposed to be given for it’s opposite. In one breath, people are supposed to be giving her credit for (supposedly) turning her life around because she stayed a week and a half at a rehab facility, bot not supposed to fault her for needing to to begin with. And how wonderful and caring a parent she is, but ignore that even as a parent she continued to make choices that affected her kid(s) lives.
It’s inconsistent (and hypocritical) argument. People SHOULD be judged if they’re doing things that puts their kids at risk. People seem perfectly willing to do that in regards to smoking in a car, or how many happy meals is too many to give their kid, but strangely it’s “acceptable” around here to be a sexually irresponsible addict with no stability.
And the father’s a dirtbag as well. That’s not “picking sides” that’s insisting on a bare minimum in what we expect from parents. And if the parent cant even uphold that bare minimum, you’re damn right they should be judged.
There’s a difference (that it seems many on here don’t get) between “being perfect” and not making terrible choices in life. A “mistake” is a one time thing (that you’re SUPPOSED to learn from), like forgetting to set an alarm, or missing your exit. It isnt “accidental multiple kids” or addiction.
“Size” of the mistake, and “number of same mistakes” are important determinations on whether its a “mistake” or lifestyle choices. There’s a difference between forgetting to set your alarm clock the night before a meeting and texting while drunkely driving your friends home. One’s a mistake anyone could make, the other deserves judgment.
Just because people have an opinion about the grown-ups involved, doesn’t mean people are tired of looking for Ayla. I find it hard to believe that a person would make such a close-minded comment – apparently when that person has already stated that they are emotionally & intellectually above the other posters on this list by denigrating them and telling them that they are not emotional or intellectual beings. Where is your WeAreOneInSpirit attitude?
& There are people in this story who had a right of responsibility to Ayla. Trista had that responsibility when she decided to continue her pregnancies, but she put her needs before her children. I commend her for going into treatment but she only did that because she was threatened that she would lose her children. She didn’t do it by making the decision herself. And Justin scored that responsibility when he found out that he had a child. Both failed Ayla.If anyone has the opinion that these are just children in adult bodies who don’t know how to make the right decisions, then people have a “choice” to comment: I suppose if you had your way we would all be biased about the case or just keep our opinion to ourselves because it doesn’t gel with your superior opinion or judgement. Remove the plank out of your own eye before trying to remove the plank out of your brothers eye. Being judgemental is an unfortunate human condition but we “ALL” do it even if we say we don’t.
LOL…right.
I love how people read into what is written and then elaborate as if what is written in is truly there.
Namaste!
I agree. People fail to realize that she is young and not overly educated or well rehersed in her interviews, like many people under these circumstances. If she was well put together, well spoken, and composed, then everyone else would accuse her of being fake and hiding something. She would never “win” no matter her approach. The people who judge her should feel ashamed, but that would call for intelligence as well.
Loose Lips sink ships > They all should be keeping their mouth shut, and let investigaters do their job.
Somethings you are better off not knowing. If that was my kid Those people would tell everything they know before they die .
The website is a emotional piece If you are the type to cry at sad movies maybe you might be better off not seeing the little girl. Might bring a tear to your eyes
Lets face ir folks, the ONLY innocent one in this case is Ayla.
As much as I want to have empathy for this mother and the terrible loss she has experienced, there is just something about her on-camera presence that rubs me the wrong way. I can only read her interviews in print. I think I need to see a different kind of emotion from her. Her earliest televised interviews left me astonished that she could even speak coherently so soon after such a loss. Maybe it’s just me, but I find it difficult.
The adults in the home at the time of her disappearance need to be put into a jail cell and fed broth and bread until they talk. Period.
Considering what Ayla got out of this, I’d skip the bread and broth part. They dont deserve that much decency.
Elisha, Courtney, and Grandmother Dipietro….
It is evident from the video clips and photos of little Ayla that she has a BIG spirit–and spirits do not die. She WILL keep visiting you in your dreams, in your quiet waking moments: reaching out, reaching out, crying. She trusted you to take care of her, as all babies must trust in the adults in their world to care for them! That is all they have! THEY have no choice! Now, in order for her to have peace, she is trusting that you will not continue to betray her by refusing to reveal what you know.
Justin, if you had nothing to do with your daughter’s disappearance, you would not be refusing to talk, refusing to help get the word out, to keep the HOPE alive that this beautiful little girl might be found! No matter what the public and the police have to say, you would be out there maintaining your innocence and deflecting the negative publicity with a steady gaze and unwavering insistence that you had nothing to do with Ayla’s disappearance.
Blood on the cellar floor? A 25K life insurance policy for you in the event of Ayla’s untimely death? Is that all she was worth to you? Did you intend from the day you took her from her maternal grandmother’s custody that something could happen to this child so that you would be in a position to collect the financial benefit?! Come out from wherever you are and stand before the world and tell us this is just a terrible coincidence!!
Elisha, Courtney and Grandmother Dipietro, it is way past time to bring little Ayla home. Whatever happens as a result of coming forward with the information that will solve this case, it will be far better than the effects of maintaining silence and prolonging the turmoil. Please, one of you, do what is right, for you and for this blessed child! Each of you is MOTHER. It is time to break the conspiracy of silence!!
The adults in the home at the time of Ayla’s disappearance need to be put into a cell and fed broth and bread until they talk. Period.
I think most of the comments here that are judgmental and negative about Trista reflect the growing awareness of most people that instead of helping people, the much-vaunted “social safety nets” utilized by Trista are perhaps as much to blame for Ayla’s fate as anything else. I urge those of you who are defending Trista to read the comment posted here by Elistist. Far more eloquent than anything I could write. But instead of helping Trista and Ayla, it appears that the “social safety net” allowed this young woman to repeat her first action that required state intervention–that of becoming an unwed mother– at a time when she was apparently drug or alcohol addicted.
I am just curious how many of us working stiffs could afford to go into ten-day rehab (unless it was paid for by the state, like Trista’s was) and leave behind our families, jobs, or responsibilities. No, I suspect most of us would have done it the old-fashioned way–nightly meetings at AA or NA.
Trista, Ayla, Justin, and this new baby boy (and his father, whomever that is) are living examples of the failure of what surely meant to be part of the “great society” initiatives, but which are clearly resulting in a society where personal responsibility is dead. Just like we all suspect Ayla is.
I think that eventually the police will get an anonymous “tip” about where Ayla’s body is. J. D. needs a death certificate to cash in on the policy. There’s no way he will hold out for years to get a legal declaration of death. I just hope that he gets nailed before he cashes it in. Scumbag.
That may be true, but I do believe that if the death is a suicide or considered suspicious most insurance policies will not pay.
this whole story bothers me, i live less that an hr from where this baby was last seen…. i have kids…. my heart is broke that she is still missing… im bothered alot that the mother has no emotions durin this video, no tears nothin… if that was one of my kids id b bawlin my eyes out! i pray for ayla i really do!! who ever u r who took her or hurt her, please turn urself in, asap, its been 2 months now!!!! my heart goes out to u baby girl, wher ever u r!!
Psychologically she has reached a place where she is dark & numb. She is now a woman on a mission to find out what happened to her baby. I think in the beginning she thought Ayla would be coming home and wasn’t overly distressed because she was positive her baby would be in her arms soon enough. If you read her statements of recent Trista doesn’t want to think about what happened to Ayla. Reading between the lines I believe that she thinks her little baby is with God now but the least she can do is try to bring her little body home. Standing by her side it what we all hope & support her in.
u would think that the state would have done background checks on ppl but then again look at what these foster families have done to the kids placed with them by the state …. i do not blaim her for wanting answers i would if this was my lil baby ….. if the child was in a safe place they should have left her there …she is a very cute baby ..i hope the mother fines out what happen ..my husband lost his baby at a year and half old and it is a cold case now … so good luck to you (the mother of ayla) ,,, i hope u find out what happen to your baby…
DHHS only steps in when they shouldn’t and never does when they should… they are axx backwards. They should step in and take Gabby out of the DIPS household. One thing that I know for sure, if they did something to prevent Justin from taken Ayla, Most likely she would be home playing with her little brother and Trista would not have to be on every tv and newspaper doing what Justin should be helping her do! I’m not saying that Trista is the best Mom, but Ayla did not come up missing when she lived with her. We need to incouage her to put the pressure on the DIPS. And for all of you that wishes there will be plenty of time to call out her wrongs once poor Ayla is found!
Just what should DHHS have done to “prevent” Justin from having custody of his biological child? What kind of government do you people want anyway?? Absent a complaint from someone that Justin was abusive or neglectful, how do you think DHHS gets involved???