Rev. Robert Carlson, Greater Bangor leader, found dead in Penobscot River

Posted Nov. 13, 2011, at 12:59 p.m.
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The Rev. Bob Carlson in June 2010.
The Rev. Bob Carlson in June 2010.
The Christian flag flies at half staff in front of East Orrington Congregational Church Sunday morning, Nov. 13, 2011, after the death of the Rev. Robert Carlson this weekend.
The Christian flag flies at half staff in front of East Orrington Congregational Church Sunday morning, Nov. 13, 2011, after the death of the Rev. Robert Carlson this weekend.

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BUCKSPORT, Maine — The Rev. Robert Carlson, head of Penobscot Community Health Care and a well-known figure in Greater Bangor, has died.

The Waldo County Sheriff’s Department reported that Carlson’s body was found mid-morning Sunday in the Penobscot River near the Penobscot Narrows Bridge, which crosses the river between Verona Island and Prospect.

“It looks like this gentleman jumped off the bridge and his body was recovered this morning,” said Waldo County Sheriff’s Department Chief Deputy Jeff Trafton. “We got the first call around 4 a.m. We don’t know [how long he was on the bridge before he jumped]. All we know is we got a report of a possible jumper.”

Trafton said Sunday afternoon the death is still under investigation. He said he hadn’t had a chance to talk to the detectives investigating the death and both were off duty.

“I’m not aware of any indication that anyone else was on the bridge and I haven’t heard anything about a [suicide] note,” said Trafton.

Carlson lived in Bangor, about 25 miles from the bridge.

Carlson was the founder and president of Penobscot Community Health Care; a founder of Hope House; a previous chaplain for Husson College as well as the Bangor and Brewer police and fire departments; and is recognized across the state as part of WVOM-FM’s “God Squad,” according to a recent Bangor Daily News story.

“I’ve known him for 20 years and he’s been a regular member of our panel for five years now,” said WVOM morning show co-host Ric Tyler, who presided at an award ceremony with George Hale for Carlson and his wife, Elaine, last Wednesday. “My last memory of him is my most moving memory of him, Wednesday night as he addressed the crowd at the Bangor Civic Center and his wife was by his side with her arm around him. That was a picture for me, and that one image is why I find myself grieving for Elaine.”

Robert and Elaine Carlson were honored as recipients of the Katahdin Area Council of Boys Scouts of America’s 15th annual Distinguished Citizen Award in Bangor. Carlson was a Boy Scouts volunteer for 41 years and Elaine was a Girl Scout leader for 15 years.

Several close friends said that Carlson gave them no indication there was anything wrong even hours before his death.

“It comes as a complete shock. I just saw Bob yesterday just after noon at the Harvest Festival [at the Bangor Civic Center],” said former Maine Gov. John Baldacci. “My wife and I were there for a demonstration program for Maine Foods. We’ve been working on health care issues and we were talking about that.

“He came in waving and smiling. Things seemed to be, as far as I could tell, the same as they always were with him.”

Carlson also officiated at a wedding ceremony at Morgan Hill Events Center in Hermon early Saturday night.

Penobscot County Sheriff Glenn Ross, Carlson’s friend and co-worker for 33 years, had just spoken with Carlson around noon Saturday.

“We’re devastated. I got the call this morning and I’m shocked,” said Ross, who was audibly upset by the news of his friend’s death. “We talked several times a week. He always had good advice and I could always call him, 24 hours a day seven days a week. Nobody’s more surprised about this than me.”

Carlson was Penobscot County Jail administrator when Ross was hired and later became the jail’s chaplain. He was chaplain for the Penobscot County Sheriff’s Department for 38 years.

“He’s helped people through crises such as the one we’re going through today,” said Ross. “He’s a victim’s advocate and a unifier who built bridges between problems and solutions.

“He worked with all religions in Bangor and knew everyone. As a matter of fact, he had religious contacts all over the U.S. His knowledge was way beyond the boundaries of Maine.”

Carlson, 68, was married to Elaine for 43 years. They had one son, three grandchildren and six great-grandchildren. The Air Force veteran served as senior pastor of the East Orrington Congregational Church for 25 years.

“He built that parish in Orrington into what it is today and paid off the church debt,” said Sister Mary Norberta, who was president and CEO of St. Joseph Healthcare for 30 years. “He’s done a number of funerals for people who can’t afford them and helped dying patients and their families, even taking health care power of attorney for a number of patients over the years. He went the extra mile all the time.”

Carlson, who moved to Maine with his wife in 1970, also served on the St. Joseph Hospital board of trustees for more than 20 years.

Norberta had a bond with Carlson as a fellow Massachusetts native with a shared passion for health care and aiding the underprivileged.

“It’s been 30 years since we met and we’ve been friends since I came here,” Norberta said in a phone call from Boston while on a rare visit home. “He’s from Somerville and I’m from South Boston. Years ago he worked as an orderly at a state hospital in Boston before he studied in the ministry, so health care has always been on his front burner.”

Norberta said she could think of no reason for Carlson to want to end his own life. She and Carlson had coffee together a week ago and she remarked how he looked like he had lost some weight.

“I knew he’d been sick in the past, but healthwise, I thought he was doing quite well. As a matter of fact, he looked very good and he mentioned he’d cut down on his weight by watching his diet,” she recalled. “That’s why this is so amazing to me.”

The Rev. Carl Scheiber Jr. of East Orrington Congregational Church broke the news of Carlson’s death to his congregation halfway through Sunday morning’s service.

The church, which was flying its Christian flag at half-staff Sunday, had a regular Sunday congregation of 12 to 18 people when Carlson first started in 1979. It grew to 224 five years later, according to church records.

Dr. Robert Allen, executive medical director of PCHC, a non-profit community health center serving Greater Bangor, was effusive in his praise for his friend and health care compatriot.

“We’ve been around since 1997 and Reverend Bob’s been around from the beginning,” Allen said. “He’s been a huge figure for us and a person who cannot be replaced.”

“He’s certainly been our spiritual leader as far as our mission and moving it forward to taking on things like dental care, mental health and other public services,” added Allen. “He was a well-known, larger-than-life figure and our congressmen, senators and politicians all knew him on a first-name basis. That was an invaluable ally to have.”

“I am shocked and terribly saddened. My thoughts are with Bob’s wife, Elaine, and their family during this tremendously difficult time,” said Sen. Susan Collins, R-Maine, in a statement Sunday.

U.S. Sen. Olympia J. Snowe and former Gov. John R. McKernan Jr. also offered condolences.

“We were deeply saddened by the news of Rev. Bob Carlson’s passing. The greater Bangor region and indeed the state of Maine has lost a beloved friend and an extraordinary figure, who has been a passionate voice improving countless lives,” Snowe and McKernan said in a statement.

“Bob was a ‘doer’ in every sense of the word who has left a lasting and positive impact that will reverberate for generations to come,” Snowe and McKernan said.

Carlson was a board member of Rotary International, Penobscot Job Corps Academy and Grace Evangelical College and Seminary. He was also president of the Maine Primary Care Association, Maine Community Health Plan and Maine Community Health Options.

“When I saw him on Tuesday, he was very robust and full of life,” said longtime general practice lawyer and newly elected Bangor City Councilor Joe Baldacci. “He put one hand on each of my shoulders after I’d been standing outside shaking hands all day and told me I needed to make sure I paid attention to advocating for the the less fortunate and those who needed health care and services. He’s just a very giving person. Everyone in our family is extremely shocked and saddened by this.”

Shawn Yardley, Bangor’s director of health and community services, worked with Carlson on several community health-related issues.

“I was with him Wednesday night and we had talked on Thursday and Friday and there was no mention that anything was amiss,” said Yardley. “He was his usual energetic, thoughtful self. I am totally stunned. I’m saddened at the loss for the community.”

Former BDN crime and police reporter and current columnist Renee Ordway and her family knew Carlson and his family well.

“There are no words to describe his place here amongst us. He called my daughter, a freshman at UMF [University of Maine at Farmington] Friday morning to just say hello and to say he missed seeing her face at the Veterans Day pancake breakfast [at the Brewer Auditorium],” said Ordway. “I have worked and loved and lived with his presence for 23 years, as have so many others in this community. He was my comfort zone during tough times and I know he was to so many others.

“The best we can do for him and for Elaine right now is to respect his privacy and to wait and see what the truth really is.”

BDN writer Alex Barber contributed to this report.

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  • Anonymous

    This is such a loss to Bangor. My thoughts are with his family and friends.

  • Anonymous

    I am in SHOCK!

  • Anonymous

    OMG – this is terrible – Bangor has lost a great and wonderful man. My prayers go out to his family, friends and all those who knew and worked with him. Blessings. 

  • Anonymous

    Condolences to the family, he sounded like a wonderful man

  • Anonymous

    Is there anyone who knows Rev. Carlson well who believes he would do this?

  • David Des Isles

    Wow! Prayers go out to his family and loved ones.

  • Anonymous

    OMG! Words are at a loss here! This is very shocking news, and I can’t understand why? Rev. Carlson was such a great man! RIP :-(

  • Anonymous

    Not ONE bone in my body will believe this man took his own life!

  • Anonymous

    This is SO upsetting :( He was an amazing person with lots of love in his heart for all people. I hope they do some investigating and figure out what and why this happened. such a remarkable human being. I can’t ever imagine him “jumping” off a bridge. RIP Rev. :(

  • Anonymous

    I can NEVER imagine him doing this! I hope they do further investigation. This is really unsettleing :(

  • Anonymous

    Wow. I have a hard time accepting that he would jump. Rest in peace Rev.

  • Jim LaPierre LCSW, CCS

    God Bless and comfort those he left behind. Shocking and tragic.

  • Anonymous

    God works in mysterious ways………

  • Anonymous

    He was HUMAN.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_MQYE5AQETBTNE32X4Q47L2DCCY terri

    I agree, so hard to understand, he was such a gifted man, prayers go out to his wife and family!!

  • Anonymous

    Horrible! I find this hard to believe.

  • Anonymous

    This does not seem possible. I have a hard time believing he would jump on his own free will. But stranger things have happened. I hope they further investigate this. And not post anything like they have until they know for sure what happened. My heart is with everyone in his life, his family, his friends, his co-workers, and the community.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_4FIF6YYY4R7RCJQASRPFLEPIGA meblkbear35

    so completely sad.  i never met the man but had more than one opportunity to see…first hand…what he had done…and the legacy he left behind.  his caring for the less fortunate was outdone by no-one and the bangor area has lost an amazing humanitarian.  my heart goes out to his family and those whose lives he touched.  RIP rev. bob :(

  • Anonymous

    Holding his family in my thoughts and prayers.  He was a wonderful man who touched my life and the lives of many others.

  • Anonymous

    I knew Rev. Carlson since 1973 and he is a human being above reproach.  My heart aches that I did not have the opportunity to talk to him, as he has talked to so many in the same predicament.  My condolences to Elaine and the rest of the family….God certainly lost a trooper today but gained a very important angel!!

  • Anonymous

    this is very true. i guess it’s just so shocking for us who knew him. I would never imagine in a million years him doing that… if he did, there was definitly a reason :( not your typical “i hate my life” type of jumper.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=668056901 Sally Nason

    yeah i have hard time believing that too

  • Anonymous

    I never met him but certainly heard him on WVOM several times.  It seems he made quite an impact in his 68 years.  My thoughts are with his family.

  • http://www.facebook.com/stacey.thurston.mclaughlin Stacey Thurston Mclaughlin

    I am in shock !  I don’t even know what to say.

  • Anonymous

    This may be hard to believe even for those of us who saw him multiple times a week and worked with him and knew him well but obviously there was something he didn’t want others to know. He was a wonderful person but he was also human and could hurt just like the rest of us. We all wish we could have helped avoid this and he will be greatly missed. RIP rev. Lets remember him for the great things he did and not dwell on the what if’s.

  • Anonymous

    I not sure exactly what you mean by that, depression is an awful burden to bare. There is no “typical” jumper.

  • Anonymous

    well i just mean i cant imagine him thinking “i hate my life, let’s jump off a bridge” :( I guess i worded it wrong, i appolgize.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_Q4AP5EYCYRCGZGIJGWI6TLIUEA Tom

    Rest in peace, and may God grant solace to his family and friends.

  • Anonymous

    This man who helped so many cope with life’s problems must have had one that was too much even for him.  Godspeed Rev.

  • Sara Farnsworth

    Wasn’t he just on WVOM on Friday?  Even though I never met him in person, I enjoyed listening to him on “The God Squad”.  So sad – he will be missed!

  • Anonymous

    So true. My husband committed suicide and no one would have ever believed he would. We do not know what goes on in another person’s head. I am saddened. Bob married my husband and I as he did many people. My he rest in peace.

  • Anonymous

    Even though I never attended church regularly ..I have met him numerous times…he was always upbeat and friendly and always did good for others..but like many of you have stated..he was human…sometimes people reach a breaking point…we do not know the whole story here but look at the Doctors that have taken their own lives..I think within the past year or two there was one right in Orrington…it is very hard to believe when something like this happens and very mind boggling! I am sure we will get the whole story at some point in time but we should all remember him for the good he did and be thinking of his family and community at this time. 

  • Anonymous

    Bob, you had been through so much for so many.  What happened???????????????
    If someone knows the reason, if there is one,  and it doesn’t implicate others kindly let it pass with him. He has nothing left to give.

  • Anonymous

    One of the best people. This is such tragic and sad news about Rev Bob.

  • Anonymous

    I do not  believe for a minute he jumped.  My condolences to Elaine and his vast amount of friends.  RIP  Bob!

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Davida-Willette/100000655412147 Davida Willette

    you never know. the world has turned into a really bad place. it is a shock for someone like that to do that. i think i used to see him alot at the basketball tournaments standing on the end areas . i didnt know he was the head of pchs until recently. this is a bad time of year for alot of people thanksgiving and christmas i guess it is a winter depression gets people down finances health issues . 

  • Anonymous

    Yes, so true. You recall the naturalist Judy Kellogg Markosky of this area. She was such a well regarded person and so intelligent. At a relatively young age, she was diagnosed with dementia or Alzheimers.  Perhaps someone like that could not abide the thought of being dependent on others.   Maybe something similar, but that is not the main point.
    The main point is all the good Rev Carlson did for this community and for all the lives he touched so positively. He will be extremely missed.
    Condolences to his family.

  • Anonymous

    That is so hard.  We never know.

  • Anonymous

    I agree, he of all people would have known what supposedly happens to those who take their own life (limbo).  So if in fact he did this, then one would have to assume the only plausible reason would be self-punishment.  Doesn’t seem in his character.

  • Anonymous

    Rev. Bob was such a gentle man. I may not have always agreed with everything he did, but he was a kind hearted man who’s intentions always seemed so good. Lord, please bring peace and understanding to his wife Elaine and all of those who knew him. For those of you who are posting hate, please refrain. It’s different when you are debating wind power or same-day registration, but this man has passed away. Please be respectful and stop posting hateful words.

  • http://twitter.com/msnow Matt Snow

    So sad to hear this. He was the most selfless man I’ve ever met. RIP Reverend Carlson. 

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_SYN3TY6Z6ZWIGHQ5M2VWZWWM4Q Susan B

    Why do some people have to leave such rotten comments?  Im impressed at how quickly BDN is getting them off, I don’t usually see that happen this quick.

  • Anonymous

    So long Capt Carlson, I will remember having breakfast with or seeing you in the mornings @ Bagel Central.  My regards to your family, may they find solace and comfort in your absence.  May we aspire to follow your example. 

  • Anonymous

    So well said.

  • Anonymous

    Because most words seem inadequate at such a time.

  • Anonymous

    Agreed!

  • Anonymous

    Unfortunately it’s like un-ringing a bell.

    There are only two possibilities. Either the statements were true, or they weren’t. In either case, it’s sad.

  • Anonymous

    From the 11/4/2011 BDN article, now does this sound like a man who is suicidal or does this sound exactly like Rev. Bob Carlson?

    “Carlson said he believes that life is a gift from God, and what people do with their life is their gift back.

    “I used to say that I’m no different then any other clergyman,” he
    said. “Well, I’m no better than them; I am different. Most do not have
    the wealth of experience that I do. It’s all about building
    relationships and communities. The reason why I’ve been involved in so
    many communities is because it’s a great thing. I can honestly say that I
    am just having fun, and it’s a blessing to be part of this community.”

  • Anonymous

    Bob was a great man – always had a handshake, a smile or a story to lift your spirits. Remember him for what he has done, not for whatever may come out of this horrible story. Rest in Piece my friend!

  • Buzlno

    Didn’t know the guy, but with the accomplishments listed in the article plus all the glowing comments here, I wish I had.
    We all have a skeleton of some kind that could be embarrassing to devastating if found out. Maybe this was the straw that added too much to his already large burden of taking on our burdens.
    Just an observation that doesn’t mean anything more than thinking outloud.
    This is so sad and I can only offer my sympathies to all of you that knew him….

  • Anonymous

    This is terrible news! God bless us all….everyone. Rev. G

  • Anonymous

    Absolutely NOT!  

  • Anonymous

    This is a shock to all who knew Bob. Please remember him for the man he was and all that he did for our community. Bob always had a smile, a handshake, a magic trick or a story to put a smile on your face. Rest in piece my friend.

  • Anonymous

    sincere condolences for family and friends of Rev. Bob. RIP Rev.

  • Anonymous

    please, I know a lot of you have your opinions to this story, but if they are in a negative light, I ask if there is anything decent in you please keep them to yourself, there will be many people, young and old reading this, let the family and friends mourn in peace,

  • Buzlno

    Thank you for that tidbit, nice.

  • Perry Antone

    “The righteous perish, and no one ponders it in his heart; devout men are taken away, and no one understands that the righteous are taken away to be spared from evil.
    Those who walk uprightly enter into peace; they find rest as they lie in death.”
    Isaiah 57:1-2 
    Godspeed Bob you touched so many lives and will NEVER be forgotten. 
    SPC Antone, Perry B Jr.

  • Anonymous

    PHEWW Took my breath away. He will be missed by so many. Never knew him personally, but know many whose lives he touched. May it show us all the need to reach out to someone in the midst of our pain. He would be the first to put his hand on your shoulder and say, “You can make it. You aren’t going through this alone.”. Sorry he didn’t allow anybody to be there for him. :(

  • Anonymous

    Thats ridiculous. God doesn’t tempt people to jump off bridges.  

  • Anonymous

    So did the reporter see this ? no, did the officer see this ?no, oh but lets just say he jumped anyway,unbeleievable !!!! BDN, does it again !!!!! STOP  this type of reporting NOW follow the lead of  many other papers and stop it now,no articles on suicides period.

  • Anonymous

    I sat with the people at the Bagel Shop, a well-known group, for many mornings talking with Bob (though not recently).  He seemed in such good spirits the last time I spoke with him, during the Dorothea Dix Public Hearing – and, of course, he was there to speak in favor of keeping it open and helping people who need long-term mental health hospitalization in Central Maine – and I am just in shock.  I spoke with a friend who saw him yesterday and said he was in great spirits.

    To his family, my condolences.  I’m in shock and sadness.

  • Anonymous

    the article stated: “It looks like this gentleman jumped off the bridge and his body was recovered this morning,” said Waldo County Sheriff’s Department Chief Deputy Jeff Trafton

    so if you have anything negative to say you should say it to Jeff….I Dont think BDN would post that if he did not state it to them…

  • dporter8462

    I am not privy to the details of this tragedy. I know this was a great man who helped so many people and those who knew him must be in so much pain and confusion. My heart goes out to each of them. I will say that this should serve as a reminder to all of us that we each have our own perfect storm of circumstances that would lead us to act differently than what we know is right. Whatever happened this weekend, it is sad that it ended with a great man’s own end.

  • Anonymous

    Yep!

  • Anonymous

    Never met the man, but have heard so much good about him for a very long time.  I am devastated by this news.  My prayers for his family and friends, and may he rest in peace.

  • Anonymous

    i remember he loved to play the “can you slap my hand” game with the kids to see if they were faster than him, and no one could beat him at it. was always fun to watch.

  • Anonymous

    its because people have no compassion. True or not, keep it to themselves. now is not the time.

  • Anonymous

    Suicides and suspected suicides of private citizens are typically not reported, but suicides and suspected suicides of public figures typically are.  

  • Anonymous

    That’s true. Sometimes he lets us have our private torments to test and grow our faith though.

  • Rob Grant

    Rev. Carlson was a long time friend of my family. He stood beside me as I delivered my eulogy to my father during his funeral service and has remained as wonderful a person as any could ever know. Keep checking the river for another body. Bob Carlson would NOT have jumped, if there was a call for a jumper on the bridge he may have pulled Rev. Carlson off into the river with him… Pastor Bob would have been there trying to save a life, Never will anyone convince me he took his own…

  • Anonymous

    Not what?

  • PaulNotBunyan

    I don’t know which other papers you’re referring to. There are other countries we can go to if we want the news we read and hear to be carefully controlled. I’ll take good reporting over gossip and rumors any day, especially when it’s bad news like this.

  • Anonymous

    It can get unbearably nasty for anyone of us very quickly. Folks in the Bangor area have it down to a science. Accidentally say the wrong thing or get in their way and you’ll find out exactly what I mean. You’ll be gaslighted and people will come out of the woodwork claiming to have witnessed things that all hang together to hang you. They rip away your humanity and your credibility. Nobody will believe you though, at least nobody able to stand up and fight for you.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_HBI72U5F3VMZRIYZWJLCMT4RYM Wendy

    Until you have walked in another man’s shoes, you have no idea what truly goes on in their lives… I did not know this man, but from all that I’ve read he was a respected and well liked person.  God gives us all free will… don’t judge unless you want to be judged…

  • Anonymous

    all major cities, chicago for one, dont report them,and  this is  not good reporting, this is gossip they wernt there and  they report all the time in this paper on private figures committing suicide , not just public not that its anyones busineess public or otherwise several recently ,it happens every week in this county .The BDN even pulled one out of  illinois printed it and lo and behold we had the exact same type of suicide in the lincoln area in just days.This paper has blood on its hands.

  • Anonymous

    Just becuase they said it dont mean they have to print it and they wouldnt if it was a major advertiser or someone in the bdn family.
     

  • Anonymous

    Not true they have doen several lately

  • Anonymous

    Quite often people who are in great emotional pain are masters at putting on a mask. It’s a defense mechanism. It seems as though that’s what the Reverend Carlson did. There is nothing wrong with it. It’s natural.

    Because the Reverend Carlson was such a prominent member of the community, he probably felt trapped when it came to getting help in his darkest hours.

  • Anonymous

    What I was trying to say was that there is lots of precedence for reporting on the suspected suicide of a well-known figure like Rev. Bob.  

    What a great loss to the community.

  • Anonymous

    Tossing out innuendo isn’t very fair. Do you have something you care to share with us?

  • Anonymous

    He was loved by many.  He made countless children laugh.  He comforted the sick, the troubled, everyone he met.   He did big things for us.  He told great stories.  He will be missed.  Peace.

  • Anonymous

    I do not think he jumped…absolutely not…

  • Anonymous

    Considering that the sheriff’s department got the call at 4 a.m., if the Reverend Carlson had gone out to help someone, his wife surely would have known and told the authorities.

  • Anonymous

    Time will tell if their are skeletons to let out. 

  • Anonymous

    should be did  not

  • Anonymous

     Some times we don’t know people as well as we think we do. There is more pain and suffering going on than you think.

  • Buzlno

    Ya, but it really would be no one’s business.

  • Anonymous

    The Reverend Carlson was a prominent member of the community. His death, and the manner of his death, is most certainly of public interest. In fact, this story may help people who may be contemplating suicide, as they may realize they are not alone and that even people who seem to have everything going for them can be tormented mentally and emotionally to the point of wanting to end it all.

    Life can be cruel. We cannot pretend it isn’t. Suicide is something we can all learn from. It is nothing to be ashamed of, and nothing to be shamed.

  • PaulNotBunyan

    They quoted the chief deputy for the county where it happened. That’s not gossip.

  • Anonymous

    Chances are nobody will ever know…….

  • Anonymous

    Just to put to rest a misconception: The suicide rate does not increase during the winter months or holidays. It is actually highest in the spring.

  • Rob Grant

    All I’m sayin is if you knew this man, He was more likely to be out on that bridge talking someone into NOT jumping… If he was havng problems he knew as much as anyone could know of where or who to get help to deal with it… People can spit out theories till hell freezes over, there is no way this man jumped…

  • Anonymous

    I shared all I am going to share at this time.

  • Anonymous

    Agreed! But unfortunately that is not how the world is now.
     

  • AD

    Why wasn’t Bob Cohen’s suicide made public?

  • Anonymous

    Who is Bob Cohen/why would he be a public figure?

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_4ASS3UBF4FACAADRA4T3DZYBF4 sabrina

    this man baptized me and my siblings, didnt know him well. but my prayers and thoughts are with the loved ones.

  • Anonymous

    And maybe the “there is no way this man jumped” attitude is part of the reason he didn’t seek help. He was HUMAN and as frail as the rest of us- admitting his private problems must not have seemed possible to him- after all, so many put him on a pedestal. Being in law enforcement himself, I would imagine if he had gone to talk down a jumper, he would have notified the proper authorities. I hope he has found the peace he so needed.

  • Anonymous

    He just married a couple Saturday at 5:00 at Morgan Hill Event Center……………. :(

  • Anonymous

    YES!!! He just played that game with my kids!!! He could always make them smile…….

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_DQHMNILNEELB7R5367FLVZKVPE Jaymee

    His car was found in the middle of the bridge one would have to assume he did this on his free will. I do not know this rev but I do know people that do you never know what goes on in ones mind when they do this. I hope he rests in peace now and people remember the good this man has accomplished in his life here.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_GAMZ625CHUS3KZJJXOMMGCRQNE tp

    Very sad day…Rev Bob Carlson and Elaine were great friends….I just saw Bob last week….he looked sad, his eyes seemed empty….I gave him a hug and reminded him of a little church in Orrington he blessed so many years ago..he laughed……..sometimes people who give and give find it hard to take what they need.  A person who touched so many people in the work he did should have let one of us know…his family is in my prayers and thoughts.

    Terry Fago Pierson Curtis….Orrington

  • Anonymous

    Someone I know who knew him well said that he was the type to show up if someone was despondent and try to talk them out of jumping. Perhaps they will find another body as well. 

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_DQHMNILNEELB7R5367FLVZKVPE Jaymee

    I totally agree with you. You do not know what goes on in ones mind. If we knew what they thought we wouldnt have people doing it!

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_DQHMNILNEELB7R5367FLVZKVPE Jaymee

    EXACTLY!! I’m sure someone KNEW their mother, father, son , daughter or friend whatever and those people did not KNOW that they were going to take their own life. Seriously this is prob hurting his family by people saying “Oh the Bob I knew wouldnt do this”  Maybe we should wait until MORE of the story comes out people

  • http://twitter.com/sectar114 THEAT

    Yes, especially the young…

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_DQHMNILNEELB7R5367FLVZKVPE Jaymee

    What do you think other people have thought about their family members who have done something this tragic? I think that MOST will say… “No he/she would NOT do this” let him lay in peace!!

  • Anonymous

    so what are you saying? He slipped, or was pushed? Be real.

  • Anonymous

    Was his car found on the bucksport bridge or was it a bridge in another town?  Just something I heard from someone at the pd………

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_DQHMNILNEELB7R5367FLVZKVPE Jaymee

    It was the Penobscot Narrows Bridge from what I understand

  • Anonymous

    It really is a shame how many people are badmouthing him. Let all the facts come to light before we start pointing fingers. 

    How do we even know this was a suicide? How do we know that Pastor Bob wasn’t trying to pull someone back from the edge when he too fell in?

    Even though I never “met” him or attended his church, I know he was one of the best things to happen to this community. I believe in salvation by grace and eternal security, I believe he is with God now.

  • Anonymous

    dont think she said all… she just said well respected…. and really… respected by many…. many… after years and years of knowing him… working in similar circles… volunteering, etc…. I can say that he was respected by a great number …… obviously you didn’t like or respect him… we get it..

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_DQHMNILNEELB7R5367FLVZKVPE Jaymee

    I guess you may never know and I am sure that they have thought of this too (authorities) they tend to rule everything out. I just dont see how people say that they dont think hed do it unless youre in the situation I dont know as if anyone would know

  • Anonymous

    God’s plan ….

  • Anonymous

    BDN must have a moderator specially assigned to this story. Without hard facts, nobody has any place accusing Pastor Bob of wrongdoing, and even if there were such facts, bringing them up now is in incredibly poor taste.

  • Anonymous

    leaving the car in the middle of the bridge would indicate to me that he was trying to stop someone else from jumping.

  • Anonymous

    Rest in peace my friend.I have been blessed to work with Rev Bob for many years and knew no one more committed to improving the lives of those less fortunate. I will miss my friend and  pray Elaine and family will find solace in the love and prayers of our community.

  • Anonymous

    There is a way he jumped. He was not immune to the problems that all humans face. His position in the community may have made it all the more difficult to seek help, because, unfortunately, we as a society still look down on those who have mental problems or feel suicidal.

    We need to stop being in denial that mental illness and suicidal thoughts can’t affect certain people we know. Some people don’t seek help precisely because they fear that nobody will take them seriously.

  • Anonymous

    wow, thats not distateful at all!

  • Anonymous

    So very true.

  • Anonymous

    You do not know that.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_DQHMNILNEELB7R5367FLVZKVPE Jaymee

    It indicates to me something different. Id assume that I wouldnt go park my car in the parking lot and risk someone seeing me walk across a bridge with no sidewalks and go. People need to open your eyes and see things multi sided

  • Anonymous

    And if the BDN does have a moderator assigned, I would like to thank them for doing so,

  • Anonymous

    I agree, I think they should keep looking for another – could be wrong, but more likely to be so … God knows!

  • Anonymous

    O my friend!  You are now at peace.  O my friend!  

    My prayers and sympathies for Elaine and the family, the Orrington church, and the whole community.  O my friend!  SDavies

  • Anonymous

    am so shocked at this – i have to believe (right now) that bob was
    physically ill and we knew nothing about it and he saw this as a way
    out. but jumping is … so “right now” as opposed to an action or
    actions more thought out, considered … there are better ways. i am
    just shocked.it COULD have been an accident. I hope it was an accident.   But if it was not, i am reminded that “… they tell you, shadows are the place to hide — but listen, no one looks into the sun” I hope that all the good that he did will continue on. 

  • Anonymous

    O my friend!  You are at peace now.  O my friend!

    My compassionate prayers are with Elaine and the family, the Orrington church, and the whole community.

    O my friend!  

  • Anonymous

    The great news is that as long as he made his peace with God and believed in Him then he will spend his days in Heaven. I pray he was saved.

  • Anonymous

    If a suicide is done in public or in an unusual way, it is generally reported, regardless of whether the victim was a public figure. If a suicide is done in private, it is generally reported if the victim was a public figure. It is also generally reported if the family or friends of the victim want to raise awareness about suicide and the factors that can lead to it.

    There is nothing morbid about wanting to know how and why a person died. It’s a fact of life.

  • Anonymous

    All you commentors judging on what happened.  Why dont we do this, god does work in mysterious ways, so why do we not wait for what has happened and let his family rest right now. He will be missed he has helped me out alot in the past

  • Sean Crowley

    Very, very sad. Rev. When we lived up in Maine, Rev. Carlson presided over my daughters funeral in April 2008, and he did an amazing job. We met with him prior, and he helped us tremendously with our unfortunate situation. Our short time with him was memorable. He seemed like such a great guy, full of life.  Very unfortunate…our thoughts and prayers go out to his family.

  • Debbie

    My prayers go out to his wife and family. He greeted the troops in Bangor with us many times. He was a wonderful man. No one ever knows what goes on in  a peron’s mind when this happens.

  • Roxanne Saucier

    Rev. Bob did a lot of kind things that nobody ever heard about, and his loss is a tragedy. 

  • Anonymous

    The hole in my heart could not be any bigger regardless of the manner of his passing. My thoughts and prayers go out to Elaine and the rest of his family and hope they find some comfort in knowing they are not alone in their grief.

  • http://www.facebook.com/laplants Seth Laplant

    The bridge needs a fence.  It just makes it way too easy.  

  • Anonymous

    This is so sad to see :( Rev. Bob was a regular at my Husbands old place of employment and he always had a kind word and a smile for everyone. I am so saddened, we have truly lost a great man. RIP Rev. Bob

  • Anonymous

    If it is true that he jumped I will be shocked. Whatever pushed him must have been devastateing to him for him to do this. He was a kind, gentle, honest and giving man and I am so upset at the news…..and I also hope folks out there remember his family may read this…SO BE KIND and keep your Negative crap to yourself unless you knew him….grow up!!!  RIP Rev Bob!

  • Anonymous

    Maybe his life got to him maybe he got burnt out with everything he had to do and was involved in and it created some issues within him. And as time went on it got worse. He seemed like he was a very busy man. A saint to many. And maybe he just had enough. It is a sad story. He will be missed terribly. 

  • Anonymous

    I just noticed on Bill Lyons the DJ’s facebook that he just worked a wedding last night at Morgan Hill with Rev. Carlson.

  • Anonymous

    Not true major papers all over the country don’t report it under any circumstances and this paper also just reported one done total in private down east
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  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_VCSSE5DK56EJCPVF4DG2DQE6Y4 shannon

    Bob Carlson was a wonderful friend, a pastor to pastors, and an encouragement to me as long as I have known him. My prayers go out to his wife and family and all the people of Maine who were touched in positive ways by his ministry. We will be in prayer that God will surround you with love and strengthen us all in the midst of this loss. There is an emptyness and sadness in my heart. I have lost a person whose friendship i valued so much. Grace and peace to all of you, through our Lord, Jesus Christ!
    Rev. Karl D. Schimpf

  • Anonymous

    Please pray for the children.

  • Anonymous

    I believe in salvation by grace and eternal security. I do believe Rev. Carlson was saved and therefore is in heaven.

  • Anonymous

    I understand he (Rev. Carlson) did a wedding last night at Morgan Hill

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_5Y7XUAOL6K7GJCEAF5OLNTEE3A Barry S

    The world has lost a great man.Every time we saw each other it was a true blessing.You touched many lives ,helped hundreds of us.Our prayers are forever with you and your family.                Your friend Barry

  • Anonymous

    Bob, you have been a trusted friend and respected colleague for ten years. I will miss you and Bangor will be less a city for your loss. 

  • Anonymous

    He (Rev. Carlson) did a wedding at Morgan Hill last night. It is on the DJ’s facebook.

  • Anonymous

    A Very SAD Day , Rev Bob could always make you Smile even when the only thing you were thinking about were tears…. God Bless Rev Bob he will be sadly missed in the Community…..

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_V5OWRZOT4D2RZSW43K3BPASDL4 douglas

    Rev. Bob was there for so many people. But who was there for him.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Christopher-Ruhlin/1588252249 Christopher Ruhlin

    Wow….Shocked and saddened.

  • Anonymous

    Very Sad Day,  Rev Bob could always put a smile on your face even though you were only thinking about Tears… God Bless Rev Bob , He will be Sadly missed in the Community….

  • http://twitter.com/joncob Jon Coburn

    sad

  • Anonymous

    John 3:16   RIP

  • Anonymous

    Name the “major papers” and cite the story of the “private” suicide down east.

  • Anonymous

    Chicago times ny times la times and the suicide was in Lincoln area and another one down east harrington
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  • Anonymous

    Bob was one of the most intelligent people  that I know and a good friend to my brother, had the biggest heart of anyone I know and spent all his time helping people.  He will be missed by many.  For whatever reason this happened, he now rests in peace.  RIP Bob. 

  • Anonymous

    Excellently stated, dkenzie.

  • Anonymous

    Suicide would be so out of character for someone who took the responsibility of giving hope to so many and helping was a way of life for him. He would not do this, if for no other reason just because it would damage the hope of so many. He would feel way too responsible for the effect it would make, he would just not take his life. I truly believe that we will find that he rushed there to help someone who was feeling hopeless and accidentally fell while trying to save the other person. I do hope that he was able to convince the other person to hang onto their life and if he was able to, I am sure to him it would have been worth it. Certainly his family should find comfort in the knowledge that he will be with our awesome Savior in Heaven. Thank you Reverend Carlson for your Love for God and for Mankind <3 

  • Anonymous

    as he has done before

  • Anonymous

    May God send his loving comfort to Rev. Carlson’s family.

  • http://twitter.com/sectar114 THEAT

    No human is above reproach…..that is what makes us human.

  • Anonymous

    I agree!

  • Anonymous

    Not true about the Chicago Sun-Times. See “Gunman kills 7, then self after 5-hour standoff (July 8, 2011),” “Consider an alternative (March 1, 2011),” “Play takes bullies to task (Jan. 22, 2011),” “Springfield mayor killed himself with gun, officials say (Dec. 16, 2010).”

    Not true about the New York Times, either. See “Soldier’s Death Raises Suspicions in Chinatown (Oct. 31, 2011),” “Madoffs Writing Their Own Future (Oct. 31, 2011),” “In San Juan, on the Road to Gonzo (Oct. 28, 2011).”

    Or the LosAngeles Times. See “Demski Ruled a Suicide; Death: The coroner’s office says the Long Beach icon known for his U.S. flag overdosed on a painkiller (March 21, 2002),” ” Claim over daughter’s suicide is revived; In a civil action, a mother accuses her ex-husband of abusing the victim, causing her to kill herself (July 10, 2011).”

    Please cite the stories for the “private” suicides in Lincoln and Harrington.

  • Anonymous

    The sadness of this news has reached as far as the mountains of Pa.  When at our second home in Maine, I so enjoyed Rev Bob’s presence on WVOM’s “God Squad,” never aware of his far reaching ministry.  May God be with those he left behind, and may his mission be carried on by those he touched. 

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_L7VHY2DHNNKLO26LBL4NIDIJ3E babydoll25

    he said a few words at my grandfather’s funeral last year and was a very sweet, caring man.. it is so shocking and unfortunate to hear of his passing. May he rest in peace.

  • Anonymous

    No ones, but Rev. Bob and God.  A wonderful person and one of heaven’s brightest Angels

  • Anonymous

    If you were not on the bridge, you will never be able to say what happened.  Only God & Rev. Bob will know.

  • Anonymous

    If  you weren’t there, you can’t know.  Leave it to God & Rev. Bob.

  • Anonymous

    I went through a divorce and was devastated at the time. Bob counseled me and I’m still alive because of him. RIP, Bob, you’ll always be a part of me.

  • Anonymous

    I didn’t have the privilege of knowing him or his family but reading the comments here it is evident that he meant so much to so many people.  My sincere condolences to his family and friends and may he rest in eternal peace. 

  • Sara Farnsworth

    Good rule of thumb – before you post, THINK: Is it THOUGHTFUL/TRUTHFUL? Is it HELPFUL? Is it INSPIRING? Is it NECESSARY? Is it KIND?  If not – keep your opinion to yourself!

  • Anonymous

    I agree something is going on here hope the facts come out soon. R.I.P

  • Anonymous

    Still in disbelief, just don’t belive it.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_BWI5JCKNJ4DCG6MNTPOLZE6V2M Cecilia

    I would like to say i had the privilage to have been a part of Pastor Bob’s Life. He was an amazing man and held my family together thru some very tough times and was there for births and deaths. He was always there for people good times and bad, He will forever be in my heart. May god bless him and his family thru this very tragic time.. Love and 3ts

  • Anonymous

    That is amazing. I am so glad you had him in your life and how much he helped. He seems to have helped countless people in so many important ways.

  • Michelle Varney

    such a sad day… my husband and i had the privilage of having rev bob officiate our wedding in september. he truly led by example and will live on in the hearts of all those he touched.. rest in peace dear friend

  • Moose

    Maybe God called him home to to help out the non believers to allow them into heaven. We will never know the real reason. RIP my dear  friend. Thank you all you did for me and my family throughout the years and what you gave East Orrington. The church that will never be forgotten. Thanks Rev Bob for just being you.

  • Guest

    He offered comfort to everyone else with their pain and sorrow.  Maybe he gave, and gave, and had no more to give; or maybe we put him on a pedestal and didn’t stop to think that he was just as human and as vulnerable as the rest of us, and just as much in need of comfort as we were.

  • Anonymous

    I know it’s also gone to Arizona and New Mexico.
    I didn’t know him, really, but it’s obvious how amazing a person he was.

  • Anonymous

    I think you said it about best. It is an incomprehensible thing but what you wrote is about as close as you can get to some kind of  understanding.

  • Anonymous

    I am away on vacation and just heard about this unbelievable loss for both his family and our community.  Everyone who knew him can all remember the first time thet met this man “Rev Bob”.  He was sure to make a point of introducing himself, putting a hand on your shoulder and making you feel that things were going to be alright.  He was so very willing to give  help to anyone that needed his or any kind of help.  I worked with Rev Carlson at the Sheriff’s Office and was always there for the members of the Dept and the people we serve in the community.  As has been said, his giving knew no bounds.  I can’t fathom that this has happened or why.  I / we, have been touched by something he has been part of even if we don’t know it.

  • Anonymous

    It’s great that you believe but it has no impact on where he is. I can only pray he believed.

  • Anonymous

    All of us that knew him can probably remember the first time we met “Rev Bob”.  i have just learned of the loss to his family and this community.  He would great you by shaking your hand while putting a hand on your shoulder, and you just knew that things were going to be better.  Once you got to know him, you knew you had met a man that was put on this earth to do wonderful things for others.  He will be missed by oh so many people!! 

  • Anonymous

    I’m just stating what the general supposed result of suicide is, not my personal belief, and I mention it to go towards possibly explaining a potential reason if it were in fact suicide.  I then mention that due to this general perception of what happens when you commit suicide that it would seem out of his character to do such a thing since he had ought to know – being a religious man.  It’s probably inexplicable in any case.

  • Anonymous

    this is very upsetting and distressing.  he was a good man.

  • Anonymous

    Thats just it, even the strongest person or whom we think is strong because they are always smiling, helping others may be hurting on the inside, his smile was hiding pain of some sort, not even the closest person knew about him. Though a man of God he is human and does have weaknesses just like the rest of us. Smiles everyday hide alot of pain in many peoples lives.  People always expect this from someone that is sad looking, or negative all the time, they are shocked when it happens to a man of great character or strength in the community. So, sad that this happened and will be praying for his family and all that will miss him thru so many lives he touched while serving God and just being human.

  • Anonymous

    He is human and yes a man of God can take their own life, we had a Pastor many years ago in our community that shot himself in the head, he went into a closet and took his own life. Yes, he was a great man of God and he did many great things while serving God and he was a great person. I am not saying he did or didn’t commit suicide, just that he is human. The ones not believing he could do this, well, we really never no anyone in our lives completely not the ones we love and marry, not our kids not our friends, etc… We truly never know what another is possible of doing or not doing only God knows.

  • Anonymous

    Here is an easier way of saying he is human…he is human.

  • Anonymous

    Yes, the truth will come out….all of you non believers will have to believe the truth even if it’s hard to take.   I’ll wait.

  • Anonymous

    “Smiles everyday hide a lot of pain in many people’s lives.”    So very true….

  • Anonymous

    Mental illness is not it.

  • Anonymous

    God is much more forgiving than we as people.

  • Anonymous

    This is AWFUL!!! There are not to many people these days that try to make a positive change on Society!

  • Anonymous

    You are so right. Just his family’s.

  • Anonymous

    A wonderful man — I’m at such a loss for words
    So many lives have been greatly impacted by Rev Bob over the years —
    may there be some light shed upon the many questions in the hearts and
    minds of the thousands who now mourn his passing. ✞ ✞ ✞ ✞ Rest in Peace ✞ ✞ ✞ ✞
     

  • Anonymous

    Did you forget “Is it truthful?”

  • Anonymous

    It’s hard to believe that he would have committed suicide.  Hopefully the police will be able to piece this together and come up with a conclusive explanation for what happened.

  • Anonymous

    So while you wait others will celebrate the life of Rev Bob and what he did for other people. A single act cannot and will not erase the thousand of random acts of kindness that others have experienced from this kind and gentle man.

  • Anonymous

    Condolences go out to Elaine and the family…  

  • Kevin_Of_Bangor

    Which God? There are over 8000 of them to choose from.

  • http://www.facebook.com/Christopher.Blackwell1945 Christopher Blackwell

    Some times those that can counsel others, can’t help themselves. It may have been some problem  that he was not comfortable talking about. Possibly he felt he had failed, as often people are far harder  and critical of themselves than they are on others. 

    But it has got to be rough on his wife, friends and family and I would imagine many of the people that he worked with over the years..

  • Anonymous

    The One and only.

  • Kevin_Of_Bangor

    The Bible has so many contradictions in it you will never get an answer from anyone.

    Some will say he went to hell, others will say he is limbo and others will say he is heaven.

    The only fact we do know is that he is dead.

  • Anonymous

    A fence isn’t going to prevent someone who really wants to die from killing himself.

  • Anonymous

    If he had gone to the bridge to help someone, his wife would have known about it and would have told the authorities, and the authorities would have had no problem telling the news media.

  • Anonymous

    I can tell you all this is a powder keg. Many of you already know this. This man was part of the Bangor Inner Circle Elite. He was a great leader in the truest sense of the word since 1973. People are going to want to know what happened. People are already attacking each other over theories none of us have any way to verify.  NOBODY wants to believe this great humanitarian and leader would have taken his own life. I find it very hard to believe myself. So I find myself going over and over scenarios from the history of the real world pertinent to this great man. I completely reject any possibility that he was despondent or depressed. I don’t think he was afraid of the police or the bath salts dealers. The last person to jump into the Penobscot went to Acadia for a while then on from there. She was in the papers explaining her situation. I think he was afraid people he cared about were about to be hurt. I’m going to do the right thing here and defer against my better judgement to the underpaid, unappreciated, overworked investigators.

  • Anonymous

    He was an exceptional person who cared deeply  about and helped so many. He believed everyone , regardless of their situation, deserved good health care. He made sure many received it.   That is a lot for one human being to take on, but he did. He lived his faith, every day.   But as others have said, he was human and sometimes we hit a roadblock of some kind that we just cannot overcome or climb.
    This is so sad and a big loss.

  • Kevin_Of_Bangor

    That would be Zeus.

  • Anonymous

    Kevin, nobody really believes that anymore. We all have one god. Well, most of us use the drive-thru God during the work week and after hours we use the online God they are the same God. But drag your lazy aasss to Vatican City and you’ll know exactly what I mean. And God is more forgiving than people. In the new Testament it says, “if we confess our sins God is faithful and just to forgive us our sins.” The lord’s prayer says, “…forgive our trespasses as we forgive those who have trespassed against us.”

    This is a tough one because almost nobody knows what it means. The first one is to be repentant and start over trying not to commit the sin. If the priest or your conscience say to you and or your victims give another chance it will surely only be with confidence that you mean not to commit the sin again. The second means that if we all forgive each other our trespasses against each other we will all be forgiven. For example, I ran over your foot with a tractor and you hit me in the back of the head with your buckshot by accident. If you forgive whoever has “trespassed” against you and we all do it, we are all forgiven. It’s a very simple concept but nobody gets it. If you don’t get anything else, get this.

  • AKMaineIac

    Wow. I am just stunned, and even more saddened than I was at the news of a friend and peer’s 22 year old son committing suicide at his school recently, and my friend apparently forcing a Warden to end his life this past week. Now Reverend Bob too?

    If you’re think this is the way, don’t do it. Just sit and wait, be quiet and consider the effect on your loved ones and friends, people you think don’t even notice you too. You’d be shocked at the response this causes in them. Suicide is always an option, for the future. You can always change your mind if living was a mistake. The choice to act on it is irrevocable. If it’s a mistake, you can not take it back.

  • Anonymous

    Bravo…….I’m sad about his passing.   It does not matter that we are catholic, we knew him, loved him and respected him.  God bless him, because the lord knows that he did all he could to help and it’s a sad day….when we lose someonoe who cares. …

  • Anonymous

    I think when we are in our afterlife that “God” is gonna say…”you silly humans made things sooo much more out of religion then you’all needed to”. He will be more forgiven then what people over the centries have twisted religion to fit there own needs of society.

  • Anonymous

    I think when we are in our afterlife that “God” is gonna say…”you silly humans made things sooo much more out of religion then you’all needed to”. He will be more forgiven then what people over the centries have twisted religion to fit there own needs of society.   Maybe he was sick and didn’t want to suffer. A person I know took their own life. This person mentally just could not handle life no more…so she ended her life. What is the difference in someone who is physically sick? Either of them is enough to kill you. Which one will do it quicker is the choice. RIP Father…sit honorably at the right had of God…waiting for your perish to join you

  • Anonymous

    very well said..

  • Anonymous

    Rev. Bob had the ability to find a little place in your heart and nestle there forever in only a couple minutes of being in his presence. Those of you who knew him know what I mean. He was a fun, playful, kind, gentle person who made the worst of situations not seem so bad. It’s a shock that he’s gone. I don’t know what happened but I do know where he is.

  • Anonymous

    This needs to be a wake up call to be more attentive to our family, friends and neighbors. If there is one thing Pastor Bob knew how to do it is be attentive. Evidently he also knew how to hide his inner pain well enough to fool those who deeply loved and respected him. Lord, Help us hear beyond the words of those around us and empathize instead of criticize.

  • Anonymous

    “Heaven will be inherited by every man who has heaven in his soul”.
    -Henry Ward Beecher

  • Anonymous

    So sad, so sad on so many levels.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_DQHMNILNEELB7R5367FLVZKVPE Jaymee

    Do any of you people think about maybe why he did this on a SUNDAY morning? Granted he was a retired Reverand (from what someone told me) maybe it was god’s calling for him. Im sure things will now surface and everyone will see why this tragic event happened.  I would hope he would leave some note or something for his family to answer their questions. RIP Robert Carlson

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_DQHMNILNEELB7R5367FLVZKVPE Jaymee

    Also I have checked into it there is some cameras either on the bridge its self or some pointed at it there are updates on a webpage every 5mins or so so I hope they can check these and make sure that he wasnt helping or was helping someone else… as some believe

  • Anonymous

    Thinking of Rev. Carlson going home to be with the Lord makes me think about the song ” Thank you for giving to the Lord, I am a life that was changed.”  Rev. and Mrs. Carlson have touched the lives of so many people with their ministry and we were all blessed to have had met this man.  Mrs. Calrson and family may God be with you in your time of sorrow and my he give you peace in knowing that Rev. Carlson is home with him in Glory.  God bless you and keep you.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_HXCYVPMEKJYC534CLDDX4JJ74M Jeanne Clark

    Reverend Carlson was one of the most influential men I know!  I am saddened and shocked by these turn of events.  I met him when I was 4 when we moved up here and we started attending church at EOCC.  I have known him my whole life and he has helped my family and I through some very difficult times!  He was a GREAT MAN and I will always remember him.  I always remember seeing after church service trying to play his hand slap game with all of us kids and not one of us could beat him at it!  He was a great community leader and always took other people’s considerations above his own!  He would go above and beyond!  He was truly an exceptional man who touched so many lives!  He will surely be missed and I only hope that we, as individuals, can learn from the way he lived his life and helped so many people!  RIP Reverend Bob! 

  • TeaParty_aka_AmericanTaliban

    I’m hoping that he left a note to clear things up.  The only way I could see him jumping is if by doing so he felt he was protecting those he loved and the causes he was deeply affiliated with from harm.  People tend to have a difficult time seeing shades of gray.  They believe that people can only be all good or all bad.  They are convinced that if someone does great, incredible things that there is no way they could ever do anything wrong.  Likewise, they are convinced that anyone who does something bad cannot be an otherwise good person.  

    Great people sometimes make terrible mistakes and do bad things they are ashamed of.

    People who make terrible mistakes or do bad things have the capacity to show amazing amounts of love, compassion and generosity.

  • http://twitter.com/aaronprill Aaron Prill

    Just FYI- Limbo is no where in the Bible. Like many other things, that is just something the Catholic church has made up.

    Suicide is not the unpardonable sin. If we think that suicide is immune to the cleansing blood of Christ we have misunderstood the extent of redemption. Bottom line- if you confess to be a Christian then what we can accurately say from the Canonical Bible is if Rev Bob confessed Jesus as Lord, then he is in heaven. If he didn’t, then he’s not.

  • Anonymous

    Please. A good man is gone and all you can do is ridicule religion? Do you think nobody realizes that humanity worships all manner of things and people? This man was able to see past all that and still help whomever he could. You wait in the shadows to splash mud on those who hold different beliefs than you do. He is mourned. You’re lack of humanity is showing.

  • Anonymous

    What a tragic end to a good man.  Hopefully there aren’t any scandalous reasons for why he did this so his family and the community can move forward.

  • Anonymous

    Ray Boltz is an amazing singer and that is a wonderful song

  • Anonymous

    I am a seminary student and I knew Bob through a family member.  I find  it baffling that he would take his life but, as a social worker as well, I know that no one knows what goes on in that dark night of the soul.  If he jumped, I can only hope that he ruled out all other options.  I love you, Bob.  I’ll see you in the Beyond.

  • Briney

    He was a sterling, yet humble  man.  He was always ready to reach out and heed the cries of the needy, the depressed, and the unfortunate in this world.   Always so busy helping others, he had no time to call for help.

  • Anonymous

    To say I am shocked at this news is an understatement.  I didn’t know Rev. Carlson personally, but had the utmost admiration and respect for his timeless service t0 greater Bangor.  Only he and the Lord know what prompted him to take his own life.  I am heartsick for his family and the entire community for which he did so much.  RIP Reverend Carlson.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_WUXQMOMFW26EODLA7I3WZLSNPM Jeff C

    I fear, because who this man is, and because of what he represented, that the truth will NEVER come out regarding the reason for this man taking his life, if in fact that is what happened.  The State has long since covered up negative things about thier own, and this man would certainly fit that mold.  I am very sorry for his family.

  • Anonymous

    A very good article about Rev Bob. He has been a close friend of the famliy for over 30 years. We often joked about the closeness. He referred to himself as being one of my brothers (and we did too) ,he was the 4th Mansell son. I laugh when I think of the arguements he and my father would have about religion. They were most intense and often comical! I’m not sure God is ready for what he will get when dad and Rev Bob go at it in Heaven. I suppose even God needs a laugh now and then. Rev Bob’s greatest quality…he made us all feel like we were the most special to him. Yes, I loved him as my brother.

  • Anonymous

    Rev. Bob Carlson was an amazing person and did more for pchc and the greater bangor area then anyone has ever been able to do. He always kept “help others before yourself” as his mission. He would get anyone an appt that need any form of medical dental or mental help he would get them the help they needed at no charge to them. He was an amazing person who changed this community for the best. He always had a smile and always stopped to ask how you were doing. He was an amazing, he desereves all the respect in the world and he will be greatly missed.

  • Sara Farnsworth

    How do you know that 100% for sure?  There are a number of people I know (including myself) that to look at us from the “outside” you would never guess that we suffer from depression?  For many of us, it is easier to put on a happy face for the world and when asked “How are you?” to say “Pretty good – and you?” rather than get into what is really going on in our hearts and minds.  Not saying he was, not saying he wasn’t – just that you never truly know.

  • Sara Farnsworth

    I have seen the T being thoughtful or truthful… will go and fix!

  • Anonymous
  • valgal10

    It is not our mystery to solve. Having lost an immediate family member to suicide I can tell you what the family and friends need from us is support not questions. The outcome is tragic and the situation is sad. Please for the sake of Rev. Bob comfort each other as he would comfort you

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_VTP4I2IFCKYN4INNHQQXE6C6TA Tom

    Glad it’s just an opinion.  Jesus came to help us form a relationship with God and tell us that the gate is narrow.  Religions were started by man, with all their false teachings.  He will not be more forgiving.  Sin is sin, you can minimize it to justify the way you want to live, but that doesnt’ mean God will forgive it.  God created us, you did not create God, althoug many are doing just that, just the same way you did above.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_VTP4I2IFCKYN4INNHQQXE6C6TA Tom

    Limbo, where is that in the Bible.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_DQYJRNTL4E3A3B7OXXQVK74HZM Kathy S

    I did not know this gentleman nor know of him. He does sound like someone who was active both in his faith and his community. He seems to have been beloved by many.

    Sadly, if it is true that he purposely jumped from the bridge it is another reminder of how little we really know of anyone else. We simple cannot understand what personal demons some battle with every day. My heart is with Rev. Carlson’s family and friends. May you find solace in your faith and the support of those who love you.

  • Anonymous

    Today isn’t the day for trying to figure out the why’s.  Today is a day to celebrate his life and grieve the loss that so many are feeling.  My sympathy goes out to all who are grieving for Rev. Bob.   God Bless.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_VTP4I2IFCKYN4INNHQQXE6C6TA Tom

    And it should have been, because that is gossip.  Now matter by what means the Rev Carlson’s life ended, he should be remembered for those he helped, those he loved, and those who loved him.  I have certain beliefs myself, but out of respect for all who read this, this should not be the forum for supposition, conjecture, or tearing down this man who did so much for the community.  Please in the name of human decency stop it.

  • Anonymous

    well said.

  • Anonymous

    BDN for the love of all that is right and good, please ban 1JimmyCarrow1 or close the comment section. One or both are needed.

  • Anonymous

    hes already gone. taken care of.

  • Anonymous

    I agree.  Given the number of times people in crisis called him at all hours of the day and night, I’m glad they’re investigating this beyond suicide.

    No one truly knows what happened on that bridge that morning.  Let’s wait and see what comes out.

    In the meantime, the greater Bangor area has lost a truly kind soul who did so much for the people that it’s not even measurable, and may he rest in peace.

  • Anonymous

    I hope they hear you. I was thinking the very same thing and have flagged any comments of his I have seen.

  • Nicholas Deflaminis

    I am so saddened,  Rev. Bob was a good friend, and has given me valuable advise over the years.  He will be missed very dearly.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_UVBKBWCHMPWLTEMX5DYYXFERIE Marilyn

    My condolences to the family and the greater Bangor Community

  • Anonymous

    Rev. Carlson will always be a light to the community. Truly a great person.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_7UMFX4WSMNV7INDR4XZYQWUCLM Father Gregory D

    THE most wonderful reality is, that no matter what—GOD understands completely and forgives ALL of us…no matter what we do…as He forgave the ‘good thief’ on the cross over 2,000 years ago!  ALL have sinned and fallen short of glory of God, but He forgives and restores and receives us no matter what!  “Though your sins be as red as scarlet, they shall be washed as white as snow.”   See you on the otherside Rev! 

  • Anonymous

    The community lost a hero  yesterday.  Many of us worshiped the ground Rev. Bob walked on.  I’ll never forget when (after a long saturday night of  partying) you would see Rev. Bob walking through the hallways of Husson College, respectively (@1 or 2 in the am) reminding us that he’d still expect to see us in the chapel the next morning.  He saw thousands of us go through that school, yet still recognizes each of us whenever we see him.  Im sure gonna miss you bud, Louie.

  • Anonymous

    Without wanting to be disrespectful for this man I knew, I suggest that he may have suffered from suicidal tendencies. In my mind this doesn’t take away from his good character and all the goodwill he spread around most of his lifetime.

  • Anonymous

    Your description of him and your heartfelt attachment is shared by many who knew him well.

  • Anonymous

    Priests and pastors get calls at all hours of the night. I surmise, for his wife to assume he was out on such a call would not have been unusual. Consequently, she would not likely have felt a need to contact authorities.

  • Anonymous

    Yes, and thank you for commenting.  It needed to be said.

  • Anonymous

    That would be too bad because if he has done something that has hurt others people should know. 

  • AKMaineIac

    What is “too bad” is the speculation and negative aspersions cast on the man by those who claim to know something, or worse yet those who freely admit knowing nothing. None of us knows yet why Bob did this. We should let Elaine bury him and mourn. If there is something, the truth always comes out. Bob was my friend, and a good man. I hope and pray there is nothing, that he was simply sick of this crap or ill and did not wish to face that. This is a bad day. We should endeavor to not make it worse for those closest to him.

  • Anonymous

    You are correct!

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