Articles by Sarah Smiley

 
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How not to push people away

By Sarah Smiley on July 12, 2016, at 2:26 p.m.
Sarah Smiley: At first I scanned the 4 behaviors in bold type — Selfishness, Conceitedness, Self-Righteousness and Chronic Complaining — and my first thought was, “Sounds like every toddler I’ve ever known.”
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That time my husband put on a too-small bathing suit

By Sarah Smiley on July 05, 2016, at 4:21 p.m.
Sarah Smiley: I made a mistake. Despite nearly 16 years as a mother to all boys, boys whom I know absorb my comments and actions, I had a moment of weakness and forgot. I opened my mouth, and bad, hurtful words came out.
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How a little school brought up a family

By Sarah Smiley on June 28, 2016, at 3:32 p.m.
Soon, it was just Owen who went to the school to pick up my youngest. He waited in the cafeteria with the other teenage siblings and stood stoically with his back against the wall when his little brother ran to him, his backpack bouncing up and down behind him.
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Selective Service for women gets even closer

By Sarah Smiley on June 21, 2016, at 4:34 p.m.
Sarah Smiley: In the history of the world, it often has been women who influenced massive change. Now that it is their life, financial aid and “choice” at stake, perhaps they will finally change Selective Service, too.
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Parenting isn’t easy

By Sarah Smiley on June 14, 2016, at 3:21 p.m.
Sarah Smiley: I thought this fear-mongering stuff had jumped the shark way back when toy catalogs were advertising new, safer inflatable sleds for wintertime “fun.” But, no, we had to go all the way to jailing mothers and calling for their heads before everyone could take a deep breath and realize we can’t eliminate all risks.
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As summer nears, a reminder to drive slowly

By Sarah Smiley on June 07, 2016, at 2:49 p.m.
Sarah Smiley: When we sit inside, our fast-paced culture has won and childhood has lost. Maybe people should just be safe drivers instead.
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Q&A with Navy widow Theresa Jones, 3 years after the death of her husband

By Sarah Smiley on May 31, 2016, at 11:26 a.m.
In 2013, my Navy-wife friend Theresa became a widow. I caught up with Theresa over Memorial Day weekend. Here are her thoughts on life nearly three years after Landon’s death.
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Why it’s time to abandon the phrase ‘all-volunteer military’

By Sarah Smiley on May 24, 2016, at 2:21 p.m.
Sarah Smiley: The military has been uncharacteristically progressive with its phrasing and recruiting tactics, and now it has purchased a generation of “volunteer” recruits who want what they were promised.
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Celebrating military wives

By Sarah Smiley on May 17, 2016, at 12:05 p.m.
Sarah Smiley: As society searches for strong female role models, there are few more logical picks. From the time I was a baby, even when I didn’t know it, military wives have always been mine.
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My husband is the fun parent

By Sarah Smiley on May 10, 2016, at 5:17 p.m.
My husband, Dustin, is the fun parent. Part of this is because, as the parents of only sons, he more easily identifies with our children and their interests than I do.
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Maternity leave is not a vacation

By Sarah Smiley on May 03, 2016, at 2:08 p.m.
In a perfect world, people should make room for mid-career reflections and personal goals that do not relate to a profession. But no one should feel entitled to those opportunities in the same way that women can expect what basically amounts to sick leave while they recover from the birth of a child.
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A mom is only as happy as her saddest child

By Sarah Smiley on April 26, 2016, at 4:40 p.m.
It’s easy when they are babies, when we can shelter and swaddle them and make everyone wash their hands before they hold them. But soon enough, we have to let them go, and when they come back with a broken heart, ours breaks, too.
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Who loses a bag of frozen ravioli while making lunch?

By Sarah Smiley on April 19, 2016, at 4:20 p.m.
For years, I blamed Dustin’s forgetfulness on his maleness. Not fair, I know. But the stereotypical image of a husband forgetting his anniversary or wife’s birthday fit so nicely. Maybe they are all like this, I thought.
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It costs nothing to make someone’s day

By Sarah Smiley on April 12, 2016, at 2:10 p.m.
I was genuinely surprised. Last week, at a party for my new book, “Got Here As Soon As I Could,” more people than we expected showed up.
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What I’m feeling as my husband prepares to retire from the Navy

By Sarah Smiley on April 05, 2016, at 12:42 p.m.
I was born during my Navy dad’s first deployment and married my husband promptly after saying I’d never marry anyone in the military. That was six weeks after I graduated from college. So I’ve been at this a long time.
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A surprise treat for the family brings an unfortunate twist

By Sarah Smiley on March 29, 2016, at 3:54 p.m.
I can’t help myself. To me, “surprise” can mean homemade brownies or, “Surprise, we bought you a dog!”
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MLB’s LaRoche reminds us why celebrities shouldn’t be parenting ‘examples’

By Sarah Smiley on March 22, 2016, at 4:26 p.m.
I can’t bring my sons to work everyday. I don’t want to bring my sons to work everyday. I want them to be in school, playing Little League and hanging out with their peers. And I promise you, that is OK, because that’s how “family comes first” to me.
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The joys of teaching your kid to drive stick shift

By Sarah Smiley on March 15, 2016, at 4:47 p.m.
Sarah Smiley: I am only slightly exaggerating when I say that I probably got whiplash during our first trip down the street. The Subaru bucked and lurched like a bull.
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What we don’t tell new moms

By Sarah Smiley on March 08, 2016, at 4:25 p.m.
How do you tell her that being a mother is like having your heart on the outside of your body?
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First ride-along is a dangerous rite of passage

By Sarah Smiley on March 01, 2016, at 3:16 p.m.
I voluntarily got into a “2-ton killing machine,” according to the driving instructor, and let my child take me for a drive.