December 10, 2019
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Comments for: Father admits to squeezing, throwing infant son, police say

  • Anonymous

    Unbelievable

  • Anonymous

    No punishment too harsh.

    • Anonymous

      I couldn’t agree more!!!!!!

  • I have reserved judgement on this until now….what the hell was he doing caring for that baby at all if he broke his arm already at 4 weeks ! PTSD is no excuse and has become the best stand by for some people that do really awful things…no excuse ! And yes, for the people that will say I don’t know what PTSD can do to a person, I do know about PTSD sufferers, more than anyone could ever imagine… NO EXCUSE ! One warning should have been enough, were people waiting to see if he would just break an arm next time ?

    I’m sorry for this, really I am. I try to mind my manners on here but my goodness, what the heck is going on.

    • Anonymous

      There was obviously a serious failure of the child welfare system in this case.  The broken arm at four weeks would have triggered an investigation.  This should not have happened.

      •  I just don’t understand this…even the father should have understood it was not the best idea to be with the children after the first time he became so enraged, before even breaking the arm. If he had even a speck of love for those babies ( he was a twin ) he should have said , you know what, maybe I should stay away while I get some help with this rage… and not forget to take my meds !

      • Anonymous

         That is becasue DHHS does have people in the field that have any clue what they are doing.  and their supervisors stay in the office in their protected world of I do not have to do anything.

      • Anonymous

        Bangorian, you don’t know if the broken arm was even reported to DHHS. As I have said before, child welfare can’t investigate reports that aren’t made. I think people should stop looking for a scape goat and blaming the government when they should be blaming the father for this horrific crime.

    • The state should have removed them kids when the infants arm was boken. What the hell is wrong with our system. Another ayla repeat but her body hasnt ben found. Oh Good God. DHS YOU ARE FAILING THESE KIDS

      • Anonymous

         Yet the TPers who have been screaming to take every dime away from DHHS should be happy now.Enjoy counting those tax dollars you “saved”A child is dead.

      • Anonymous

         Parents are failing their children.  Plain and simple.  DHS can’t be everywhere…and trust me, I am no defender of them either. 

    • Anonymous

       Agreed. I am also a person with a diagnosis of PTSD brought on by childhood traumas and I would never do that to another person, let alone a baby. If anything, my PTSD would cause me to steer clear from that.

      And I can’t believe I’m saying this but… I agree with Bangorian – Something should have been done about this a long time ago. He should have had no contact with children after he broke the little one’s arm.

      I’m so sad for that baby and the people that are going to have to carry on without him.

  • Smell Ya Later Occutards!

    I object to the term “father” being used in the headline.

    • Anonymous

      Any male can be a father. It takes a real man to be a DAD.

  • mommyoftwo

    Guess my previous post must have been offensive to someone, it was deleted!!  If people do not like reading what posters are writing than maybe stories like this shouldn’t be posted at all, if you can handle the retaliation of an angry community!!!  

    • Anonymous

       my post was also removed..censorship at its best

      • Anonymous

        I have no clue why your post was removed, nor even what the post was. But, censorship is not at work here. This is a bulletinboard of a private company, the BDN. If you want to take your opinions and nail them up on the side of your house in 4 foot letters, great. But if you want to write something on a company’s website, then they can delete anything they want. (Been there.)

  • Anonymous

    I demand an explanation from DHHS about why this child was left in this situation.

    • Dan Bullard

      Obviously DHHS can’t save everyone and taking a child from its parents is a last resort. The child safety workers  at DHHS are some of the hardest working and most caring people I know! Yet they can’t save everyone unfortunately. This is a tragedy, but it is not their fault, it is that pathetic excuse for a “father”, and if you think so then you are a bigger fool than all your posts suggest.

      • Anonymous

        That’s all well and good. But a broken arm on a 4 week old baby triggers an automatic investigation by DHHS.  So, now we need to know about the outcome of that investigation. Add to scenario that there were other kids involved and the parents were young and likely known to the Department.  This baby had a broken arm after a month of life.  And that arm, was broken just 6 weeks ago, but the State left him  where he was along with his two siblings. 

        Maine has the good fortune of an Ombudsman’s office.  If ever there were a time for them to speak out…..this is a gigantic failure……

        • Anonymous

           NOT A MONTH THE BABY WAS JUST 2 WEEKS OLD

        • Anonymous

          A broken arm does not automaticly trigger an investigation.  The doctor/hospital does not have to call DHHS if they do not suspect abuse. 

          • Actually, they do HAVE to report any broken or fractured body parts on children. They just made that a new rule. If a child goes in to the hospital with a broken bone, they are not to leave until they have been through an investigation with CPS.

      • Anonymous

        Well said Dan! I also must point out that DHHS cannot investigate anything unless a report was made about the broken arm. Often these incidents go unreported.

      • Anonymous

         Well I think as for any job, you have some that do their job and do it well and you have those that just want a paycheck! The Difference between slacking on this job and slacking on my job is a child’s life! I am not blaming anyone but dad. Just saying that not all DHHS workers are lazy or at fault as with any profession you have the good and the bad!!!

    • You go!!! Enough of this!!!!

    • I am NOT siding with this horrible man but maybe the hospital that they went to didnt call DHHS? Maybe they had some excuse that lead the doc to not believe foul play? Dont get me wrong I think DHHS sux half the time they take peoples kids from them when it is not a good enough cause and they tend to leave the abused ones in the parents care! I know a couple people who has had DHHS called on them and on she really should have had her kids taken away and didnt i couldnt believe it. ??

    • Anonymous

       YOU WILL NEVER GET AN EXPLANATION,DO YOU THINK THEY WANT THE BLAME?? I AM NOT TAKING ANY SIDES BUT THE KIDS

  • Anonymous

    So sad.

    Now will begin a journey that will entail this pos spending 1 to 2 years before trial. Then he will be convicted and receive a sentence of 10 years with all but 6 or 7 years suspended. Where upon his release he will in all likelyhood connect with another woman and have a similar experience.

  • PaulNotBunyan

    I’ve known people with PTSD. With most of them, I knew the details of their experiences in Vietnam. I doubt that any of them would agree that PTSD is a valid excuse in this case. We don’t know if he really does have PTSD. That’s confidential medical information.

    • Guest

      I have someone in my family with PTSD.  He would never do something like what this guy did. 

      • PaulNotBunyan

         The vets I’ve known with PTSD would hike 10 miles barefoot with a crying baby to get some help for him.

    • Anonymous

      I read that he was dishonestly discharged from marines (i believe) For going awol during boot camp. This was posted by somebody that knew him so not sure if it is true but what kind of PTSD could you have for that short of a period of time? Also his BIO- mom’s facebook said that he has put his hands around and tried choking 3 sibling’s so i think this is total B.S!!!!!!! Nice try though, You will get it in the end! Poor Poor baby!

      • PaulNotBunyan

         I’ve met a few just like that. They didn’t try any of the proper channels at all to get out of the service. They just left. They deserve that less than honorable discharge. From what I hear, you don’t need to jump the fence to get out during boot camp these days. They would rather get rid of a quitter than waste money on advanced training.

      • Anonymous

        According to the Morning Sentinel he got in trouble initially because he held a knife to the throat of a fellow soldier and then went AWOL. Also, the PTSD is apparently the result of his own childhood physical and sexual abuse.

        While there is no question at all that an adult can have a serious case of PTSD after experiencing severe, prolonged, and unimaginable abuse, IT IN NO WAY EXCUSES OR EVEN EXPLAINS WHY THAT PERSON SADISTICALLY ABUSES HIS OWN CHILDREN! I would hope that any judge in Maine would reject that defense out of hand, but I guess we’ll likely find out…

      • Anonymous

         army please dont INSULT THE MARINES SEMPER FI

  • Anonymous

    Wow that’s alot to go thru in 10 weeks of life, a broken arm and then a severe brain bleed. RIP Ethan! The details in this article make me physically ill.

  •  The local newspaper once again proves it is a rag barely above Weekly World News by posting details about an incident where an infant was fatally harmed. Seriously, details about a horrific crime like this need to be left to snuff websites and police reports.  We cannot even get local news without being horrified. No wonder our society is so immune and accepting of horrible things of this nature, with it being printed in newspapers like this.

    • Anonymous

      Really? So when it happens next door to you you can turn a blind eye and be quoted saying how nice they were and you never expected it AnD yeah I heard they argued loud they night AMD a bang, well he was kinda odd but we didn’t expect this … blah blah blah .

    • Anonymous

      I have to agree, when I was ready this article I was sickened by the details. What this man did is utterly horrible and disgusting, however I realize it is also news.  Report the story, leave out the descriptive details.  We are bombarded with these horrible inhumanities and society IS becoming accustomed to this.  There is so much good out there, but so little of that is reported with this amount of detail. Why? So sad…

    • Anonymous

       I doubt that the reporter,police,medical personnel/examiner or anyone else involved enjoyed the details of this.I thank them for doing the work many others would not do.
      It is simple facts and was probably carefully discussed and edited.I don’t agree with the BDN on a lot of things but here they would’ve been castigated no matter what.

    • Anonymous

      Are you saying that a child’s murder should not be reported in the newspaper because it’s too unpleasant to read? 

  • Anonymous

    Still trying to understand WHY  after a broken arm at a month old was this monster allowed any contact with any child??  Whats DHHS excuse going to be??  You think they would be more vigilant since Alya’s disappearance!!  So they dropped the ball once again and another child’s death could have been PREVENTED!!!  How about some ACCOUNTABILITY??    

  • Anonymous

    This is just soooo sad.  Rest in peace little one.

  • Anonymous

    RIP sweet angel.

  • Anonymous

    Still trying to figure out why he was allowed to be around any child after a broken arm on a month old baby??   How about some ACCOUNTABILITY on behalf of DHHS and what could have been done to PREVENT this!!

    • Anonymous

      Society needs to stop playing the blame game. This does not fall on the shoulders of DHHS, regardless of what anyone thinks/feels/believes. DHHS only responds to reports of child abuse and/or neglect, they cannot go out and investigate people without a report having been generated in the first place. Yes, this father has now also admitted to breaking ONE of the boys arms… I don’t think it’s clear which babys arm was broken, and it certainly does not excuse his behavior. He can admit everything he’s done all he wants, but it doesn’t EXCUSE everything he has done. It is also possible that the doctor who saw the baby after its arm had been broken did not suspect abuse (which is absolutely possible, they are not “experts” on that just because they are doctors).  Blaming DHHS isn’t going to solve ANY of the world’s problems.

  • Sad State of Affairs

    Unbelievable. No words for this travesty. That poor baby at the hands of an unfit person. I agree with other posters.  If the baby’s arm was broken at four weeks old, why was this child still in this man’s care?  Now the child is dead!  What is wrong with this picture?

  • Anonymous

    To think of all the childless couples who would give their right arm to have the privilege of raising a little baby boy AND his twin brother. This world can be so sad.

    • Anonymous

      Adopt.

      • Anonymous

        And sterilize maybe?

  • Lynda Lee

    Of course they are not going to allow derogatory comments! Lord forbid we should be allowed freedom of speech! What I am thinking about that low life will not be allowed so I will leave it to your imagination!

    • Freedom of speech does not apply to a private web site. They can remove any comment they desire at anytime.

  • Anonymous

    I’m a twin. 
    I can’t imagine life without my twin.

    My parents told me that when we were that age we were inseparable.

    This monster needs to be executed.

    • Anonymous

      I have pix of my identical twin sisters as babies. they were cohorts in mischief… climbed ceiling high shelves with each other and drove our mom nuts and they are in their 30s now and have owned a home together since their 20s. I don’t know it myself. but watching them I get it. I have a feeling despite their age the remaining twin will take a big emotional hit. very sad .

  • Anonymous

    This story is all too common these days, an unprepared parent caring for a young child/infant, without the necessary coping skills and family support to make the child safe and the parent successful.  In regards to DHHS, did DHHS know that the father had broken the child’s arm, or is the father reporting that now?  It is not uncommon for injuries to show up later that were often untreated.  I would assume that if a doctor had seen the baby, and were aware the baby had a broken arm, that would have triggered a call to DHHS.  But, if the baby was not taken to the doctor, then people may not have known the infant’s arm was broken, and no such call would have taken place.  The unfortunate reality is that there are lots of unprepared people who are caring for their children, can DHHS take all of them?  And, if DHHS does start taking more kids are the same people who are upset about children dying at the hands of their parents going to be upset that DHHS is overstepping their bounds?  I have seen people on here griping that DHHS has TOO much power, and then in another story griping that DHHS does not do enough.  My question is-where are the extended family, neighbors, medical professionals, etc. who have more contact with these children and families on a daily basis?  What are the parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends, etc. doing to help make sure that THEIR children are safe and taken care of.  If  I thought my child/grandchild were being abused, etc, I would not need DHHS to come in and take care of the problem, because I would be there doing it myself!  We need to start holding everyone accountable-too often we hold the state accountable, and then wonder why the state runs everything.  If we want the state out of our lives, then people need to start standing up and doing things for themselves-including making sure their children are safe and taken care of!  Lepage wants everyone to get a job, well, I say, take care of your children too!

  • Anonymous

    Judgement, justice, pay back in prision, going to hell, tax payers getting screwed in 3 different ways, DHHS not doing their job, bad parents, where’s the village, abuse, accountibility.
     It’s the same thing nearly every time. What is wrong with this picture?
    I think if no one under the age of 27 is allowed welfare for getting pregant, there will be a lot less of children having children and none of this “aftermath of hate and punishment”, but moving on to prevention.

  • atruebluedowneaster

    This story brings tears to my eyes. How does anyone do this to a child, especially one so young! He should never be allowed around children again.

  • Anonymous

    Post Traumatic Stress, heh?  Anyone see the insanity plea coming?  

  • Anonymous

    As I said when this story first broke, how many complaints did dhhs have before this murder! Hmmm dhhs. Once again u dropped the ball

  • Anonymous

    Babies cry! That’s what the purple hat campaign was all about –  to help raise awareness about the Period of PURPLE Crying and help prevent Shaken Baby Syndrome. Also, this young man lacks self control – medication or not – you NEVER raise your anger to a child, not even an infant. It’s abuse! Probably everyone in the home cowered to his rage and unpredictable outbursts. This time, it cost him the life of his own son. He should have sought help long before it got this far out of control and the other adults in the home should be held accountable for their failure to protect and/or intervene on behalf of their innocent, defenseless children!

  • Anonymous

    Also, regarding domestic violence and DHHS intervention – it seems that these cases are becoming more prevalent – and the ones acted upon by DHHS intervention are just the tip of the iceberg compared to what goes on behind closed doors. It’s not the job of the government to police our childcare – it goes deeper than that. Our whole values system has swayed – the home is not revered as a safe place and parents have become selfish seeking pleasures and quick cures rather than learning to be life partners who love, honor and cherish each other and the gift of life. Where are the mentors who could have influenced this young man? The generational excuses for staying in an abusive lifestyle whether you are the perpetrator or the victim need to be identified and dealt with. Until we return to the heart of the matter, these things will continue and become even worse.  

  • So sorry for the loss of the little boy. He had no way to say stop! Help! Crying was his way of saying something is wrong with me. There is no excuse for what his father did. Can’t take it, lay him down and walk away! So sad.

    • heidi guerrette

      An investigation should have been conducted when the infant’s arm was broken. How often does an infant break a limb by accident? 

    • Anonymous

       “Help! Crying was his way of saying something is wrong with me.”

      Of all the comments on here about this awful tragedy, I think this one breaks my heart the most. 
      Rest in peace, little one.

  • Anonymous

    Oh my God, I am trying hard not to visualize what this baby went through.  Reading about it is hard enough.

    • Maineiac Jim

      you are so right…..

  • Anonymous

    I had to read this article twice before I could believe what I was reading. I can’t figure out what the hell was he doing taking care of an infant after the four week old incident where he broke the infants arm. What were all the other people doing? Very sad, it’s hard to believe that a person can do something like this to an infant. Other people are involved and must have known he never should have been left alone with this child.

  • Anonymous

    Spend some time with students in a high school . . . the ones least capable of being a parent . . . will be the first ones pregnant/fathering a child . . . sad, sad, sad.  As someone else said . . . the kids don’t stand a chance.

  • Anonymous

    This is such a sad, sad story.   I hope he’s never allowed near children again–EVER.

  • Anonymous

    Men who are easily frustrated by children should never be left alone with them. I know a father should help by caring for his own children. But someone like this man clearly is a powder keg with a short fuse. I wish women would think twice before hooking up with such men and deciding to have families with them.

  • Anonymous

    Theres no excuse to hurt a child over your own frustrations, whatever happend to walkin away for a moment to just breathe then come back and try again, apparently when he broke his kids arm dhhs didnt think that was enough to take someones kids, nevermind the fact it clearly shows this person should of never been allowed near a newborn let alone any children, your pretty messed up in the head if you can take that much anger out on someone so small and innocent this story is truely heartbreaking being a parent myself Id hate to hear how he dealt with a two year old

  • Anonymous

    We must teach our children empathy.  Empathy is an essential component of human life. Empathy
    tells us that baby’s cry means discomfort or hunger. When we raise rage-filled, anger driven children the world pays for it. 

  • Anonymous

    I have PTSD and a few other mental health diagnosis’s and I have a 6 month old and I would NEVER EVER think of harming my daughter. If u get frustrated w your child set them down in their crib or somewhere safe and go calm down. What the f is wrong w people today?? These are innocent children.

  • CG

    That’s why Maine needs Death Sentence

  • Lynda Lee

    I personally know/knew the officer that found that baby in Auburn…

  • Anonymous

    The father of my children was also impatient and overly harsh with the little ones. I was told repeatedly “that’s because he KNOWS y0u will take over for him. Leave the kids alone with him and he will HAVE no choice but to do the right thing”.  It wasn’t true then and it isnt’ true now, yet I hear over and over that children are left with a parent that has a proven record of child mistreatment because of the ridiculous belief that a selfish, hostile, violent person will rise to the occasion if left alone with helpless children.  Some people are just not capable of empathy. May this baby rest in peace and his father rot in hell.

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