Those dreaded awkward moments can happen at any wedding. The best man is late and forgot the ring. Your maid of honor has one too many drinks and starts dirty dancing at the reception. Your mother and mother-in-law both think they’re in charge. What do to? Better yet, how do you avoid them in the first place? We asked wedding planners for their seasoned advice:
Katie Webb and Meghan Clem, co-owners of Intertwined Events in Irvine, Calif. ( intertwinedevents.com/) offer this advice: Let the bartender know that he or she can refuse to serve any guest who’s had too much to drink.
On easing family tensions around planning, Webb and Clem recommend:
— Have a small “Addressing Party” in which you get together with your mother and mother-in-law to share the task of labeling wedding invitations. Make it fun with drinks and appetizers.
— Share your wants and wishes as a couple with your immediate family members. Make sure this comes from both of you, in a united front. Most misunderstandings can be avoided by keeping everyone in the know.
— Don’t be afraid to let everyone know — politely! — what you want out of your big day.
Candice Sanders, owner and lead wedding coordinator at Events by Candice in Irvine ( eventsbycandice.com) has the following suggestions on handling “oops” situations and bad behavior:
— Planning and communication are the two best ways to avoid any situation that you wouldn’t want to remember.
— Save aisle seats for parents of small children in case they need to exit quickly.
— Make sure the reception venue staff knows that intoxication will not be tolerated and to cut off the bar for anyone who appears to be drunk.
— Make sure your DJ is aware you don’t want any “surprise” performances during dinner or any drunken toasts that ramble on.
— If the speech is going in the wrong direction, the DJ should jump on the microphone and cheerfully thank the person for his words, quickly moving on to the next toast.”
Natalie Good, owner/designer at A Good Affair Wedding & Even Production in Tustin ( agoodaffair.com/) on handling obnoxious, drunk friends and avoiding last-minute mistakes:
— Don’t try to handle the situation yourself! Ask an older, authoritative person who commands respect to quietly remove the individual from the reception.
— Worried about the best man being responsible with the rings? Have someone you trust — your mother? Maid of honor? — hold onto the rings until the ceremony is about to begin.
— Ask that your bridal party to be together one hour before the ceremony starts.
Jennifer Renee, owner and principal planner at Jennifer Renee Weddings & Events, Newport Beach, Calif. ( jenniferrenee.net/) on forgotten rings and bad toasts:
— Have a replacement wedding band kit on hand for back-up before the ceremony, so that if it takes more than 15 minutes to retrieve forgotten wedding rings, the ceremony can proceed. You don’t want to put your wedding behind schedule more than 15 minutes .
— A bad toast can easily be overcome by having the DJ or MC offer up the mic to anyone else who would like to toast the new couple. This way there can be a few more speeches that people will remember over the one bad one.
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