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  • Anonymous

    Easy. Arm EVERYONE!!!!

    • kcjonez

      Is that you Mr. LaPierre?

  • Anonymous

    Don’t allow people the sale off allens coffee brandy in maine.

    Require a competency exam to have a kid. Maybe we can have some adults who are adults?

  • Anonymous

    Enabling mental health workers to have more extensive training in domestic violence is a WONDERFUL idea and would translate into better support and safety for those suffering domestic violence! Now Mr LePage, please provide the necessary dollars and cents to back up your stance on domestic violence instead of continuing to cut our already bare-bones mental health budget.

  • Anonymous

    Education starting at an early age. Enhance the programs for Mental Health Workers and Hairdressers, both worthy efforts. Disarm abusers and increase the bail amounts and follow through with stiff jail sentences.

  • Anonymous

    Maine’s Home Visiting program assess for DV with every family they visit. We are a great resource for the front line defense against DV. Stop cutting funding for Home Visiting (which is funded with tobacco settlement money, not tax payer dollars) and we can make a difference.

  • How about putting out as much copy in your paper about batterers and child abusers as you do about consensual sex between adults for starters?

  • Jason Simonds

    Education.

  • Anonymous

    Jobs. Families are putting under incredible strain when their finances are in a shambles, and an uncaring political environment that blames the victims for the failed policies that have been killing the job market does nothing to relief that stress. Economic inequality and the financial insecurity that comes out of inequality has a direct destabilizing effect on society… Domestic violence is a symptom of this insecurity and inequality.

    • Anonymous

      Exactly. There is a direct correlation between unemployment, financial insecurity and domestic abuse.

    • Income disparity is an important issue of course, but that sounds almost like you’re providing for an excuse for domestic abusers – taking responsibility from them and putting it to the state. Every demographic is vulnerable to domestic violence. There is no excuse for anyone that chooses to beat their spouses and or children.

      • Anonymous

        No excuse, but a lot of DV comes out of the stress of financial insecurity, arguments that esculate into physical contact by one or both parties. Take care of that and there will be that much less DV. It has lots of other causes for sure, that is just one stressor in relationships, and a big one.

        • I buy it to some degree in regards to spousal arguments – though how it could ever translate into violence against ones own innocent children is not something I can comprehend.

          Break the poverty cycle, and there’s still the abuse cycle to consider. How is that broken?

  • Alykins

    As a survivor of abuse, I’d like to see stiffer punishments handed out. I have not gone to court or made any sort of legal effort to get my abuser behind bars, thankfully I have a long number of years left for statute of limitations so I can change my mind any time in the next 20 or so years.

    The reason so many survivors are afraid to speak up is that we don’t see any justice delivered; so many perverts are let out in a matter of months while the victims are scarred for life. And I don’t have any evidence of what happened to me (other than the diagnoses of therapists I can no longer afford and maybe an old journal) Even if I had reported it the same day, there may not have been any physical evidence. Why would I think a court would believe me? Especially with the BS sentences doled out in this state for sex crimes!

    More than 50% of all sexual assault incidents were reported by victims to have occurred within 1 mile of their home or at their home (http://www.rainn.org/get-information/statistics/sexual-assault-offenders), so I’d say this falls under domestic violence, wouldn’t you?

    If Maine judges actually put abusers in jail for longer than 90 days for once:
    -survivors could find closure
    -survivors that would otherwise stay quiet would speak up and those abusers that would otherwise get off scot-free would be punished for their crimes
    -it would be a deterrent to abusers if there were ANY punishment handed out at all in Maine.

    I can’t even read the BDN sometimes because I am avoiding those articles, you know the ones. It makes me more than upset, I literally weep for the survivor (and for myself), sometimes I’ll be upset for days after reading those articles. In 2013, I’m planning on writing one letter per week to a judge in Maine that let an abuser off with next to nothing of a sentence. Hopefully hearing a survivor’s plea will wake a few of them up, give them an experience to shudder at while sentencing abusers.

    This ended up being really ranty, which isn’t my writing style at all but shows how passionately I feel that Maine is screwing the pooch in this area. Hope it’s coherent enough.

    • Anonymous

      90 days? more like 90 hours, if the victim is lucky. Maine is a great place to live if a person is a criminal spouse beater.

  • Anonymous

    From the “Examiner.com” ” An extensive 2004 report by the National Institute of Justice found that the rate of violence against women increases as male unemployment increases. When a woman’s male partner is employed, the rate of violence is 4.7 percent. It’s 7.5 percent when the male experiences one period of unemployment. It’s 12.3 percent when the male experiences two or more periods of unemployment.”

  • Anonymous

    Please tell this poor ignorant fool why “domestic violence” is worse than other kinds of violence. Isn’t the violence the main problem? Maybe we should begin to refer to this problem as “Violence at home.” Putting the “violence” first clarifies the problem.

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