Comments for: How to talk with your children about the Sandy Hook shooting

Posted Dec. 15, 2012, at 9:36 a.m.

Most children will have heard something about the Sandy Hook shooting, and you will need to address it. Above, University of Maine Cooperative Extension Child and Family Development Specialist Leslie Forstadt talks about how to talk with your child after any tragedy. And, The New York Times offers tips about …

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  • Anonymous

    Keep your kids away from any mental health professional, They only make money with repeated vists and drugs.. Like the drugs given to this physo killer.. Listen to the side effects of these drug ads

    • Guest

      These professionals can help these children deal with the trauma. Meds are not the only answer and most of the time talk therapy works without meds.

      • Anonymous

        most of the time.LOL!!! Keep your kids out of therapy, these people will make money on your kid and keep them on drugs forever.

        • Guest

          Majority of the time and it’s no laughing matter. Your lack of education in the mental health area is lacking. CBT works wonderfully and children respond to it.
          My children are grown and as usual you are making all the wrong assumptions about mental health and the medications that bring a quality of life to a person who without them, doesn’t have.
          My children were well adjusted and thankfully grew up without incident.

          Mock it as you will but you are wrong. Those side effects are few and far between and must be listed. No one has all the side effects and the worst have to be recorded. There is no conspiracy, only in your mind.

          You have no idea the trauma these children have witnessed and hopefully with help they will recover and many will with and without medication if necessary.

  • Bright

    Something tells me that making a bigger deal of this with your child than they perceive it to be is not a good thing. I can remember being a young child and fearing the things my parents made seem scary. I was more scared of the mafia than drugs, cars or fires all things far more likely to affect a young child in rural Maine. If they are having issues of course they should be addressed, but making them aware of something outside their immediate world? I don’t know.

  • Bright

    One must wonder if all this media attention isn’t playing a role in these issues becoming more commonplace? It appears that in most of these mass shootings the perpetrator(s) are/were relative “nobody’s” in school and often are smart but not well known. Suddenly they commit an heinous act, often seemingly trying to outdo the last one, and suddenly in death they’re “somebody”. Everyone now knows their name and who they are/were. The next mass killer sees this on TV and in the media and increasingly is aware of how to be noticed and known on a national level. Are these depressed kids starving for a spotlight? Many of the traits are strongly similar.

    While we shouldn’t be hiding these things, do we all need to know all the details, 14 times a day and with special reports? We all grieve the loss of human life when it happens in mass quantity and especially those young lives taken, but more we see of it, the less we will feel, allowing us to become even more desensitized to the loss of human life.

  • Anonymous

    I don’t know of many kindergarten thru 5th graders that watch the nightly news, so why bring this up at all? I am really getting sick of so called experts, legends in their own minds trying to make political or social hay out of this tragedy.

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