Comments for: My wife is East Asian — is it OK that I only want to have white children?

Posted Dec. 01, 2012, at 4:23 p.m.

Dear Prudence, My wife, who is infertile, and I have recently decided to have children — we’d like eventually to have three — using an egg donor. (We decided against adoption because we would have no biological connection to our children.) We have just settled on this option, but it …

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  • Anonymous

    Dear Want to be a Dad. Choosing to have children is serious business and deserves serious thought about what having children is all about. I can’t speak for anyone but myself however; to me having a child with my spouse was about giving each other the most precious gift a couple can share with each other. So from that point of view your spouse, your Asian wife, should have as much to say about her (and your) children as you do. If you have a good marriage (at least as I define good marriage) and wish to share this incredible experience with the most important person in your life then you really should foster an environment where you both make your dream come true. Don’t just make “your” dream come true.

    As for your racial preference, frankly I am stymied as to why you married out of your race. Especially if you feel that her racial heritage is not good enough for your children. My wife is of a different race than I and honestly I’d have been devastated beyond my ability to imagine if she’d not wanted our children to be partly of my race. If we’d adopted race would not matter but in the situation you speak of, well, how does a spouse recover from being told they are not good enough.

    • Anonymous

      Ok I am with you on this one. If this is real.

      I have to think this whole letter has to be made up… it feeds into the liberal mindset on a number of issues.

      • Anonymous

        Awww there’s that Cheesecake paranoia!

        • Anonymous

          This sort of thing is done all the time. There have been scandals though the years about such things.

          You seem to have fell for it, so it served in purpose, real or not.

          • Anonymous

            Wolfy cant help it.

          • Anonymous

            Um, in your paranoid world maybe it does. You haven’t proven anything, so you can’t say it served a purpose. Well, you may have proven (though it’s already been proven over and over again) that conservatives have difficulty with that “personal responsibility” thing.

  • Anonymous

    Dear Want to be a Dad, Please don’t reproduce. With any race, just don’t.

  • Anonymous

    My husband of 30 years is Korean and I am white. My parents loved my husband but I think deep down they were relieved we didn’t have children because they would have been of mixed race. Same with my in-laws. Many people have told us over the years that we would have had very attractive chiildren because of the mix. Really? What difference does it make? All that matters if that your child is happy and healthy. If one is worried about what the neighbors think, maybe it’s time to move.

  • Anonymous

    I think the tuba player’s neighbor should drown him out with opera music blasted via a pair of powerful amps. I did that once to a guitar “playing” neighbor. Everytime he tried to play that head banging noise, I upped the ante. It worked.

    • Anonymous

      Actually if they want to do the noise war a little Groove Amada is as far away from tuba music as can be. A tuba player is going to hate techno. After an hour of tuba practice crank up Grandma Funk and shake the building down.
      I suspect maybe the complainer is doing something that annoys the tuba player, but no one has the sense to talk to each other about it.

  • The Great White Hope

    This is some funny stuff!!! LOL

    • Anonymous

      Judging by your profile photo, I could not agree more!

    • Anonymous

      Is that really you Mark Henry????LOL

  • Anonymous

    Hey, it’s their choice. If they both agree, then white offspring, even thru a surrogate are all well and good.
    No problem there at all.

  • JohnR

    “Dear Want,
    Reince Priebus, is that you? I can see how increasing the white
    population might be a good strategy for raising GOP turnout on election
    day.”
    Great answer……….. Couldn’t have said it better myself. ROFL!

  • Anonymous

    These articles give me a chuckle!!!!

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