Comments for: Mass. man leaves child in car on Black Friday, goes home with new TV but no boy, police say Mass. man leaves child in car on Black Friday, goes home with new TV but no boy, police say The man told police he lost the boy while shopping, panicked and called someone else for a ride. Read More Back to story → Guidelines for posting on bangordailynews.com The Bangor Daily News and the Bangor Publishing Co. encourage comments about stories, but you must follow our terms of service. Keep it civil and stay on topic No vulgarity, racial slurs, name-calling or personal attacks. People who harass others or joke about tragedies will be blocked. The primary rule here is pretty simple: Treat others with the same respect you'd want for yourself. Here are some guidelines (see more): It should be noted this is not a comprehensive list. Don't insult one another or the subjects of BDN stories. 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Quite often, we won't see a comment until it's reported. Questions about why a comment was — or wasn't — deleted? E-mail us at email@example.com and let us know your username and where you posted or saw the comment. That's about it: Stick to writing about the stories; be civil; be kind; enlighten your neighbors. And we'll keep moderating posts to try to ensure everyone meets those standards. Anonymous What a retard. They should, at the least, shoot him in the leg while trying to escape. Anonymous What was he? Say it out loud and think about it. Then pick another word. Anonymous Or maybe he can use whatever word he wants. The dudes retarded. Anonymous Do not diss the retarded folks in this world. They have more sense than to leave a young child alone in a car. Bradley Jackson ??why did he leave his car??what a dimwit. StillRelaxin I’m only speculating here but I’d guess because he was smart enough to know that his new TV wasn’t going to fit into his mommies’ car, especially with that ….what was that thing he had in the backseat?? Ok, perhaps “smart” was the wrong word to use above, how about just “ape” enough to know that if he didn’t call a friend with a truck fast he’d miss his favorite cartoon, in HD no less! Anonymous This boys mother should consider this a wake up call and dump the guy. I am sure that based on the level of intelligence that he displayed in this incident that this is not the first time he has made a reckless decision that endangered this child.(hence another question should be asked as to why the mom is with this man to begin with) I can’t believe he did that. This takes stupidity to a whole new level. Anonymous But he makes her haaapppyyy…isn’t that all that should matter? Monday morning is not a good time for me to read articles like this. The guy needs a boot to the curb and the Mom needs a slap. Anonymous but he’s “really” a good guy, he’s turning his life around, he just needs somebody to believe in him/give him a second chance/”SHE” can change him…….countless excuses why women date/marry losers Kathy Stuart But she “looooovvvvves” him. And while abhor violence, yes, sometimes people do need a good slap up side of their heads. Anonymous And the innocent child needs a new and loving home !! Anonymous If that’s how he treats the child think how he treats the mom. Pitiful. Anonymous This shows where the losers priorities are. He leaves a 2 year old alone in a car to buy a TV?????? If that 50″ TV was in the car instead of the baby he would never have left until he found the car. He’ld have called the police, his friends & anyone else he could find to locate that car with the TV in it. LOSER!!!!!! Anonymous Wait a mnute….what am I missing in this story? The way it is written makes no sense whatsoever….did he come out and find the boy gone from the vehicle? Why did he call someone to come and get him? Did he notify the police or the mother at any time or did he just think “no one will miss the kid and I can’t wait to watch football on my big screen TV”. As bugs would say…..What a maroon! Anonymous sadly the story makes complete sense. it’s the guy who doesn’t make any sense . He left the kid in the car and forgot he left the kid in the car. heck he even forgot he brought the car ,let alone the kid.. He was in the “black friday ZONE”. so focused on the TV and acquiring it he forgot about EVERYTHING else… you can’t make this stuff up . Some people are just dumb as hakes.. Anonymous Sad as it sounds, this is yet another story of a child done wrong by a mother’s boyfriend. People, please see this as fact. PabMainer Some “adults” in this world have absolutely no concept of life and the reality of it…..nor should these same individuals be afforded the opportunity to have a young person’s welfare in their control…..Crazy….. Anonymous Selfish man…if he wanted to shop so bad he should of taken 2 year old with him. Did he ever think…what if the baby woke up? what if someone abducted the baby? What a loser…I hope he gets more than a slap on the wrist!! Anonymous This poor kid deserves better than the hand he’s been dealt. So sad. Anonymous YES. Yes, the boyfriend has neck and arm tattoos and the girlfriend/mother has some tattoos. The mother collects government money BUT SHE IS NOT ON WELFARE. She is on WORKfare. So at least she works. Guest I have a few tatts. I’m over 50 and never on a social program. Get over your obsession about the tatts. They are nothing new. Anonymous When the public looks at criminals and misfits, they look to see if they have neck tattoos or not. and they are always un surprised when they see the tattoos. Guest Living in fear is unhealthy. Anonymous Ever go to one of those websites that show see the pictures of dead gang members, They are allows smoothed in tattoos. Looks like their “no fear, ‘i’m a tough guy look with tattoos’ was not too healthy either. Guest This is what I mean. A healthy mind isn’t obsessed with those sort of things. You are constantly looking for fear. Why would a healthy person visit a website such as that! To create more fear and anxiety within? I’m not a voyeur when it comes to the seedier side of life. It doesn’t fascinate me. I think you are just looking for an audience. I can’t oblige you any further. Anonymous Nobody gives a s–t what you think about tattoos. Shut up already. Anonymous someones gotta buy new games for the x box….. Guest I was at the Super Wal-Mart in Bangor and watched a young girl and her boyfriend walk into the store and leave a sleeping kid in the car (it was about 10 pm on a Friday night)… So, being a mom (and teacher) myself, I decided to stand by and keep an eye out on him. Sure enough, within 5 minute the boy was awake, let himself out of the car, and walked into Wal-Mart to go find his babysitter. He was about 6, he knew her first name, and we had her paged to Customer Service. She never showed up! Now, granted, we only had a first name to go on…. I wound up wandering the store with him until we found her. Then she started disciplining him for coming into the store! First, she told me “Well, I told him to stay in the car!”, then her story changed to “Well, he was asleep and I didn’t want to wake him.”…. Then, leave the boyfriend in the car, or you stay in the car! If it had not been a babysitter, but the mom; I would have been tempted to call DHHS on her… Anonymous why didn’t you SO call DHHS or mother to have them deliver son to mother, and charge babysitter with child endangerment Sara04605 Looking back on it, I probably should have. I was with another woman, and trust me that we questioned whether we had made the right decision not doing more all the way home. Sean Stark Sara, You failed to protect that child. I pray you dont have any small children Anonymous So why didn’t you call the police? You did do the right thing as far as watching and caring for the boy. But you did no favors to anyone but the negligent babysitter by searching her out and giving the child back to her without reporting her to the police. Your explaination seems like you’re saying if she was his mother you would have called DHHS but since she was the babysitter it was ok? If that was your child wouldn’t YOU want the police called and the babysitter charged? At the very least I would want to know so that woman would never be allowed to care for my child again! Anyone who leaves a child like that, parent or not, should be reported to the police immediently. Matthew Desmond He panicked? What kind of an excuse is that? Anonymous Its in the same category as “I snapped”. That category is called: “Too stupid to take responsibility for your own actions.” As we devolve as a society, it appears that category is in need of some overflow-relief :( Anonymous people for goodness sake…please…..it was a 50 inch TV…..!!!! He didn’t hurt anyone and there are LOTS of people want to leave thier kids in places THEY deem safe to do what they want to do…..quit the negative commenting…just because society and the law say you cant do this, he wants to do it….he should be allowed to do this no matter what the consequences are to others…he left the boy someplace relatively safe…..It was a lockbox as far is he is concerned, and isnt that the important part. You may not think in a locked car is safe, but he does, and there is no amount of discussion that would prove otherwise. Kids can go days without food, who is saying he wasnt going to return and get him as soon as he could. If I were this man, I would petition to start a referendum to allow adults to leave thier kids wherever they want to….as long as THEY think it is safe. I would also sue the police for invasion of privacy or entering property without a warrant. Society norms and law should not be the ONLY factor when determining what behavior is appropriate or not. Anonymous Wow! I just wasted a whole minute of my life reading your waste of a comment. It wasn’t cleaver or funny… just useless. Anonymous unless you apply it to other behaviors that people are allowed to do and say screw society and natures law…..selfish people wanting what THEY want…and being defiant when people object….This guy should be allowed to leave his kid in a locked car if HE deems it safe…why is this outrageous beahvior? because you think it is…sorry, the world has now decided that there is no right and wrong…sorry your sarcasm filter was busted… Anonymous I know you were being sarcastic. I just didn’t see the reason for sarcasm with such a serious issue. The world has not decided that there is no right or wrong. If that were the case this wouldn’t have made the news and we wouldn’t be commenting here. He should have been arrested and charged. Anonymous if he lost the boy why was he locked in the car? Anonymous Why didnt he call the sheriff’s office to report the child missing? Sean Stark I don’t understand, why he wasn’t arrested right away?