Comments for: Is it appropriate at Thanksgiving to unveil my secret sister and dad’s affair? Is it appropriate at Thanksgiving to unveil my secret sister and dad’s affair? Dad's love child want to come to dinner. Help! Read More Is it appropriate at Thanksgiving to unveil my secret sister and dad’s affair? Back to story → Guidelines for posting on bangordailynews.com The Bangor Daily News and the Bangor Publishing Co. encourage comments about stories, but you must follow our terms of service. Keep it civil and stay on topic No vulgarity, racial slurs, name-calling or personal attacks. People who harass others or joke about tragedies will be blocked. The primary rule here is pretty simple: Treat others with the same respect you'd want for yourself. Here are some guidelines (see more): It should be noted this is not a comprehensive list. Don't insult one another or the subjects of BDN stories. You may be ticked off at what someone did or said, but you can explain that without resorting to name-calling or obscenity. Remember that young people are on this site too. That nasty line that makes your buddies go "haw, haw"? You're better than that. Comments should be your own work, not copied and pasted from elsewhere, though brief quoted passages to make your point are fine. And please don't use all capital letters. There's no need to shout. Stay focused on the issue in the article. Off-topic posts will be deleted. This isn't a forum to chat about your personal life. Some ideas — the fate of the earth, abortion, gun control, the nature of God — aren't going to be resolved in a reader forum, so no need to get frustrated if others don't see your point of view. State your position once and leave it at that. If you mouse over each comment you will see a "Flag" button. Please use it if you feel comments on the site are out of line. Quite often, we won't see a comment until it's reported. Questions about why a comment was — or wasn't — deleted? E-mail us at email@example.com and let us know your username and where you posted or saw the comment. That's about it: Stick to writing about the stories; be civil; be kind; enlighten your neighbors. And we'll keep moderating posts to try to ensure everyone meets those standards. Anonymous what a completely disgusting ongoing article. It combines the moral depravity of reality with the National Inquirer…clearly this person makes up this societal scum from under a rock and presents it as real people….Just think of the community stories that could be placed here heralding the best of Maine rather than the fantasy of this person…for the benefit of only her. Anonymous What’s your evidence that this writer makes up this “societal scum”? What mechanism are you using to know that only 12 people read this column? Apparently Prudence has quite the following at her home site, Slate. Why don’t you approach the BDN about writing a “Best of Maine” column? I would love to read it. Seems like everyone wants to focus on the worst. Anonymous And yet, mrwaldo2010, you still come back for more…try not reading it if it bothers you so. Anonymous oh its ‘bother’ comes from the waste of space…..I enjoy reading drivel, especially when its read by a total of 12 people…..classic BDN reader-ology….start collecting the hard copy now…. Dirty Harry LOL!!!! Anonymous The person who is suppose to get chemo. if they have not had a test to see how fast her cancer cells divide, then she shouldn’t do chemo until they find that out. Chemo is pushed on everyone and if the cancer divides slowly chemo will not help because chemo does not reconize slow dividing cancer cells. If radation is the answer it should be “specialized” for that person and that problem so as not to destroy all the organs around that area. Most places who do not specialize in cancer does pretty much “one size fits all”. Anonymous Holiday host, Yeah, sounds like a wonderful idea. Probably will make for a real memorable holiday. Seriously, what are you trying to prove? Are you trying to destroy what is left of your family. The only thing you will bring forward is pain and sorrow, the loss of your friend and your family. Keep your “pie hole” shut and enjoy what you have. Anonymous Hey Holiday Host, if turkey day dinner is a little boring and not living up to your expectations, then go ahead and drop the bombshell to liven things up a bit. Old Bear WHat a pig.