November 23, 2017
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  • Alec Cunningham

    I like this part: “But as I think about it, what we do in our bedroom is nobody’s business but ours. It’s personal, and within a marriage that’s intimate and private, just like it is for all of us. ”

    It isn’t anyone’s business what ANYONE does in their bedroom, whether it’s hot sex action or nothing at all.  What gives people the right to talk about such intimate details?  Would they like it if we talked about how they have sex?

    • Anonymous

       I agree completely.  Has nothing to do with the issue.

  • Anonymous

    Ironically, the sexual activities of homosexuals and heterosexuals aren’t very different these days, if indeed they ever were, at least according to the various studies and media reports. That doesn’t mean that anyone has to accept anyone else’s standard of what is normal or not but it does suggest that we best mind or own bedroom business and let others mind theirs.

  • Anonymous

    Intolerance is the name of the game when it comes to pro-homosexual marriage people–see the headline concerning Treworgy Family Orchards, where they had a sign for vote NO on 1, but their right to freely place a sign on their property caused FB hatred to spew.

    • Alec Cunningham

      Really?  You cleverly ignore all all the pro-SSM marriage people who don’t condone such hate while also ignoring the intolerance from your side of this issue.

    • This Charming Man

      Intolerance of the hate people spew, and the lies they tell isn’t intolerance of anything but intolerance.

      It’s dishonest to call people intolerant when you condone policies and say things over and over that hurt people.  

      Posts on FB don’t represent everybody, and pretending that they do is childish.

    • Anonymous

      You mean your intolerance for the Pro Homosexual crowd to practice their freedom of speech?

    • Tedlick Badkey

      Intolerance of intolerance?

      Yeah… I guess you’re OK with your cousins in the KKKlan and their intolerance too, huh?

      The Treworgy family expressed their freedom of speech.

      So did those who disagree with them.

      That is the very nature of free speech.

      • Anonymous

        KKK formed and operated by Democrats..

        • maineiac123

           Yes but now run by Republicans.  I’ll bet Lincoln is crying softly in his grave at what his party has become. 

        • Tedlick Badkey

          Yeah… The KKKlan voted for Obama..

          Uh huh… Sure.

    • seththayer

      some people regard that sign  the same way others regard a burning cross on the same lawn.  The family has the right to have the sign, but they also need to understand that they are a business open to the public and so they are open to receiving as much criticism or praise as people can heap at them.  Free speech works both ways.

    • Anonymous

      You know, I’m sorry the Treworgy Orchards folks are upset, but they knew they would probably offend half of their customers by putting up that sign.  The same would be true if they put up a Romney or Obama sign.  I was a business owner once, and quickly learned that you don’t want to associate your business with a political campaign, unless you are prepared to offend half of your customers.  Most business people are smart enough to understand this.

  • Anonymous

    Fake conversation.  

    • Tedlick Badkey

      Why do you say that?

      • Anonymous

        I’ve heard better dialogue in “D” grade movies. Reads like a bad script. I have never heard any 2 people actually have such a stilted conversation.

        • Tedlick Badkey

          So, you have no evidence of what you say…

          Perhaps it’s poetic license to shorten a much longer conversation.

          Doesn’t mean it never took place.

    • Alec Cunningham

      Valid points.

      • Tedlick Badkey

        Very.

      • seththayer

        Agree, pretty much a made up conversation, which doesn’t help the cause one bit.  Thanks for the thought though Ms. Broder.

  • Here is a conversation with a dear friend of mine that took place some time ago!…

    Me: Hi Jim…how ya been?
    Jim:  Good an you?
    Me: not bad at’tall!
    Jim: How you votin on this gay marriage gaaabage?
    Me: votin against it! Just a bunch of sickos wantin to pretend they are normal! I dont want my marriage defined in the same sentence as that nasty stuff!
    Jim: I know what cha mean…I feel the same way!
    Me: Well, gotta go…say high to the missus for me.
    Jim: I will… same to you!
    ( this conversation used much more colorful language probably not suited for this venue)

    • Anonymous

      Wow…I guess my first question is why do you care who marries who?  It’s not for you to judge.  Second, do you mind your marriage defined in the same sentence with open marriages, or marriages where the husband or wife are physically, verbally, and emotionally abused?  Are those considered better marriages then a marriage between two people who love and honor each other until death do they part regardless of their sex or race?

      • Anonymous

        For people like billpetersll, an abusive marriage where the husband beats his wife every night is more valid than two men or two women in a committed relationship.  It’s sad that people actually think like this, but it’s true…

        • Anonymous

          I agree, how very, very sad

    • Anonymous

      How did you hear what each other was saying through the white hoods?

      • This Charming Man

        You made coffee come out of my nose !

  • Anonymous

    Here’s what I think.
    Everyone knows how they are going to vote.
    Let’s all shut to heck up til after the 6th

    • Alec Cunningham

      A better solution is to avoid the newspaper and the comments section if you don’t like people discussing the upcoming election.

    • This Charming Man

      You first.

  • Anonymous

    Imagine a society telling you what you must tolorate. 
    The real truth is, most people don’t agree with same sex marraige. There are plenty of freaks out there who will vote yes just because they think it is in fashion, no other reason. They want to be in a crowd and announce that they voted yes. A sort of cult like thing to do just to feel they belong and are important.. They really don’t care, it is a social issue to them and think it places them higher up in the cult if they vote yes. It is a fashion statement to have a gay friend on hand to display to their friends… Vote NO!!!

    • maineiac123

       Such an incredibley intelligent comment.  You’ve certainly convinced me. No, not to vote no because I’ve voted YES, you’ve simply convinced me that I was right.

    • Anonymous

      Do you know that gays were marring during roman time  ?

  • Anonymous

    I was at a family gathering last week.  At some point the subject of politics came up.  We all had a lively discussion of Senate candidates, Summers vs King. 

    And then someone brought up question 1.  And their husband added how anyone who would vote against SSM was a bigot.     I am going to vote no on this issue but at the family gathering I simply kept my mouth shut and said nothing.  You see, there is no way to have a rational discussion about the issue with someone who thinks that anyone who disagrees with them on this issue is automatically a bigot.  No need to ruin a family gathering.

    I bet my experience and “conversation” is a lot more typical than the one presented in this piece.

    • Anonymous

      Well then, what else are we supposed to call someone who votes to take away the civil rights of a large group of people in this country?

    • Tedlick Badkey

      There is no way to have a rational discussion with someone who intentionally votes to harm law-abiding citizens.

      I see your conundrum. 

      • Alec Cunningham

        Well, calling someone a bigot from the start is not the way to have any conversation.  If that was our strategy these past 2 years for our one-on-one conversations, then we’d have gotten nowhere.

    • Alec Cunningham

      It’s unfortunate that people think that.  While there ARE some people who, while voting no are bigots, it’s wrong to make such generalized statements.  Not everyone believes that everyone voting no is a bigot.

  • Anonymous

    Wonder if anyone is going after her social work license? Oh no, she’s on the right side.

  • Anonymous

    What about all the lies in the adds that are going on like loss your job  ect  ?

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