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  • Anonymous

    Dear Betrayed,

    It sounds to me like you’re not going to get over it and, with your new knowledge, that you wish you had never been in it.  Fine, if you can’t tough it out and give him the benefit of the doubt in death and deal with it as a widow should in the usual way, then don’t.  Walk away.  But first, have someone give his ashes to his family,  tell them that the services are up to them, and that you will have nothing to do with it or them.  Then change your name, move on, and pretend you had never been married to the guy. 

    That’ll show him, won’t it?

  • Al Brady

    lol….

  • Gardiner Moody

    Human beings are _not_ monogamous no matter how much we want to pretend they are. No matter how much we close your eyes, plug our ears, and stomp our feet. No matter how much we want to believe that “love” will conquer “base sexuality.” This is something that human beings do.

    This kind of solicitation is something that human beings with relative anonymity will do. All human beings want to have sex, even just the idea that someone might want to have sex with you is sexually gratifying. Anonymous sex; doubly so.

    Do not feel betrayed! This is natural human interaction. Do not let your husband’s being human degrade the love that you shared.

    • Anonymous

      There are those of us who ARE monogomous.  I do not regard this as ” natural human interaction”. The worst thing about betrayal like this, is the dishonesty that prevails, not so much the cheating, as bad as that is. 

    • Anonymous

      Your first sentence is absurd. Humans are not animals and CAN be monogamous!

    • Anonymous

      What amuses me is how it’s always the most repulsive dorks who posit this hypothesis.

    • PaulNotBunyan

       Oink Oink Oink

  • PaulNotBunyan

     Dear Betrayed,

    Like it’s obvious Snarky doesn’t appreciate her man so like put the moves on him before she gets him to the altar and like move on with your life.

    — PaulNotPrudie

  • Anonymous

    Tell the family to come pick up his sorry ash.

  • Anonymous

    Prudence did not give prudent advice as far as I’m concerned.

  • Anonymous

    I should probably keep my comments to myself but here goes.. Is it possible that he loved you and maybe these affairs were a sort of bucket list? And maybe he left the signs there for you to see cause he felt guilty? I have no idea just thinking out loud..  Either way good luck and god bless..

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