Since most dads fall short of flawless, how about considering Father’s Day advice from a dad who’s grappled with personal shortcomings, seen a son face his own struggles and still counts his blessings? Sheen, 71-year-old actor and liberal activist, is the father of Charlie Sheen and Emilio, Ramon and Renee Estevez — all the product of a five-decade marriage to Janet Sheen. The name that pops out is Charlie, 46, of the headline-making “Two and a Half Men” meltdown and eruptions over his dad’s tough-love attitudes on substance abuse. Actor-director Emilio, 50, has collaborated with Sheen on films and the new father-son memoir “Along the Way.” Renee, 45, an actress, has played opposite her dad in several projects, while Ramon, 48, is an actor and an executive with the family’s Estevez Sheen production company. Sheen admits to guilt about how his offspring were affected by the alcoholism that bedeviled him and by his consuming career ambitions. If he had it to do over again, he wouldn’t have had four children, he says, he would have had eight. Here’s his take on the art of fathering: “Be aware that your actions will speak louder and last longer than your words. A child absorbs through osmosis what the parents are feeling and what they do, far more than what they say.” “If you have an honest relationship with a child, that is the greatest gift. Lead an honest life and be free.” “Give them time. Time is really all we have.” With adult children, “You have to support them and make sure they know that they are still loved and cherished and you’re still in their lives and you’re there for them.” Remember the Irish phrase, “We never get over our fathers, and we’re not required to.” “The most important thing is that regret is useless and faith is necessary and love is everything.”
Names in the news, June 16
Posted June 15, 2012, at 4:51 p.m.