Comments for: My daughter is a homewrecker. Cut her from the will? My daughter is a homewrecker. Cut her from the will? I've got a small fortune; she's got someone else's husband. Now what? Read More My daughter is a homewrecker. Cut her from the will? Back to story → Guidelines for posting on bangordailynews.com The Bangor Daily News and the Bangor Publishing Co. encourage comments about stories, but you must follow our terms of service. Keep it civil and stay on topic No vulgarity, racial slurs, name-calling or personal attacks. People who harass others or joke about tragedies will be blocked. The primary rule here is pretty simple: Treat others with the same respect you'd want for yourself. Here are some guidelines (see more): It should be noted this is not a comprehensive list. Don't insult one another or the subjects of BDN stories. You may be ticked off at what someone did or said, but you can explain that without resorting to name-calling or obscenity. 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E-mail us at firstname.lastname@example.org and let us know your username and where you posted or saw the comment. That's about it: Stick to writing about the stories; be civil; be kind; enlighten your neighbors. And we'll keep moderating posts to try to ensure everyone meets those standards. Anonymous @ uncomfortable — that is sexual harassment, and a violation of state law. seththayer Prudence: I have just made the same decision with regards to family members. My sister made a very expensive choice recently when she thought only of herself and profit when in discussions with me over a family issue. It was so devastating to me that she would put $$ over family that I decided to change my will and disinherit her children. I am going nowhere soon, but I am so adamant that this was the last straw that I did the extreme to help me out mentally. I may choose to add them back in, but for now, my princess of a sister can stop counting on my $$ to help her kids out…. Anonymous Well thanks Seth for sharing. that will work out fine for you, don’t count on your sister to stop there but the lady who wrote Prudence, in many states you can leave out a child if you want but it won’t matter a child is “Entitled” to a percent of their parents estate. Anonymous I have looked this up and could find nothing that says a child is entitled to anything from a deceased parent if there is a will. If you know where or how I can find this information about a child in Maine is entitled to a percentage of an estate ( because I could be wrong but could find nothing to support this if there is a will), I would love to know. Anonymous A lady had 3 kids, one wanted everything after not having contact for years. The mother relied on a cousin for everything cause her sibs wouldn’t help. 1 child die and the other had learning disabilities. The mother left what little she had to her cousin . The first child finds out and takes the cousin to court. After a year or so and a lot of money to lawyers the cousin was told oh there’s a law if an off spring Contest the will they can get a percentage. The entire estate was valued at less than half of lawyer fees. The cousin had to pay. This happened to a relative Anonymous Scintillate, did the lady have a will? Everything I have looked up says a written will trumps everything. Not saying you’re wrong, just trying to learn more on the subject before a similar battle happens in our family like what went on in your family. Appreciate any info. you can share. Anonymous Yes she had a will she changed shortly before she passed away. The child who wanted everything also sent a letter saying they disowned any kinship, it was used in the court but the cousin still had to pay. The mother left that child one dollar It was in Maine . Any child left out or left a dollar can contest a will Any child who thinks they deserve more than their sibs can too. Closer to my own family I had a cousin who thought they should get everything and wasted a lot of the estate on lawyers. My own parents I said give it before you go it’ll keep the peace in case someone goes greedy later Anonymous Scintillate, thank you for the information. I’m in a similar boat with an adopted sister who will be left the lions share of the family estate and it doesn’t feel right to me. I’m not trying to be greedy but she’s to be left the family house and contents, money and hundreds of thousands of dollars worth of jewelry. I can have my fathers tools and a share of the money but that’s it. The part that saddens me the most (other than feeling like an outcast, though my parents and I are on very good terms) is my sister doesn’t appear to appreciate anything that is done for her. The girl rubs it in my face whenever something comes up about who is to get what. It’s hard and sometimes comes between myself and my parents. Sorry for the whine, but that is why I have been asking questions and trying to inform myself. To be honest, I wish my parents would spend it all or give everything to a worthy charity. At least then things would be more fair and it wouldn’t constantly gnaw on me. I don’t want to lose what my parents have worked hard for all their lives to lawyers but I believe things should be fair. No matter what I do nothing will feel or be right. Again, I thank you. Anonymous Well on the other hand my pares father says he’s leaving his daughter out their lawyer says that’s fine but I’ve seen too many battles with selfish siblings. You can contest your parents will to even up the division of the estate. Sorry you may have to deal with tbis. Perhaps you can convince your parents into turning their house into a business or if the house is of historical interest that might be good. You can check into a historical society read old papers etc maybe that would be good. Iwish you good luck after this closes to comments, you’ll find me around if the historical aspect can work I can point you in some directions with that Anonymous First response was spot on, exactly what I would have said. The second… that girl either needs to toughen up and just have a simple discussion with her boss and if it’s hostile than find another job. If you are working for someone who instills fear in you what use is a reference like that on a resume? The third, she also needs to toughen up. Sometimes in life you need to be a little tough, that woman needs to come right out and tell the other woman what makes her uncomfortable, otherwise the other woman isn’t going to understand that what she is doing is wrong. How do you just let someone put you in that position all the time without saying anything to them? HR isn’t going to do solve it, it’s only going to confuse that messed up woman because it will be the first time for her hearing about it. Speak the truth people! Anonymous YOU taught your daughter it was ok by not putting a end to it in your life now your mad she learned from you? Really???? As for your money it is YOURS do with it whatever you want. You have no duty to leave it to your kids. Anonymous No, no, no, a thousand times no Prudence. That’s very bad advise to Gun at Job. You should have told her to talk to her boss about it. Now she’ll not only look like a fool and a snitch and someone who can’t fight her own battles, but someone who goes around the boss – instead of talking to him directly -and reports him to the placement office for something that may have a perfectly innocent and reasonable explanation (i.e., the gun is unloaded and kept in the drawer as an exhibit in a case the firm is handling). Anonymous Pure crapola.