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  • Guest

    At nursery school the naughty kids would have to put their heads down on their desks or stand in the corner. This agreement may be more harsh-perhaps morning snack was taken away.

    • Anonymous

       Naughty *kids*? What did the woman do here that was “naughty”?

      • Anonymous

        One of two things would make her a “naughty”.
        1. She lied about the alleged abuse.
        or
        2. She told the truth about the abuse and has now dropped the order. Sending an EXTREMELY POOR message to the abused people in Maine. No need for the court system as long as he promised to change.  

        • Anonymous

          Forgot police did not need to be involved before the order. Any other witnesses?

          • Anonymous

            I believe in an earlier article the Capital Police did get involved prior to the order. I can’t remember if the State Police started an investigation before or after the order. In the other article it did say there was witnesses (according to her at least)  and they more than likely would have been called for court. The only thing I know for sure is that she alleged he abused her and he alleged she is lying.

          • Anonymous

            The new boyfriend in the car!

      • Anonymous

        They lived together for a year.  If she represents Belfast and its environs, and he represents the Brunswick area, one or the other, or both, were not residents of their legislative district.  While that might not be technically illegal, it sure smacks of unethical, at least to me.

        She would be in the wrong either way, would she not?  Either she lived in a different district or she was a party to him living out of district.

        Let’s not find him guilty and give her a free pass.  We might find that to be premature.  Time will tell, and eventually the whole story will get out.

        • Anonymous

          That is a good point. I agree.

          Besides, what kind of person puts a protection order on someone who was not in a dangerous enough situation for police to be involve first, or another witness?

          She settles on an agreement, and the article only mentioned that she is happy. Gets what she wants.

          Brings me back to the question, who is the abuser?

        • Anonymous

          Wait a minute. You’re saying that if you’re an elected representative, you’re restricted to dating people from your district? Because you might fall in love with and marry someone from outside? That’s sick.

          • Anonymous

            No.  He is saying if you are an elected official, you are required to live in the area you represent.

          • Anonymous

             Thank you.

          • Anonymous

            HE claims they lived together for a year, knowing that puts her in hot water.  They did not live together — she’s my rep and she’s in Belfast a vast majority of the time.  

          • Anonymous

             If she did not live with him, then I agree with you.  You are correct – the story only says that he said she lived with him.

            If she did, in fact, live with him, then I stand by my point.

          • Anonymous

             See downeastlaw.

            I said nothing of the kind.  They can date all they want.  If they move in together, that is different, because now they are not in the district they represent.  At least one of them.

            That’s not sick – it is using logic.

      • Robert Brennan

        There are those that consider adultery to be more than “naughty”. Perhaps you should pay attention to the time frame of this “relationship”.

        • Anonymous

           Perhaps I missed something in the article, but I did not see anything suggesting either  one has ever been married. If neither was married, there is no adultery.

          • Anonymous

             she was married, at least technically.  Divorced officially in the last couple of months per a prior article.

        • Guest

          Thanks Newt!

  • Anonymous

    No, BDN, if you think  ” Neither would disclose the terms of the agreement” is an acceptable answer.

    • Anonymous

      I don’t know which is more bizarre, the cryptic comment from RockyGMarshall, or the 13 people who liked it even though it makes no sense.

  • Anonymous

    Why would one or both resign their offices?  It seems that  one representative has agreed to drop the protection order extension.  The big question should focus on if they will run again and if they will win.  This must be known by now but the story did not provide any information.  This all seems like a waste of newsprint and should have been handled internally.

    • Anonymous

      I’m glad to know. I do not want to vote for someone who needs the protection of a court order, but is not in a dangerous enough situation to call the police or have someone else call the police for protection, and she didn’t or couldn’t find another witness to confirm his supposedly abusive actions.

      I think it makes her more of an abuser and control freak to push such paperwork through and then get an agreement she wants, which is probably what she wanted in the first place, more power, whether she deserves it or not. I do not think it is a fair system.

      • Anonymous

        Yes, she should be beat up and maybe shot first, then you would have nothing to say, would you?

      • Guest

        This is satire, right?

        If not, shame on you. These articles have had comments filled with the same sort of rationalizations which give Maine its reputation as a state which looks the other way on domestic violence.

        Maine: The Mississippi of the north?

  • Anonymous

    Unfortunate for all. 

  • Anonymous

    I believe both  are listed as candidates for November. 

    •  With at least one taking Clean Elections money — again. Too bad the taxpayers can’t recoup what we paid for du Houx’ past campaigns.

  • Anonymous

    I love happy endings.

  • Guest

     I guess she got her pictures back, matter settled.

  • Anonymous

    Even though an agreement has been reached she should be very careful.

  • Guest

    Makes me feel good to know that we have people like this (or at least him) creating laws that the rest of us have to live by, and then when you apply the dysfunctional factor to the boatloads of other nut job lawmakers around the country, the confidence I have is just overflowing!

    • Anonymous

      I do not want to vote for someone who needs the protection of a court order, but not in a dangerous enough situation to call the police or have someone else to call the police for protection, and she didn’t or couldn’t find another witness to confirm his supposedly abusive actions.

      I think it makes her more of an abuser and control freak to push such paperwork through and then get an agreement she wants, which is probably what she wanted in the first place, more power, whether she deserves it or not. I do not think it is a fair system.

      Yeah, just what I don’t want, a control freak in congress deciding what is best for the people.

      • Anonymous

        That’s some convoluted thinking you’ve got going on.

      • Anonymous

         So wanting to be safe in ones workplace is an indication of personal shortcomings?

        Vote for who you want, but spare us from your twisted logic.  Is it women you hate or Democrats or both?

      • Jim davitt

        Excuse me, but this is the Maine House, not the US Congress.

      • Steve Anderson

        So you’re blaming the victim for trying to protect herself?! Wow. I have no words. 

        • Anonymous

          The only person who says Herbig is a victim is Herbig. Her allegations are just that: allegations. I find it disturbing that on the basis of her say-so, du Houx’s constituents are without representation. If there is truly something so heinous that merits his being forced out of the State House, his constituents have a right to know what that is. I’m also disappointed that the BDN has not investigated allegations regarding Herbig that were posted on the BDN site by someone who claimed to be du Houx’s mother. Regardless of who actually posted those allegations, surely readers and voters would like to know if they are true. Will the newspaper verify them?

    • Guest

       Would have been a lot more interesting if it had been a same sex relationship.

  • Anonymous

    The only agreement that she should have agreed to is “stay away from me, don’t call me, don’t email me or you go to jail”. I am sure she must be comfortable with the agreement that was reached, but she should still be very cautious as he apparently is a couple sandwiches shy of a picnic.

  • Anonymous

    The protection order put her, the filer at an advantage.  Lawyers rather see an agreement whether it is fair or not.  Notice there is no mention whether he, the defendant is happy about the agreement, but like Let’s Make A Deal it is better than chancing getting the 1 penny, or a permanent order is what they say.  Judges do not always get all or enough information to make a proper call either.

    I still think she should have had to have another witness to confirm what he was doing is worthy of a protection order before such drastic things happened.  

    For example, where is her police report?  Oh, what he did was not enough to call cops, but enough to put a court order on someone, and drastically change their life?  Your word came before theirs so it has the advantage.  Good luck to the defendant.

    Glad I don’t live in Belfast.  I don’t have to be her constituent.

    Who is the abuser?

    • MIchael D. Hurley

       I am glad and proud I live in Belfast, Erin Herbig is a great representative for our district, and if the two parties have come to an agreement: good for them. How many tens of thousands of women have been abused or died because of not acting when things went strange? My hat is off to Erin Herbig for taking a  strong stand and for erring on the side of safety. 

  • Robert Brennan

     Now that the Bowdoin Orient has deleted all the incriminating Who du Houx posts, will YouTube be dematerializing the Angus King testimonials for Alex?
    The whole incident serves as a deep insight into Democrat values. Buyer beware!

  • Anonymous

    She was so frightened of him that she dropped the order….NOT, or else she is being stupid…from all she said & wrote he sounded dangerous. I hope she does not regret her decision.

  • Anonymous

    it certainly shows a mismatch between two adults.  arn’t we all glad no children are involved?

  • Anonymous

    Dude just step down for the good of the State.

  • Anonymous

    Dumb and Dumber…

  • Anonymous

    When and how did du Houx become an officer in the Navy?

  • Anonymous

    I don’t understand people sometimes. Last week many on here was ready to knock down his door, take away every constitional right he had, and tar and feather him so that she could be safe from this evil monster. Now she is dropping the order because they reach a civil agreement and she feels safe. And most on here feel fine with that. With all the domestic violence and abuse lately congress said they would get tough on abuse. Yet she dropped the order because he gave his word. I sure hope abuse person isn’t out there right now wondering should I get a PFA or take their word that it will stop and then reads this article.

  • Guest

    And they all lived happily ever after.

  • Anonymous

    If this woman, God forbid , ends up dead by this mans hands, you all would be on here demanding his head. He stalked her, video taped her, photographed her. He threatened her with extreme military violence. Yet if this was some mother with children trying to protect herself and kids you’d all be, whoa, wait a sec. This can’t be allowed. Hmm. No war on women? Riiight….

    • Anonymous

       Allegedly!

    • Anonymous

      I agree .  I don’t believe  duHoux …. can’t be trusted

    • It has nothing to do with a “war on women”, I’m sure the none of the folks who have left comments in any way condone such behavior, what people are saying is it is all a he said she said deal, in America there is due process of law, the whole innocent till PROVEN guilty thing, if you were called to be a juror today you would convict this dude based off a newspaper article. What if we found out tomorrow she was lying?….and i’m not saying she is, as of now there is just no evidence shown to us or witness’s to corroborate.

      • Anonymous

        Cornell du Houx has not been charged with a crime. A protection from abuse petition is a civil matter; it is heard by only a judge. There is no “guilty” or “not guilty” verdict rendered in these cases.

        • I know. I was just making a point on convicting people based off newspaper articles but, i should have worded it better.

    • Anonymous

      “He stalked her, video taped her, photographed her. He threatened her with extreme military violence.”

      Unless you witnessed these acts, how can you make such statements as though they were indisputable facts?

    • Anonymous

      Herbig says du Houx stalked her. Herbig says du Houx videotaped her. Herbig says du Houx photographed her. State police have apparently been investigating this for a while. Any thoughts on why du Houx has yet to be charged with anything? I’m not defending him. But I do find it curious that because Herbig claims to have been victimized, many readers of this forum believe it to be so, no questions asked.

  • Anonymous

    And I’m sure Republicans are glad it doesn’t involve dereliction of duty, draft dodging, tax evasion, gay bashing, lying to Congress, or any of the other favorite pastimes of their current and previous four or five poster boys.

  • Robert Brennan

    Democrats’ best friend: non-disclosure agreements! Does this mean Alex is now free to purchase a handgun to actualize his concealed weapons permit?

  • Anonymous

    Le photographe de le Marquis Cornell du Houx et sa femme (en dehors des liens du mariage) is an encouraging reminder that the next generation of liberals have masterfully grasped the sins of their liberal forebears… and added a certain je ne sais quois to the mix.

  • These two are obviously too young and immature to be in their respective positions. Drama!

    • Anonymous

      Maybe it was staged?

      • To whose benefit?

  • Anonymous

    This is the first picture I have seen of her and my question to him about stalking, or even wanting to see her is:  Why?

    • Anonymous

      Love or lust?

  • Anonymous

    YuHoux DuHoux maybe you get it now.  Stalking other people is not OK.  You seem to be a very  dangerous and unpredictable man.

  • Anonymous

    And I’m sure Republicans are glad it doesn’t involve gay sex in an airport men’s room.
    http://www.badmouth.net/top-five-republican-gay-sex-scandals/ 

    • Anonymous

      Yeah,and we know what Liberals think of GAY deviancy,don’t we,lol.

    • Anonymous

      You’ve got that right.

  • Anonymous

    He said: 
     “I’ve dedicated myself to the people of Brunswick as a lawmaker and to my country as an officer in the Navy. I am looking forward to continuing to serve in the Legislature and running for office.”

    Yet his bio states:

    “He joined the Marine Reserves in 2002 and was deployed to Iraq with the Marines’ Alpha Company in 2006 – where he spent a year patrolling the streets in and around Fallujah.”

    Which is it? 

    ..and when did adultery become legal??? She def. was married at the time of the affair; and how could he be ‘engaged’ to a married woman…perhaps they are metrosexuals?

  • Anonymous

    Am glad this came to an amiable resolution. Made plenty of relational mistakes when their age. Hope they can both now move forward and upward with their lives.

  • Dan Troop

    This was a complete misuse of the Protection of Abuse Order and the system. The resolution should have been decided by the judge who issued the temporary order, not the attorney’s. The fact that neither party would disclose the terms of the agreement clearly indicates that the resolution was completely political. This was a very poor message for a legislator to send to the abused women of Belfast, Waldo County and the State of Maine.

    • Anonymous

      Attorneys in these cases attempt settlements all of the time. It’s not unusual. In fact, it’s preferred. Plaintiff who agree to settle usually do so because they are not sure they would prevail in a hearing before a judge.

  • Here’s what the people of Maine got out of this mess. NOTHING. But we’ll all forget come election day…

  • Anonymous

    I think this is a reality show, actually. Maybe it is intended to be? Let’s wait and see if they make National news, or late night TV or something…..  What are the odds?

  • MA-NE.net: ‘CAPITOL’ STALKER OR LOVESICK?

  • Patten_Pete

    Meanwhile, this lunatic is running around and a danger to society.

  • Anonymous

    Nutty guy from a nutty family….

  • Anonymous

    Don’t you just love stories like this and see where your tax dollars are going?  He needs to grow up.  If this was a real work place he  would be fired and  not be told to stay away from  the Legislature this week.  And still getting a paid check.  This reminds me of a child that you put in a time out chair.  Don’t come back until you leaned your lesson.  I don’t think we heard the last of this story. 

  • Anonymous

    Protection Orders are so often misused- this is a prime example of someone using a protection order the wrong way. Makes it harder for  those who are sincerely in danger; I feel she used the system to get back at this ex- lover- sounds as if he has his problems too…the question is- do we want such toxic people to be involved in the running of the state? Don’t we have enough  Bozo’s?

  • Anonymous

    I wouldn’t be dropping the protection order…..no way! sounds way too weird for me!

  • Anonymous

    It takes two to Tango, and both should be shown the door. I would not be pleased to have my Representative taking a break from business because a fling with another Representative went awry. It causes one to wonder if the one who is staying away from the House this week wasn’t targeted in the first place, and what constituent business that one will be absent from deciding.

  • Anonymous

    I hope that the voters make sure that neither of these folks are elected again. With the agreement being “confidential” we will never know the real truth concerning the allegations. What I can see quite plainly is two people who can’t keep their “affairs” in order even though they elected officials and should be held to a higher standard. When in doubt, vote em out.

  • Anonymous

    Maybe we need a minimum age here: these two look like little children…

  • Anonymous

    Rep. Cornell du Houx took an excused absence, just for this week.
    An excused absence is used all the time by lawmakers and only is for a short time period.
    A leave of absence means the lawmaker is not conducting his duties for an extended time period. Often a leave of absence leads into a resignation.
    There is a BIG difference in these terms.

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