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  • Anonymous

    Having now gone through a couple of years of youth sports in Bangor, I can say with confidence, that the ‘Dad’s’ yelling from the sidelines are far less cute than Lindell.  In fact, I’ve been amazed by the number of ‘Dad’s’ in this town who are trying to resolve their own short-comings, or re-live their own “glory-days” through their Little League-aged kids. One might argue that youth sports brings out the best in kids and the worst in their parents, particularly when those ‘Dad’s’ become coaches or, even worse, Youth League board members.

    Let’s not be deceived into believing that this is just a problem with men: many youth sports ‘moms’ also derive far too much of their own identities from their kids performance on the playing field. The idea that this is now being transmitted to younger siblings, as this essay implies, is more disturbing than cute. Parents should be helping kids develop perspective, not supporting the notion that one is defined by their early life achievements, or failures. Youth sports is about growing and understanding yourself, it’s not just about winning, or making your parents proud, or helping your parents feel like you might reach some potential that they were denied. Those adults who think it is have lost their way (if they ever had it).

    The real grown-ups in Bangor need to do a better job of governing youth sports and letting kids play for the fun of the game. And through modeling, they should be helping those” baseball dad’s” and “soccer-mom’s” get over themselves, or at least learn how to have fun. It’s cute when kids yell from the sidelines. It’s not so cute when adults do it.

  • Anonymous

    ” I, myself, have never understood the whole
    everyone-wins-and-gets-a-trophy mentality. Let’s be real: in sports, as
    in life, there are “winners” and “losers.” Hard work pays off. Talent is
    a rarity to be admired and treasured.”

    Truer words have never been spoken. Your kids will grow up knowing how life really is. You should be very proud that you have instilled in them this life lesson. Something that is now lacking in our school systems and society as well.
    Great column!

  • I’m a youth lacrosse official in VA, with a summer home in Eastport.  I don’t do it for the game fees, which pretty much cover my gas & uniform expenses.  I do it for love of the game, and the enjoyment of teaching the correct play of the sport to youth.  I have come within a deuce of quitting, because of the “chirping” from the sidelines.  One thing I guarantee about the parents; they have NOT read the rule book, whereas I have read it, cover to cover, and more than once.  And while lacrosse IS a contact sport, at the level I officiate, rough play is discouraged.  Too many coaches should be barred because of what they promote.  The quickest way, in my mind, to ruin youth athletics is to let adults get involved.  Perhaps if no coach of an under 15 year old sport league team could be over 20 years old themselves, it might solve the problem. 

  • These guys yell from the sidelines because they think little Johnny is gonna grow up to be David Ortiz, Michael Jordan, Zdeno Chara or Tom Brady.  But if there’s a blown call, you can’t help but get a little miffed, right? 

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