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  • April Rainfrette

    Ain’t love grand?

  • Anonymous

    She should be arrested right along with him!

    • Anonymous

      She should be charged with making a false report or something! Or the protection order should be terminated on the spot. People like her make a mockery out of those women who are indeed in danger and DO accept the protection that the order carries.

      • Anonymous

        you got it! I absolutely agree that the protection order should be dropped.

        • Anonymous

          He needs the protection here, but the protection he needs is from himself. He needs to grow up and realize she’s not the woman for him. He needs to figure out that you can’t change people. An adult relationship consists of two consenting adults. The more time he spends on this woman the less likely his chances of ever having a rewarding, mutual, adult relationship. Remember, her former employer called the police on her, not him. Her former employer had decided to invoke their rights to bar her from ever being on their property again. The only tool the police had to protect him from himself was to arrest him for violation of bail. Remember, when you are out on bail, you are technically still in the custody of the Office of Corrections. Bail is surety you pay a private bail bondsman in the event you don’t show up for your trial or pretrial hearings. He got lucky. The police arrested him and the bail bondsman didn’t have to send private security personnel to collect him, dead or alive. 

          It’s too bad this immature kid now has an adult record of domestic violence. He’s going to be convicted because he’s obviously guilty of doing what they said he did, and no lawyer wants to go on record as saying a violent act between a man and a woman in a relationship was not domestic violence. Have you ever tried to get a Bangor cop to do anything about anything they didn’t personally observe themselves? Their typical response to a car theft is, “There’s nothing we can do about it.” Those are the exact famous quoted words the sporting goods salesman received as a reply from the Bangor PD in 1937 when he called to report that Allen Brady had just been there trying to buy 50 caliper machine guns. The Bangor police literally did absolutely nothing. Fortunately the store owner was bright enough to call the state police, the sheriff, and the FBI. It’s a good thing he did. Otherwise we might have a criminal for a governor, topless bars throughout the state, gambling casinos in Maine cities with International Airports, a serious public health and safety issue with drugs, and gang violence.

          • I agree most
            of what you said, yet at 23, not a ‘kid’ anymore. I understand that only
            certain things come from hands on experience, like relationships, but I believe
            part of the problem is that people are still treating them (18-25 year olds) like
            kids. Heck, by his age my parents had 2 kids, their own house, jobs, started a
            401k etc.  I personally had 8 years of
            working experience under my belt by age 23, my own apartment and my own bills,
            paid my own insurances, and had power of attorney over a grandparent (I’m 30
            now, so it wasn’t that long ago).  

          • Anonymous

            I agree with what you say about the 18-25 category. I had a job, a house, and retirement by age 23. It’s now all gone with the economy.

      • Anonymous

        “She should be charged with making a false report or something!”

        Contempt of Court, may-be ?

      • Anonymous

        It’s not a protective order, people, it’s his bail conditions. As the victim of a crime, not the perpetrator, she is not on bail and not subject to any conditions. It is his responsibility, solely, to abide by his bail conditions to keep away from her. They are his alone.

        Filing a false report? Please! What false reporting do you see? The story shows that cops had pretty clear probable cause to arrest him based on what they saw at the scene.

        You know what makes life hard for battered people? The way others stand in judgment of their choices while having no knowledge of their circumstances. You all are really lucky that you have never been so scared of someone that you feel resisting them is futile and that the safest thing might be to play nice with someone who has hurt you and might again. I hope you are thankful for that blessing.

        • How is she a victim?

          • Anonymous

            I don’t know either of them at all. Having said that, my gut tells me she’s bad news and he needs to get that. He’s not going to get her to stop exploiting him and setting him up, ever. He sure isn’t going to do it by punching out her rear passenger side window. That’s what he was out on bail for. It doesn’t make for a clear argument for anything but property destruction in my mind. If he was trying to hurt her he’d have had to get in the car or punch out the driver’s window. If she feared for her life or safety, when his arm was caught in the window he had just punched in she could have taken him for a drag. When you punch in one of those “safety” glass windows, you can’t get your hand back out without chopping it off unless someone helps you. The same goes for windshields. Seatbelts were originally designed to keep your head from going through the windshield because your head would get stuck in the safety glass assuring certain death. Airbags are designed to keep  you from using your car as a weapon. Most airbag deployments result in metatarsal or other hand or arm injuries. The horn locks on and won’t shut off ’til the battery is disconnected. The AirBagDeployment computer records exactly what was going on before the airbag deployed. We really are a bunch of suckers if you really think about it.

        • Anonymous

          You know what makes it hard for men to unquestioning believe women who claim to be victims of domestic violence? Their own experiences with women. Women are uniquely adept at emotional abuse. They practice it on their mothers from the age of 12 or 13 through the time they are emancipated or want to use the car and get a driver’s license and a job. The mistake men make is giving any woman a 2nd chance or trying to “win her back”. My advice to men, be tough. Own it, and don’t back down, ever. Don’t ever ever beg a woman for anything and for God’s sake never cry or whine. It disgusts them. If they want to move on, yank out the rug, roll it up and take it with you without a word or a second thought. Don’t bother to ask them if they are scr*wing someone else because they are and have been for the last 6 months at least. It’s a lot like when they ask you to participate in planning your wedding. Man up and move on. Otherwise you’ll wind up like this weenie who now has a record of domestic violence and bail violation. Don’t bother to talk to the man she’s been scr*wing because he’s next but will never believe you. Just feel bad for him and as I keep saying, move on.

          • Wow, you sound sour!Here’s to you finding someone that doesn’t fit the above discription – there are some good people left out there.

          • Anonymous

            Wow, you obviously had some bad experiences with females. With that chip on your shoulder, don’t expect anything to ever be different.

        • Anonymous

          It does sound more like the court or judicial system wanted him to stay away from her, but what is to protect him if she is actively seeking him? If she was asked to no longer return to the restaurant, she is probably not the most innocent person either.

      • Guest

         We live in the USA in which woman can lie and play the “professional victim” card as revenge on her X when ever she feels like it. I’m not saying all women do this. But it seems that if you are a woman you can cry abuse and the big ol’ cops and courts will want to coddle her. All the liberal social works come out to have a field day with their “token victim” and no one is the wiser. Sad but all too true.

        • Anonymous

          Nah, you can be a guy and do the same thing to a woman. As you said, “all the liberal social works come out to have a field day with their token victim and no one is the wiser.”

      • Anonymous

        I totally agree with you. If someone is actively seeking, or willingly spending time with the person they are requesting protection from, then there should not be a protection order.

        It is protection orders like these that make it harder to protect people like Amy Lake’s family.

        Maybe there should be consideration of a protection from abuse order in reverse. To protect the person who is being pursued and/or hurt by the person holding the protection order? So, they can no longer be abusive to the person they are holding a protection from abuse order onto.

    • Anonymous

      She committed no crime.

      • Anonymous

         Sounds like she was Trespassing and the Cop’s were called, on her. Then they arrive and she just happen to mention this poor sod in the bathroom, wallah  “No charges”

    • Guest

      true.

  • Anonymous

    More coverage of another “catch and release” club member.

  • Anonymous

    Someday,soon, this Headline will be an actual crime. 

    • Anonymous

      Someday, soon, this Headline will be an actual crime, again.  

  • How can they charge him with domestic violence when she did not cooperate? Well maybe I should become a boxer and have the other guy arrested for assault if he hits me.Some woman like the drama.

  • Guest

    ….

    • Anonymous

      Grow up? Oh, but it is so much more fun to act like kids…

      • Guest

        …..

  • Anonymous

    Coddle and nurture the poor boy…LOL….

  • Anonymous

    Her name needs to be mentioned and called out in the article just as much as his name is mentioned. 

    • Anonymous

      Because?

  • Anonymous

    This Headline is too funny. “Man arrested after being caught with woman” I thought Maine went 100% SanFran! 

    • jimbobhol

      Now that’s funny.

    • Anonymous

       Give it a few years, it probably will be illegal in SanFran.

  • Anonymous

    Maybe, thery don’t understand ENGLISH!

  • Anonymous

    Equally as Exciting- I couldn’t find the remote today.

    • Guest

      You heard the crickets too?

      • Anonymous

        Mark my words, we will be reading about parking tickets before long.

  • Anonymous

    Just a thought here…….what if every teenager when they hit 18 has to wear an orange PCJ jumpsuit where ever they go. When they start college or get a full time job they can return to “civis”…..that would help the local and state PD’s figure out the kids trying to better themselves vs. the deadbeats that star in the police beat section……just a thought!

    • Anonymous

      What does that have to do with domestic violence?

  • Anonymous

    Sounds to me that these two love each other and what law or laws should come between these two! I hope they have a full and happy life together!………………..you believe me right?

  • Anonymous

    This so needs to go to Leno. Funny headline!

  • Anonymous

     He sure got a BIG head.

     Is that what bath salts do for you?

  • my fork…

  • Anonymous

    “Man Caught With Woman”? I was expecting something more risque.

  • Anonymous

    My Fork, excellent food

    • Anonymous

      So you have never been there! Oh right, those hot dogs are a work of art.

  • Guest

    This is ONE sick female. All charges on the male should be DROPPED. The female obviously wants him around her. Lots of sick relationships going on out there. Why waste time and money in the court system. Let them go at each other………….seems to be what they like best.

  • Anonymous

    just took her out to suppah to make up for the window he broke…..no good deed goes without punishment…..

  • Anonymous

    “Man arrested after being caught with woman”.  While I deduced that this might be a legal issue, I cannot brag about the wording of the headline.  I might have thought a journalist would have come up with a better headline.
     

  • Anonymous

    For years men have been getting arrested for beating on a woman just to have that same woman at the jail bailing the guy out. Ask any police officer the percentage of times this happens and they will give you a number based on their experience. Wouldn’t you think it would be , uhhhhgggg, ZERO?

    One big reason that protection from abuse orders (PFA’s) have very little to moderate weight in a court of law is because a majority of the time they are recinded, filed in haste (usually after a fight which as we know takes 2) filed without cuase, used for custody leverage and so on. Our system errs on the side of caution and some, usually women, choose to abuse that…Irony?

    • Anonymous

      When you are a battered spouse it isn’t just physical, you come to believe that you can not make it on your own – as by now, most of your friends and family have given up on you because you keep going back. Generally a battered spouse has become so isolated from the outside world that they don’t dare to start new.  Many are threatened with their lives or their children’s lives if they leave. They think that they have caused the abuse and that if they just don’t do what made their partner angry, it won’t happen anymore. 

      That is why the system errs on the side of caution. 

  • Nice Headline BDN.  Very helpful

  • in my opinion she is just as guilty and should be arrested as well

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